I don't like the word 'bi-curious', I'm not sure why but to me it seems to give the idea you can choose to be bisexual, like it's possible to get interested in it and suddenly become bisexual, like getting interested in a new hobby for example, but the fact remains I don't really know what it means.
Wikipedia defines someone who's bicurious as 'having a sexual orientation, behavior, or self-identification, which is close to but not quite entirely heterosexual or homosexual.' and goes on to give several more detailed definitions but they weren't very helpful.
A lot of people seem to use it to describe someone that has feelings for both men and women but haven't had experience with both, but I don't like the way it's used in that way because it breaks bisexual down into being about behaviour rather than feelings. You're not 'straight-curious' until you've slept with someone of the same sex if you're straight, or 'gay-curious' if you're gay but haven't slept with anyone.
I haven't had any experience with either sex but I still very much count myself as bisexual because I know who I'm attracted to, whenever anyone asks me how I can know I'm bi when I've not had any experience I feel like asking them if they want me to draw them a diagram to help them out. To me bisexual means being attracted to both sexes, simple as that, and has nothing to do with behaviour, and the term 'bi-curious' very much comes across as 'confused' or 'basically straight or gay but interested in a few kinky experiences'.
But anyway, anyone want to enlighten me as to what it actually means? Can anyone give a definition everyone could agree on? Or explain at least what bicurious means to them or why you might choose to label yourself as such??
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