Michigan_cpl

I have experienced this before, and I think a big part of the problem is expectations. Some couples (but very few) understand the dynamic (more like swinging than they think), where a bi-male joins a couple and expects to play with both the man and woman. I've met a few couples that "got it", but many don't. It comes down to being jealous, or somehow thinking that a guy would be content to only play with the man, despite being bi. Sometimes the encounter also suffers from a lack of communication too. I enjoyed a wonderful afternoon with a couple, and I ended up having sex with the wife, despite spending much time sucking him as she sucked me. He sucked me as well, but I ended up having intercourse with her. Now, in a perfect world, he would have jumped in and fed us both his dick as we screwed, maybe cleaned her up when I was done, or took pics or videos. We actually parted friendly, until he e-mailed and accused me of "being one of those guys who will suck a dick to get to a man's wife...". Well, none of this was outlined, she seemed to enjoy it, and everyone played with everyone. It seems despite my saying "lets do it again and you can fuck me, or I'll fuck you...or we can meet without her", he still came away thinking I'm not truly a bi guy and that offended me. In the past, I have played with men, women and couples. I live a normal married life, but when I can, I prefer to play with couples (for lots of reasons) but am really bi.

NOW: What do YOU consider a "true bi" person to be ? Are swingers a different category with different rules ?

Have only been with a couple once before. Had met the husband a few years back and he and I had only done oral and JO, but he broached wife about threesome and she said yes. She didn't know about her husband and I playing and after I ate her out after we both fucked her I mentioned how I loved the taste of cum in her pussy. She said I should try it right off the dick and I had to pretend it was first time I ever sucked a dick.She said same thing to hubby. After that, all bets where off and we spent the rest of the time doing threesomes in all different combinations. I guess best way to gauge if bi is that I really don't know which one I enjoyed more.[FONT=Comic Sans MS][/FONT]

Almost had a couple, but at the last minute she backed out. He mostly wanted to see her hubby get sucked, but i wanted a threesome and with me being down in the middle when he shoots so that I can get the load from him and her.I will keep on looking.

We have two problems here: (1) trying to find men who are truly bi and (2) not knowing a bi guy when you see one. With respect to finding men who are truly bi, I suggest following (I didn't come up with this), start by having the two guys get together without the woman. The woman - wife or girl friend of one of the guys - gets involved only when the two guys have got something going. What can anyone say about a guy who doesn't know your bi when you suck his cock, fuck his wife, and have he and his wife suck your cock? That right there is a pretty good description of bisex all the way around. A mystery to me.
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I'm really for the day when I can satisfy both, male and female. I prefer doing it while he cums and she is getting filled. oh what a time that would be.

I was in a bi sexual relationship for 1 1/2. It's hard though to find truly bi men. I'm in a relationship now with a guy and do miss being bi. He's not having it !

I'm still trying to figure out if I'm Bi or str8 that plays? I just in the past two years started getting BJ's from guys now I swap. The last guy I was with kissed me and topped me. I have a GF that is really turned on with this but heres the deal. I have never really looked at a man and said WOW he's hot. But women drive me crazy.

Define "True Bisexual." When I joined this site, one of the things I did was answer the approximation of what kind of bisexual I am. I strongly favor women over men but still call myself bisexual. In the Heterosexual–homosexual continuum (see below) no one fits in any "True" or universally accepted definition of what bisexuality is. There are dozens of pigeon hole classifications one can call themselves within the bisexual world but one is no more "True" than the other.

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I would just like to have the enjoyment of having fun sex. I favor women, but also like being with guys. I think just being nude and freely enjoy sucking and kissing and jerking, it all is great. I know feeling the softness of a women's body is always a turn-on, and so is going down and eating the nectar from her is very sexual. The hot time is when you feel your male partner getting ready to cum, the sound, the pumping and then ahhhh the result in your mouth. I believe in fun.

thank you all for you kinds words, i will try alot of the advise and see what happens, once again thank you all.

I think part of the problem is the bi ness can be a bit of a like ness guage as well. A husband may appeal more, or the wife might. And a person might hunger more for almond joys or mounds a little more on any given day.

Also, a person may feel more top or a little more bottom with any given person.

I find many men claim a female that suddenly can't attend if a meeting is attempted.

I've chatted with men who use the wife as a bargaining chip also..

To sum it up: tastes vary, people can be selfish, people can lie, or people can be generous to a fault. Can't meet total strangers without finding some of each.

Sure wish I could find a couple like you close to home. I am totally Bi, and if with a couple, would only be "interested" in her if it was mutually desired. I would love to play a guy as his woman watches and coaches us, directing us what to do, etc. Hot...very hot!

[QUOTE=Bisexual Explorer;bt49]We have two problems here: (1) trying to find men who are truly bi and (2) not knowing a bi guy when you see one. With respect to finding men who are truly bi, I suggest following (I didn't come up with this), start by having the two guys get together without the woman. The woman - wife or girl friend of one of the guys - gets involved only when the two guys have got something going. What can anyone say about a guy who doesn't know your bi when you suck his cock, fuck his wife, and have he and his wife suck your cock? That right there is a pretty good description of bisex all the way around. A mystery to me.
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There are some issues in bisexuality in the couple format, and with this formula: There are plenty of guys that entice you as "a couple" online, then "she got cold feet" or "she wants us guys to get together first" or some such excuse....

Look, I get some scenarios where the woman wants to watch her man with another man, some people need or want that. Lets all meet for a drink or coffee, and make me feel ok that she's on-board, but not ready to participate. How about when all the dialogue is about and with what you assume to be a couple, then the rug gets pulled out from under you ? It's a pain.

The same weirdness ensues with a couple online. He's listed as straight, but messages you to "fool around"..."she's bi, doesn't know I am too"...I get it, but why post as "a couple" and if she's open minded enough to be bi, can't you tell her you are too ? Lets all play straight, and have fun, then maybe I'll meet you another time to play man on man...?

The other way to spin this is when I meet a couple who wants a "real bi male" and the men enjoy themselves with the woman watching, joining, and getting off, and then sometimes things happen between me and the woman....and I'm accused of being "a guy who'd suck dick to fuck somebody's wife"...I've played bi since I was 15 with men, women and couples. These people maybe simply didn't establish the ground rules (if there were any), and her was upset when nature and passion took it's course. I don't want his wife (one is enough and I love my wife), but my experiences had always been with couples where anything goes.....

There are a lot of game players out there, for sure. Many men post themselves as bi, when - at best - they are bi curious. Never quite understood what that means. When I do find someone who can legitimately prove they are bi, I'm very interested. Good Luck, All. Remember: if you're in a bar, and a naked person walks up to you and says "I love you," they MAY NOT be telling the truth!

I have played a lot with couples in the past, and also encountered 'Curious' guys who advertise as a couple, but these are all just people aren't they, you never know what they're really like or what their motives are unless you spend some time with them. When you enter into a relationship with a couple you're muscling in on an existing dynamic, several that I have known have broken down due to one or the other not being able to handle the emotional side. Typical of this were Terry & June, he was a big chunky marine, she was a voluptuous gypsy type, both in their 40's. We had a good relationship for a few months, I used to give each of them equal attention being careful not to favour one over the other, but eventually he became embittered because he thought I was getting too 'close' to his wife, and truly I wasn't. I would have earnest post-coital chats with each of them equally (with a bit of kissing and cuddling naturally), while the other was showering or making tea, but he ended up in tears one day and brought the arrangement to a close. I think the baggage he carried made him insecure. Just goes to show that whatever you take into a relationship could still be there when you come out of it.
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