Sexuality

[IDunnoMan]

So I know everyone has there likes and dislikes and reasons, but I've noticed I'm in the minority as far as m2m sex goes. What I mean is I love giving head and swallowing and a little bit of being a bottom but I do not find the male form attractive at all. I an definitely not into kissing or topping or getting sucked by men. Trans women on the other hand I will top all dayand when it comes to romantic relationships I can see myself with a genetic woman or trans woman.

Now I know based on this I can't call myself 100% straight and honestly it doesn't bother me. I'm just curious if anyone here feels the same way?

[Jazminedress]

there are more feelings and attractions than most of us can count.

When dressed male, men do nothing for me, when dressed as a female, I can find attractiveness in a male................so yeah

[Pinktoes]

I am attracted to one thing, and one thing only in a man. His cock. Other than that, i find guys kind of a turn off to look at sexually, but if I can just concentrate on the dick, I am in heaven.

[IDunnoMan]

Yeah same.

[colfax129]

Totally the same. No interest in men. Only sucking cock.

[colfax129]

I absolutely love women. But, also love sucking a nice, cut cock.

[biguycancun]

While I don't objectify the male form, when I am in bed with a man I have no objection to kissing and feeling body contact. It's all part of the physical act of fucking. So if I'm with a woman or a trans woman, nothing changes. It's the overall physicality of the process. Tongue twirling, buttocks stroking, my dick in your mouth, your dick in mine, my finger up your ass, yours up mine, you in me, me in you, rubbing your clit, rubbing my dick, it's all the same (to me, at least).

[KDaddy23]

One of the things I learned was that if you can do it to and with a woman, you can do it with a guy, too. I'm not a fan of kissing and cuddling but I not only know how to, but I have done it. The kissing thing is just a personal quirk of mine and one that I know I shouldn't have but I do and, again, I can deal with it. I can appreciate a guy's looks but I... don't much care about that because his looks aren't important - but what's going on in his head and how he is as person is important and, really, if I'm sucking his dick, I'm not going to be looking at him all that much. I know it's all about knowing how to have sex... with anyone, male or female. Which is why I love being bisexual so much because the possibilities are endless. You wanna kiss and cuddle? Okay, not my cup of tea... but I can do it and with the best of them; I don't like it but I'm not afraid of it because it makes zero sense to be afraid of it.

Personal preference and all that. It just proves that as bisexual men, we are really not all that same...

[Jozyxt]

I have become more and more attracted to men since I suscked my first cock. I don;lt really have a body type I like, I just want my hands on a man. I like kissing and sucking nipples.

Most guys I hook up with are cock only types and it is difficult to find guys that want to be gently handsy. I also like speaking about my liking a man's body, but that is even harder to find reciprocation in a partner.

[hung4you]

Both my wife and I love sucking and swallowing cock, but neither of us are into kissing other men or woman. Like me I will drain your balls and she will as well but for some reason kissing is,off limits.

[Ganesha]

Well, my gal loves to kiss other gals, and I permit her that.

[Neonaught]

I've always been attracted to the beauty of both sexes since I was a teen. My bi wife and I are both just a bit more attracted to the opposite sex.

[nu2curious]

It's the cock that matters.

[dicktrobing]

I'm not attracted to men, I enjoy sex with men which includes kissing. Kissing is a powerful human thing which to me feel perfectly natural when 2 people are having sex

[tenni]

nu2curious
The cock certainly has a role/position in my experiences. I'm not really into penetration but I will do it as part of being a top. Sensual touching and kissing are the importan. Also just hanging naked, nip and other sensual love making add to things. I'm not really into making out with strangers but I have in the past.

I see "being attracted to men" valid. The attraction is different than with a woman. The big head and communicating are also part of my sexuality.

[stonebow]

if you can do it to and with a woman, you can do it with a guy, too.

I've told many a potential male bedmate the same thing, when they've asked what I'm into. I've been deligheted to find guys who are really good kissers. When I'm on my back, arms and legs around a guy and his cock deep inside me.....it would feel really odd to NOT kiss him in that moment. Same for cuddlng.....after you've both had a really good fuck and your spent, laying each other's arms and talking seems only natural. As to the question of overall attraction, I can certainly appreciate the looks of a George Clooney or Jamie Fox but does that translate into wanting to fuck them at first sight?......not always. There are very few men who I've looked at and thought....."I'd do him!"

[eager4cum]

at the risk of sounding like a broken record, I agree with a lot of you. I like guys as friends but have no interest in guys as "lovers" or anal of any kind, giving or receiving.

But when it comes to the cock, I love cock, love to suck on a nice hard cock and love cum and love swallowing cum.

[BiVers240]

It's all about the cock for me. I don't find guys attractive but any guy I am going to play with has to be physically fit. I enjoy making out with guys - kissing, caressing and the like. I am just an insatiable horndog, I guess.

[phalluster]

Another vote for all about the cock. To me men sucking each other off is so obviously normal. Men are into sex and getting off, and although some want a personal connection I think almost all men are satisfied just getting hard and cumming.

[Tight1-4u]

I must admit that I was one that just seen men as just cock.. never thought of them as sexy or cute or really anything else, just the cock put it in me and cum in me thank you very much..
but then I realized that some of these guys I really liked being around them.. I enjoyed them touching me,, I enjoyed feeling them close to me..
I remember the first time a guy kissed me.. I thought it was weird really weird.. then he fucked me for a little while like 45 minutes and spun me around and really kissed me again ie: French kissed me and for some reason I noticed my cock getting really hard.. wow!! Wtf?? So just for kicks and giggles I kissed him back like really put effort into kissing him back.. he responded and we kissed and made out for like 5 minutes.. I was rock hard.. I was turned on and wanted him to fuck me some more.. like I wanted him bad.. that night after he was done and I had time to process what had happened I was still confused what had happened.. I mean I liked the guy and sex with the guy but had never been that turned on with or by him.. so the next time I was with him we started out kissing and making out and the result was the same, I got very turned on and wanted, needed him to fuck me.. so I started exploring with other guys and found the same results.. then a few months later I was at the mall sitting having coffee with two lady friends that knew I liked sex with men.. they were teasing me pointing out guys and commenting on how sexy this guy was and that guy has a nice ass and how it would be sexy to be naked with him.. when I started looking at men the way they did I discovered that it was very erotic to people watch.. I still to this day get very turned on out in public looking at men.. the one gal told me and it has stuck with me to this day ( A DIRTY MIND SHOULD NOT BE WAISTED ) and it is true.. you should look at life and those around you and get turned on by them!!! It is way more fun to be turned on!!!

[SilkyHoseLover]

When dressed male, men do nothing for me, when dressed as a female, I can find attractiveness in a male................so yeah

Yeah, that's pretty much the way I am, too. But I'll throw in a couple of variations:

* When I'm dressed as my male self and in the presence of another man, there's no attraction. If it happens -- and it has -- that we find ourselves both in the nude, there's no real attraction, but I will happily suck his cock or enjoy being fellated, myself.
* When dressed as female, there's still no palpable attraction to the male, even if we're getting together to have sex. What I feel is a strong desire to be treated as a woman by the man, and pleasure him in any way possible. And that includes cuddling and kissing, in addition to any oral and/or anal activities that may take place.
* With other gurls, there's a definite attraction, because I'm able to temporarily suspend the reality that this is a man that I find appealing and sexually desirable. I think I like gurls the best!

I'm finished with labels. I like what I like. Call it what you will, but please maintain appropriate respect.

[Naked69]

I agree with most of your comments. For me, I am just as comfortable with both sexes, but I find men to be less complicated. I too am not into kissing but I really enjoy feeling his skin, all of his skin. I like to use all of my scenes and so enjoy his smell like armpits. Poor hygiene, aside, is disgusting. There is something to be said about descent looks, and yes it's his cock I'm after, but he still has to make a good first impression. Let's say your in a supermarket looking for bananas. (Excuse the comparison) There are 2 left, one is very yellow with many dark spots, the other is slightly green with smooth flawless skin. Which one are you going to buy? For me first appearances tell me a lot about a person.

[KDaddy23]

It's not always about where your interests lie or attraction or whatever preferences you have: It's all about why you're bi in the first place and if you know why you are the way you are and you're 100% okay with being this way, then being comfortable with it is fine and dandy. It's okay to only be attracted to the sex - but so many of us tend to roll our eyes on this one and cite that being attracted to the guy is mandated - but if you only and really get turned on when homey pulls his dick out for you, then it is what it is - and how many of us have found out that just because it looks good doesn't mean that it is good? I know I did so looks stopped meaning something to me... but what's up with your desire, hmm? I've had sex with guys who are uglier than the original sin... but their desire to please and be pleased has made for some of the best sex I've had with men - because guys like this have to try harder than their good-looking counterparts.

We're not all the same. We all don't like the same things, nor do we all do the same things. You have to first be comfortable in your skin and being something that you're not supposed to be; then you have to learn how to be comfortable with whatever you do as you set what you like in men and what you can't stand - and the "problem" here is that once we get that on lockdown, we're not of a mind to change our minds, like the kissing guys things. I really don't like it because women said it right: Guys are lousy kissers. But I had to teach myself that not all guys are lousy kissers and admit to myself that there have been times that I not only wanted to kiss a guy, it got me seriously turned on... but I don't do it as a matter of course.

Just like I had to get over my angst with uncut dicks. It galls the shit out of me that I didn't suck my first one until I was 50 - and seeing one now still gives me the creeps but I got comfortable really quick so yeah, if you're uncut, I will suck your soul right out of you - but I had to learn to get comfortable. But I've pretty much always been comfortable with my bisexuality because it's not what I do: It's why I am the way I am and knowing this that gives me such great comfort and provided it before I was a teenager.

[Bi_Dave]

I'm basically like you. I like cocks...that's it. I don't kiss or rim. I don't think men are sexy. I just lick sucking cock. I had an older brother who interduced me to it at maybe age 8 or 9. No fucking, just giving him a blow job. He used to slather up between my legs with spit and fuck me that way, (which I really enjoyed), but only one try in the ass and no more. It hurt too much and neither were trained in anything. I still love women and pussy. It's a little less messy sucking a cock. I had all my teeth removed when I retired so I could gum suck. Guys like that. I love eating a nice pussy. I never had a trans. I'm in Sarasota, FL...where are you?
Dave

[chongster]

It depends on the guy. I find young smooth guys attractive sometimes. I have one friend that comes to mind in his early 30s, he has an ass any women would be proud to have, dark smooth skin and a very nice big cock. He's versatile but always a bottom when he's with me. I have kissed him, rimmed and fucked his beautiful ass bareback, sucked his cock and swallowed his cum.

[phalluster]

Like many men, I'm all about the cock. I really have no interest in kissing a man and I actually find it quite a turn-off. But I think a man sucking another mans cock is about the most purely male thing a man can do.
My way of thinking about it is that there is a difference between gay men and homosexual men. Gay men are into romantic attraction to other men; homosexuals are what the term means - people having sex with people of the same sex. For most on this forum, it means homosexual men.
Do others see that distinction?

[KDaddy23]

I think those of us who are still getting pussy wouldn't want to be lumped in with homosexual - or gay - men. The two words are synonymous with each other and have been. Not all gay men are into romantic attraction and there's a danger in generalizing things like this. Sure: Guys sucking each other off is purely a guy thing - just boys being boys. Nothing to see here, move along or get your dick out because you could be next. I don't see it as a distinction; it sounds too much like how people see bisexual men as homosexual men because we can have sex with men and conveniently overlook the fact that we still have our affinity - love, desire, etc. - for women.

[MNBiGuy]

Im very dominent with women and love them, young or old love eating ass and more

but with certain types of men I'm a submissive whore

[elian2]

Our minds just love to label and classify everything right? We are purpose built to make judgements - in the early days it made a lot of sense for survival -- "Eeek, a Tiger!! Run!"

Very FEW things in nature are TRULY black -or- white .. they are usually somewhere in between.

Instead of having 30 discrete labels for every nuance of human relationship I think it would be a lot more helpful to have a sliding scale for things such as platonic love, romantic attraction, physical attraction, sexual attraction, gender expression, etc.

There is such SHAME around all of these things if you don't meet the norms -- but yet I know that ALL people have messed around a little bit, especially when you are flooded with hormones -- otherwise how do you find out what you really prefer? Some people don't I guess, and then they end up having some issues later in life.

I've always known that I like males, and I'm more submissive, but I'm not into being humiliated about it.

There were a few females I loved deeply and a few I would have loved to be physical but at that time in their lives they seemed like they could use a friend more than a lover. I never regretted "being a friend" but it sure was lonely.

I'm not thrilled to admit it, but I'm still not confident with women -- growing up in a single mother household I learned to view women more like sisters -- who wants to have sex with your sister?? And I saw my mom's insecure boyfriends abuse women badly .. They cheated on her, beat her over the head, would get angry and throw shit, get drunk and pass out .. it really hurt when I was too young and couldn't do anything to stop that ..

For a long time I hated men, and I didn't WANT to "dominate" women - these are the ridiculous stereotypes we're all raised with.

Nature laughed in my face -- "Not so fast .." as much I wanted to write them off completely I was romantically and physically attracted to males .. It was a strong fantasy during my teen years that I would find like one DECENT guy who really wanted me, that would shield me from all of that garbage in my life.

I guess I would normally tell my parents what I was going through right? But you can't -- people don't want to even knowledge that sex exists, let alone "being gay" -- and my folks each seemed preoccupied with their own crap anyway.

I was lucky to find some decent male role models later in life that showed me the stereotypes were bullshit, they were compassionate, empathetic AND strong -- they used their strength to lift people up, rather than tear them down. They made me feel a lot better about having a penis. I never thought I would heal, but I mostly am -- I just bring it up when people ask questions about history or preference to try and get them to understand where I'm coming from -- that there's no such thing as a "perfect" life?

Ultimately I would love it if everyone had as healthy, positive experience around sex and relationships as they can instead of everything always having to be so taboo all the time .. I wasted so much time and energy worrying about all this crap. it drives me crazy to see folks shamed and hiding something as basic as who they love.

[Sundazzled]

On the whole, I guess I agree with much of what you wrote, but not with everything

I thoroughly love performing oral sex on a guy oes when the mood is exactly right, but I have no particular interest in reciprocation. I also love cock-to-cock play, and mutual masturbation. I've bottomed for a friend a half dozen times, but truth be told, anal sex isn't my favorite m2m activity. A buddy has repeatedly asked me to top him, but I have less than no interest in that. Similarly, the thought of kissing another guy is downright disgusting.

I guess it's a bit paradoxical, but as much as I find m2m sex play gratifying, it's always just good old fashioned recreational, get-'er-done sex. It's two guys helping one another accomplish something they'd probably do by themselves anyway. We may share a special friendship, but romance never enters the equation. I could never be in love with another guy.

Unlike you, however, I find the nude male figure very alluring. Okay, not every man excited me, but some mostly certainly do. I suppose my appreciation of the male body stems from being a practicing nudist and naturist for well over half my life. Sometimes my buddy, Dave, and I will hang out nude all afternoon and evening on his deck, in his hot tub and around his secluded yard. Got an older guy, he's got a gorgeous, sexy body, and I can barely take my eyes off of it -- any part of it. Dave has an absolutely gorgeous cock. I enjoy looking at it flaccid or erect, and yearn for the opportunity to touch it.