I think i'm gay?....

[Giggles100]

Thing is since i acknowledged my bisexuality iv almost "forgotten" about women in the sexual/relationship sense.

I don't even look at women anymore in the street or at a club.....

When i think of my next relationship its always a guy and never a girl.....

Its like now iv gotten rid of my internal homophobia iv realised that i probably never liked girls all along. I remember one relationship with a girl i had and whenever we had sex she was like "wow" and i was like "did i leave the oven on".....

The more i think about it the more gay actually feels more right than bi .

What do you guys think?...

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

I think you've got to stop worrying about it so much, and just start being You. :]
Pecks,
Cat

[12voltman59]

I'd have to echo Cat--at this point---why say you are either one way or the other----if all you had was one relationship with one female--it could have been that you and she were not a good match afterall and you can hardly make any determination from that one relationship how you do feel about being in relationships with ladies.

And just because at this point you only want to be with other guys doesn't necessarily mean that much----from my own experience with bisexuality and from others say---our desires for either gender tends to change over time.

I know that for the past few years--I had mainly been interested in only doing things with other guys but that is now changing again and I would really like to find myself another lady once again and cut back doing stuff with other guys.

I'd say--at this point--don't make a judgement either way. Just "go with the flow!"

[BiPhone]

Well, for many men they start out bisexual and eventually feel gay. Thats a reason why many gay say we don´t exist. Thats not to say that you are gay but if you feel gay than be gay and if you get turned on by women again then we will welcome you back with open arms.

Im in a relationship with a woman who is okay with me doing stuff with guys. And since Im new to this OF COURSE men are more exciting for me right now than the sex I have had since my teens. Its new! Its a little dirty! Its masculine! Im not worried about this since I love my girl and even though the sex isnt that exciting its still great sex and with a person I love

[darkeyes]

If ya r ya r Gigsy.. but Voltie an Cat r rite.. jus b yasel an wy label? Its not compulsory...

[tenni]

Giggles
As the others have written just take your time and enjoy yourself with guys right. I will admit that from your posts here, I could tell that you were focusing more on guys right now. That is ok as people say that it may be an ebb and flow scenario.

One question for you though is "Have you ever been in love"?...with a woman?....with a man? If you haven't that doesn't mean that much but if you have ever really been in love with a woman...you're bi. Even if you prefer to muck about with another guy if you have really felt a deep love of a woman, you are more than likely bi. If not, you have the chance now to just relax and enjoy guys. If you fall for a guy and never desire the same thing with a woman, then you are probably gay. Never shut the door completely though as a life is a long time and who knows which way your wind will blow at different times in our life.

[snakkie]

i can say that your story is very similiar to mine.
but i had a moment that i was almost admiting that i was gay, until i felt a great attraction to a friend (girl) of mine. But is very very rare compared to guys.

I say that im continuing searching for a "perfect" soul of the opposite sex, i think that if i find someone that i connect to i will feel attraction etc etc

I kind a believe that even if someone is "gay", he can choose to have a life with a women and love her.

[tenni]

I agree with Pasa. Hornedup writes in a stereotypical language (ie Queen) and has a political perspective that inhibits his views to a narrow perspective.

Giggles, if you prefer being with men do it. I think that you are not the type of person that Hornedup is regardless of your sexual preference. I doubt that Giggles will adhere to the poltically gay agenda. He seems to be too much of an individualist to conform to any agenda other than his own...

[12voltman59]

HornedUpRam joins my ever growing list of ignored names--many of these iggied names seem to share at least one common traiit--a compound pattern to the structure of the name--and there are others---pretty troll like to me!!!

[Giggles100]

Oh my god i'm so sorry for causing an argument .

I'm really confused at the moment. I really do "feel" gay and when it came up in conversation with someone today i actually identified as gay .

I don't know what hornedupram wants me to be? I thought gay/bi were broadly similar apart from the obvious..... I just feel like my identity just is not really bi thats all .

I'm freaked out now? Is being gay that different to bi?

[mikey3000]

Not at all. It's cool if you're gay, it's cool if you're not. Many bi's are in exclusive homosexual realtionships, and many "gays" have sex with the opposite sex too.

You identify how you feel and what works best for you. I know since I came out, I'm leaning towards the gay side more, but I'm still attracted to women and get very aroused by the vagina. This gay side of me is still new too and rather exciting. Eventually I'll find where I am on the scale. Could be tomorrow, could be in 30 years. Who cares. I'm just being me.

What evey you decide, just be happy.

[12voltman59]

OMG!!!!!! We have another one!!!! Does this person or these persons ever give it up?????

[rissababynta]

OMG!!!!!! We have another one!!!! Does this person or these persons ever give it up?????

Holy shit dude, I just thought the same thing lmfao.

[BLCHGK777]

OMG!!!!!! We have another one!!!! Does this person or these persons ever give it up?????

And now that I have read the post this little snip seems similar to a post made by another troll like member

What planet are you living on? I have never met any actual homosexual or gay men who after coming out and identifying as a gay man actually sleeps with a woman or continues to even if they did in the past.

As I've heard from lots of gay men about how gross they find pussy and never want to have sex with women again and how when they were younger and closeted about being gay that sex with women was just something to do and they didn't really like it at all and found sex with women to be downright boring compared to sex with men, which makes sense since they're gay men.

Someone else made this statement about gay men saying pussy is gross only in another thread maybe it was you (IwannaFUCKALLNIGHT) but I am too lazy to look for it.

You’re either gay, straight, bisexual, or asexual. There are no other choices out there.

I am going to be nit picky and say yeah there is it's called pansexuality

The “Stop labeling people” cries and chants are pure bull. Human beings put everything in boxes and labels them. It’s what we do as humans. And it’s not a bad thing.

Without labels, we really couldn’t see how diverse a people we really are.

Uhh they didn't say stop labeling entirely they were making the point of stop fitting yourself in a box because sexuality is fluid and he might regain feelings for females. Also just because some people put other people in boxes doesn't mean you have to put yourself in one that's the same philosophy as "They jumped off a building so I shall do it to" . Labels is why the world is so damn divided so don't you give people that bull you talk about in a different form.

[Darkside2009]

Ach! Giggles, Giggles, Giggles, last week you thought you were a fire engine. You'll get over it, stop obsessing so much and just relax and enjoy.