Sice question.

**dowmass** · Oct 26, 2024, 9:49 AM

I had a white guy talk to me on Adam4Adam. Very nice guy, 32, polite and out of town traveller.
stays in a hotel (Corporate type)
Great conversation till he share a picture of his dick. It was huge , cut and thick? So what?
It just happens to be 10 inches long, He says he like my ass, wants to get together. He also says he?ll Be very gentle, will use lots of lube and doesn?t mind if he can?t get it fully in.
He did say that his size drove away many nice bottoms.
He?s gay, and has never been with a woman.
He?s very keen but I am a bit scared.

What mould you do if this happened to you?

**chongster** · Oct 26, 2024, 11:18 AM

You never know until you try. But if you can't take it be sure to suck it or get him off somehow, don't leave him without a good cum.

**Footstep40** · Oct 26, 2024, 11:54 AM

I take one about that size every day. Relax, prepare and just enjoy. That being said, be sure that he sticks to his word, goes easy and slow the first time and use lots of lube. You never know, it could be amazing and you two will enjoy yourselves, and you could get hooked on the larger ones like I am.

**dowmass** · Oct 26, 2024, 12:20 PM

Originally Posted by Footstep40

I take one about that size every day. Relax, prepare and just enjoy. That being said, be sure that he sticks to his word, goes easy and slow the first time and use lots of lube. You never know, it could be amazing and you two will enjoy yourselves, and you could get hooked on the larger ones like I am.

I haven’t been with anyone that big n thick.. I was just curious the “relax” part - is that mental or the ass muscles.
Maybe I should just let him go an inch or two at a time till he’s’fully in?
weird as it might sound, I want to enjoy it and done want to disappoint him either.

**KDaddy23** · Oct 26, 2024, 12:42 PM

Just "bend over" and take the dick; it's like if you show fear, the big dick is going to hurt the fuck out of you because it'll make you tense up and make his entry uncomfortable and no matter how much lube is used. The relaxing part is both physical and mental in that if you're afraid that it's gonna hurt, your body is going to respond. Yeah, the first time a guy with a big dick tried getting it in me, I felt like he was ripping me apart and he told me two things: "Just breathe and relax..." and once I let the tension out of my body, I got filled up... then filled to overflowing.

**dowmass** · Oct 26, 2024, 4:04 PM

So the make ass is able to take 10 inches of a hard cock? I mean is the asshole able to take it without a ohysicsl damage?

**Footstep40** · Oct 26, 2024, 4:54 PM

You would be surprised what can go there. Relax your mind and your body. Have a glass or 3 of wine. Bear down while he’s inserting it, that helps, lots of lube, if it hurts, ask him to back off a moment, apply more lube, maybe some fingers. It’s really going to come down to him, and your mental state more than anything. You got this. I’ve been fisted before, DP’d as well. My husband’s dick is just under 10, and thick too, I can stack both hands on his shaft and still see all of the head. Our first time together was a slow and lovely experience. Mentally for me, it had been awhile since I had been with someone who was that well endowed, but he was a true gentleman, and it made a world of difference.

**dowmass** · Oct 26, 2024, 6:26 PM

Originally Posted by Footstep40

You would be surprised what can go there. Relax your mind and your body. Have a glass or 3 of wine. Bear down while he?s inserting it, that helps, lots of lube, if it hurts, ask him to back off a moment, apply more lube, maybe some fingers. It?s really going to come down to him, and your mental state more than anything. You got this. I?ve been fisted before, DP?d as well. My husband?s dick is just under 10, and thick too, I can stack both hands on his shaft and still see all of the head. Our first time together was a slow and lovely experience. Mentally f.

FOOTSTEP40 and everyone here
Thank you so much for the encouragement and motivation.
I am very tight, and haven?t been fucked for years now. From what I feel, this 32 year old is a nice guy, and knows what a bottom would feel with a 10 inch cock. He said that he?d be very gentle and not to worry. I guess it?s now just for me to open up and let him slide.
I just hope I don?t get addicted to large cocks because he?s just a visitor and finding a dick in dallas otherwise is very difficult.

**Footstep40** · Oct 26, 2024, 8:28 PM

Love that! I think you’re going to have a wonderful time. Nothing wrong with enjoying a larger fellow, I’ve found it’s much easier to have that “elusive” prostate o.
Dallas is hard? That befuddles me!

**dowmass** · Oct 26, 2024, 10:45 PM

Originally Posted by Footstep40

Love that! I think you?re going to have a wonderful time. Nothing wrong with enjoying a larger fellow, I?ve found it?s much easier to have that ?elusive? prostate o.
Dallas is hard? That befuddles me!

Things have changed over the last 12 years since I moved here.
in the days of CL, within 10 minutes of posting, there would be 10-12 tops ready to fuck. No more.
also my own opinion is that there?s more discrimination against older people, people of color etc.
Almost impossible for a bottom to get laid.

**remington12369** · Oct 27, 2024, 2:18 AM

It's both mental and physical.but with practice it gets to be more physical. You will learn how to relax the inner sphincter. Get a moderate plug or dildo and get your mind and body used to it. Once you fully relax there is no pain only pleasure! Good luck!

**dowmass** · Oct 27, 2024, 12:03 PM

Originally Posted by remington12369

It's both mental and physical.but with practice it gets to be more physical. You will learn how to relax the inner sphincter. Get a moderate plug or dildo and get your mind and body used to it. Once you fully relax there is no pain only pleasure! Good luck!

Thats a very good idea to try out a dildo and get the sphincter to get used to it.
i am closeted and i wish I could try doing that.
I guess I have to take a chance and go for the real one.

**BigAlNYC** · Oct 27, 2024, 4:15 PM

If he's experienced he will know how to take it slow and give it to you easy. I wish I could go through my first time with a big one again. I remember being scared, but the guy knew what he was doing, took it slow but sensed when to push it too. It turned into one of the great sexual experiences of my life, which I still think about often. I enjoyed it so much after a while that I was screaming (in a good way). I wanted it again and was ready to get fucked faster and harder by the morning. Since then I have taken several 8" or more.

**Gregshaw** · Oct 27, 2024, 6:53 PM

You could take control of how far & how fast he enters you by sitting on his cock. A Seated Reverse Cowboy would be best where he sits on a chair & you sit on his cock facing away. Your pretty much 100% in control. Also +1 on all the suggestions of trying a dildo. And TBH I bet you've had some turds that have been just as big & you ain't ruined for life, so you'd be surprised what's possible. I've had some real horse cocks recently, it just takes time & lube.

**dowmass** · Oct 27, 2024, 7:23 PM

Originally Posted by Gregshaw

You could take control of how far & how fast he enters you by sitting on his cock. A Seated Reverse Cowboy would be best where he sits on a chair & you sit on his cock facing away. Your pretty much 100% in control. Also +1 on all the suggestions of trying a dildo. And TBH I bet you've had some turds that have been just as big & you ain't ruined for life, so you'd be surprised what's possible. I've had some real horse cocks recently, it just takes time & lube.

Great advice.
For many reasons, It has been years since I bottomed. The last guy had an 8 inch cock -,not very thick. He knew that I was tght and every couple of minutes, he would ask me if I was okay. This guy says he?d be gentle, and maybe he is.
From a functional stand point - the cowboy position makes sense, but once I am on his divk, with the lube, is is really possible to control how deep I go? I am not fat but not rite either. Hence this question.

**BackyardShaman** · Oct 27, 2024, 7:40 PM

I’ve never taken one that big myself but I love to be fucked. I’m also very tight, but from what you’ve said about him I think if it was me I would try receiving anal sex from him. I have taken a very wide guy that went slowly and it was great. Be sure to remember to push out against him with your butt muscle and it’ll go in easier.

**Tarz1986** · Oct 27, 2024, 7:54 PM

I remember the first and only time I took a big cock. I was eating out his girlfriend while he took me doggy style. It hurt a little at first but I got used to it. It was fun but I had some pain for a couple of months when I sat in certain chairs. It was transitory and lasted for about 5minutes before it went away.