I'm just about done...

[DLazguy]

I'm just about done with trying to have a bisexual sex life. It is near impossible to find even ONE guy to play with. I'm talking about ONE guy that meets what I'm looking for (attractive, clean, ddf, no pnp, ISN'T fucking everything with a pulse). Most would say that I'm picky. I call them standards.

Any profile of mine basically says that I am "looking for a good looking, discreet, and clean guy". Sometimes I'll add "7+ inches" or "hung". And I'll even add "not into "old" or "obese". I get it, everyone is into whatever they're into. I'm just not into "obese" (5'8", 240 lbs) or someone that's old enough to be my dad. You do you. When my profile says that I want to suck and bottom, I probably don't want my dick sucked. I probably want to get between a good looking guy's legs and take my time worshipping his cock before he fucks me. I'm guessing most guys on these apps can't read by the fact that they send pics of their ass spread open (not attractive) or their belly hanging over their 5" (hard) dick. Another unattractive pic is of guys sitting on a toilet. I get it, everyone has their thing. You sitting on a dirty toilet doesn't do it for me

I'll give it a little more time to find a guy, but if I can't find one, I'll take a break for a few years until my urges increase. Either way, I'm not lowering my standards.

Who else have these issues or do you play with any guy that replies?

[Neonaught]

I agree the search and be daunting but after some years of searching, I now have a small circle of regulars. It just takes a lot of patience and staying with it!

[bikurinpa]

Sadly, Most all on any these male sites seek only random blo n goes and do NOT want anything to do with someone who wants to establish a bonding and trusting friendship. I been looking for years and find it virtually impossible to find any one on any the sites. Your chances are far greater by pure dumb luck that a conversation with a regular every day buddy just happens to lead into it and you find out about eachother then any the sites online.

[4_oral_fun]

That's how it happened for me, pure dumb luck! Trustworthy and discreet. Then he was transferred for work. Oh well, that was 12 years ago. No luck since

[marine20]

sometimes i find a good guy at an ABS , or a bathhouse. but they are usually not long lasting. at least i have fun for the moment. you do what you can do.

[bikurinpa]

sometimes i find a good guy at an ABS , or a bathhouse. but they are usually not long lasting. at least i have fun for the moment. you do what you can do.

No these types are only seeking blo n goes with any one they can. I will not bother with this type and is way too risky for STDs. I want someone who can build a lasting friendship and sex is way more enjoyable

[jem_is_bi]

Your success rate in finding sex on line or otherwise is similar to the lottery. The numbers (personal qualities & physical characteristics) that must be matched determine the probability of winning the money(guy/sex life) you want.
If success eludes you. Consider, minimizing you list of needs characteristics that others need to meet. Otherwise, deal with the fact that you are likely not going to acquire the winning lottery ticket.

jem

[DLazguy]

Your success rate in finding sex on line or otherwise is similar to the lottery. The numbers (personal qualities & physical characteristics) that must be matched determine the probability of winning the money(guy/sex life) you want.
If success eludes you. Consider, minimizing you list of needs characteristics that others need to meet. Otherwise, deal with the fact that you are likely not going to acquire the winning lottery ticket.

jem

I'm not looking to win the entire lottery. It would be nice to get a few winning numbers though. A few numbers would be attractive (I'm not saying model, but not bad to look at), decent body (slim, fit, average), average or bigger cock (I want to really feel it). There are two numbers that I have to have, #1 no pnp or other hard drugs, and #2 not ducking every guy available or going to pump and dumps.
I'm not looking for a romantic relationship. I just want to play with someone who I can trust to not give me an STD.

Winning to entire lottery for me would be fit, attractice, discreet, no drugs, hung (8+, cut and thick), available to play often, and someone who is can trust to fuck me bare.

[Bi-Rõnin]

I'm just about done with trying to have a bisexual sex life. It is near impossible to find even ONE guy to play with. I'm talking about ONE guy that meets what I'm looking for (attractive, clean, ddf, no pnp, ISN'T fucking everything with a pulse). Most would say that I'm picky. I call them standards.

Any profile of mine basically says that I am "looking for a good looking, discreet, and clean guy". Sometimes I'll add "7+ inches" or "hung". And I'll even add "not into "old" or "obese". I get it, everyone is into whatever they're into. I'm just not into "obese" (5'8", 240 lbs) or someone that's old enough to be my dad. You do you. When my profile says that I want to suck and bottom, I probably don't want my dick sucked. I probably want to get between a good looking guy's legs and take my time worshipping his cock before he fucks me. I'm guessing most guys on these apps can't read by the fact that they send pics of their ass spread open (not attractive) or their belly hanging over their 5" (hard) dick. Another unattractive pic is of guys sitting on a toilet. I get it, everyone has their thing. You sitting on a dirty toilet doesn't do it for me

I'll give it a little more time to find a guy, but if I can't find one, I'll take a break for a few years until my urges increase. Either way, I'm not lowering my standards.

Who else have these issues or do you play with any guy that replies?

It's definitely a challenge no matter what you are looking for.
For example, I'm 52, 5'10", 160lbs. I put out ads looking for a top for possible fwb that can host, plays safe, is muscular, heavier than me (5' 8" 240lbs yes please!) Because I dont just want to bottom, i want to physically feel pinned down and powerless when hes on top, thrusting inside me. Seems like the only people I find are 6' 145# / 5' 5" 125#, want me to host/top, or the latest trend. FTM "gay trans men". Not even sure how that vagina's going to fill my ass.
I definitely understand the frustration. At some point I also hope to get to enjoy the bareback aspect

I'd be more than happy to trade types of responder with you!

[Footstep40]

Does anyone belong to any non sexual gay or bisexual social groups? Honestly, on line dating sucks. I have had some success there, nothing really meaningful, or long lasting, but my best experiences have been from meeting guys that were part either the local community that I met in person at a non sexual outing and ended up hooking up with because we connected in some way. I met my husband because he was friends with a friend of mine that I met because of game night hosted by our local bisexual meetup group.
Not sure if this helps, but just my two cents, that finding Mr. Right on line grind, gets tiresome and depressing after awhile.

[DLazguy]

I know exactly what you mean. You post that you are looking for one type of person and the complete opposite is trying to hit you up. I'm looking for attractive, fit, and hung, and those that reply are either unattractive, overweight or far from hung or I get a reply from a guy with a HUGE cock (9+ inches and forearm thick, but he looks like he is dying or starving (6'2", 110 lbs) and is not attractive in the face. I'm open to some give and take. The better looking and fit that the guy is, the smaller his dick can be. I want to play with a dick that I have to work at to fit all of it in my mouth (6.5" or bigger). Also, I'm willing to top if he's really attractive, with a nice, fit, smooth ass. I'm willing to be flexible, but not for the complete opposite (obese, unattractive, micro, pnp, pos, etc.).