OK, this is kind of a mix of several on-going topics right now ("not into orientation labels" and "Savage Love: I Don't want to say I'm Bisexual"), but I thought it might be deserving of its own thread.
While I'm certainly all for calling yourself whatever you find most appropriate in terms of orientation labels - and if that means calling yourself "bi", you let your actions show that your not just some straight heavy-drinker.
But what about the labels you don't necessarily get to give yourself? I mean the things that people think they know about you just by looking at you: your gender, race/ethnicity, disability status, etc.
If you never tell anyone that you're bisexual, they have less opportunity to judge you (for good or for bad) on that front. But it's much less likely someone's going to come up to you and say "Now, you look female/ black/whatever, but are you really?" No, they're going to make an assumption and treat you according to what stereotypes, judgements they already have. It's only if you tell them (and everyone you meet) that it might be otherwise...
But so my question is to those of us who don't fit the common stereotypes given to our outward appearance, be it our gender, race or anything else.
Do you similarly wait to let your actions show that, while you might belong to a certain group, you aren't like the other people who are also in this group? (though these actions may be ignored once someone has already shoved you into a stereotype)
Do you go about actively correcting people as much as possible?
Do you find it harder to deal with these labels, since you have so much less control over them?
Or do you identify with a different group, avoiding the more negative label?
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