I've heard both terms used among experienced people. . . both mean the same thing, basically. So that's kind of a lame aspersion to cast. And Mountaincat (no newbie to the lifestyle, she) stated she was familiar with the author of the articles work. I think it prolly takes a lot of experience and good reputation to get some sort of recognition in the LBGT community of any progressive city in the US, so ... ragging on Mistress Mattisse's experience, and you are. . .?
My own experience and the experience of others directly contradict what you're saying. Friendship is important and not some "str8 standard". It's a human standard. Friendship prevents people from being treated like meat once the clothes are off. My current female friend is married, and because all 3 of us have gone out and spent time together, the idea of a 3some with her husband is not one I'd turn away. He's not a total hottie, he's close to my age and not a pushy person. She doesn't need to know that yet, though.
Before that, I've played twice with couples. The first time... there was no friendship and the guy tried to slip it in me even after the rules were set. The second time. . .the woman and I were friends and her boyfriend listened and paid attention.
Maybe there is a reason the why the relationships you've had haven't developed into true poly relationships...the fact that you can't even concede that maybe some couples ARE the problem is a perfect illustration of the author's point.
I smell some projection and denial here.
*Taylor*
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