I once had a discussion with a friend who believed that a person's tendency towards being monogamous or poly was as much a part of that person as their sexual orientation. It was something that I had never considered. I had always thought of it as a conscious decision: that a person decides weather or not they will be with only one partner or many.
Since then I've discovered that I am a poly person. Society as a whole looks on non-monogamy as being a character flaw, a sin, and/or morally wrong. As I have come to accept myself as a poly person, I am much more at peace with myself.
In the past I would have said that a person who isn't monogamous has commitment issues. This couldn't be further from the truth. I've learned that "commitment" means different things to different people. It can mean "I promise to love you and support you in your life as you promise to love and support me." And not just "I promise that I will not love anyone but you."
My question is this: As a bisexual person, do you consider yourself as monogamous or polyamorous? Or are you a poly person who is in a monogamous relationship? Just curious.
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