Why are you here? Why have you stayed?

[**Peg**]

.... I wish I could say it was like having friends, but really all you get are very limited and mostly imaginary exchanges with only the type of person whose social life is so lacking that they hunch over a computer instead of being with people in the flesh. Men cruise for sexual opportunities, seeking relief from women's emotional demands; women cruise for emotional support, seeking relief from men's sexual demands. The best of both worlds is not to be had online.....

I have to disagree with some of your generalizations. Perhaps YOU get only "very limited and mostly imaginary exchanges with only the type of person whose social life is so lacking that they hunch over a computer instead of being with people in the flesh", but that is most assuredly not the case for me. I met my soulmate and the love of my life online years ago and we are STILL together in one of the most rewarding relationships I've ever known.

There are many disadvantaged people who frequent online chatrooms. Disadvantaged in the sense that they are alone in the world without family, or are ill or physically disabled in some way and cannot get out and about. Perhaps they suffer from shyness. The internet is a Godsave for elders and they love it! I teach them email and how to navigate chatrooms and they feel much less isolated. My best student was 87 when she first learned how to use a computer.

So the internet is NOT mostly about sex IMO, to me it is all about learning and collecting information in the best sense of the word. But then again, I DO tend to see the positive side of life most days...and feel sorry for those who choose to concentrate on the negative.

why don't we have a peace symbol here? LOL

[BI BOYTOY]

well lets see why?well i dont have many freinds. and on here usauly people are accepting of on another.a are generaly real about it. their are acceptions. but we are only humans in search of happyness.

[12voltman59]

I have to disagree with some of your generalizations. Perhaps YOU get only "very limited and mostly imaginary exchanges with only the type of person whose social life is so lacking that they hunch over a computer instead of being with people in the flesh", but that is most assuredly not the case for me. I met my soulmate and the love of my life online years ago and we are STILL together in one of the most rewarding relationships I've ever known.

There are many disadvantaged people who frequent online chatrooms. Disadvantaged in the sense that they are alone in the world without family, or are ill or physically disabled in some way and cannot get out and about. Perhaps they suffer from shyness. The internet is a Godsave for elders and they love it! I teach them email and how to navigate chatrooms and they feel much less isolated. My best student was 87 when she first learned how to use a computer.

So the internet is NOT mostly about sex IMO, to me it is all about learning and collecting information in the best sense of the word. But then again, I DO tend to see the positive side of life most days...and feel sorry for those who choose to concentrate on the negative.

why don't we have a peace symbol here? LOL

I reject the notion that it those who spend time online are somehow deficient in their social skills or some such thing as that.

I mix up my time online and in the real world---and I have made friends with some people on here and at other websites that I meet in the "real world.'

I have met people in many widespread geographic areas thanks to the net that I would never have done so otherwise--like when I go to Florida now--I have met some people from here and from other sites that I have interests in --non-sexual sites like the website for the fans of one of my favorite musical groups----pretty much any place I go--I can stop and see someone.

I don't find the internet to be any kind of negative influence or a hinderance to my social life--it has actually made it better, thank you very much!!!

On my MySpace site---I have made contact with musical artists I would never have ever found otherwise and have started correspondences with some of those people---which is way cool to me----since I so respect people who can make a living making music---one of the best activities humans can do is to make music---

This is just an aside in relation to that--I took some photos of this one group playing at a show last fall and the band is going to use some of my photos on their newest CD and the main member of the group is going to do a painting based on one of my photos I took!!

If not for the internet--I would never have had this chance to continue a relationship--such as it is with this group---

I don't think the internet and spending time in virutal communities is a bad thing---I think it is a very good thing---

[diB4u]

I have to disagree with some of your generalizations. Perhaps YOU get only "very limited and mostly imaginary exchanges with only the type of person whose social life is so lacking that they hunch over a computer instead of being with people in the flesh", but that is most assuredly not the case for me. I met my soulmate and the love of my life online years ago and we are STILL together in one of the most rewarding relationships I've ever known.

There are many disadvantaged people who frequent online chatrooms. Disadvantaged in the sense that they are alone in the world without family, or are ill or physically disabled in some way and cannot get out and about. Perhaps they suffer from shyness. The internet is a Godsave for elders and they love it! I teach them email and how to navigate chatrooms and they feel much less isolated. My best student was 87 when she first learned how to use a computer.

So the internet is NOT mostly about sex IMO, to me it is all about learning and collecting information in the best sense of the word. But then again, I DO tend to see the positive side of life most days...and feel sorry for those who choose to concentrate on the negative.

why don't we have a peace symbol here? LOL

Awww good for you Peg. Personally i wonder why im still here... Yes the net can bring two people together, but in my past experience it has only brought short term fun, and so far nothing long term etc.

Ah but Peg im not positive nor negative, im an realist. The net can bring both good and the bad. Both love and NSF.

I have met people online, and people offline, the online experience can for me, become fuller, if i meet people from online to- in the flesh.

Does that make sense????

[Papelucho]

I'm here because I'm bisexual and I want to meet and interact with other people who are bisexual.

[lonelygirlintx]

I came to this site, because I was ready for a woman and I stayed because there are so many good people on here. They are exactly like me and accept me with open arms and they're my family, and I love them all dearly.

[FerociousFeline]

I also ....have had that conversation with some friends. (you know, the one where they tell you that you are living a virtual life and that as such you are wasting your real one)

But I have also learned that there are two distinct groups of people in the world. The group of people who can bridge that gap of creating a virtual world in their head and finding spaces and places and people and friends and so forth IN it.......and those who simply can't.

For those who are like myself, the virtual world AUGMENTS the physical world and is a place where I can have a say, I can speak my mind, I can express myself fully to people who might be interested in what I have to say. In the offline world, well, it's not that the same doesn't apply, but then I might not be NEARLY so candid as I am here. To me, this is what the virtual world is FOR. To go ahead and pull all of that stuff that you might not say to your immediate friends or family to people who have gathered together BECAUSE of our search after similarity.

Thanks to yall, I have a place that I can come and truly open up. That is a gift that you give to me and I thank you for that.

I came here to find out if I was bi. I thought that by watching those of you who were absolutely SURE that you were, I would be able to see if you thought, acted, and held sacred the same values that I do.

What I found was something much bigger than what I was looking for.

I found one of the few spots on the planet where it doesn't MATTER if I'm bi or if I'm not. I found a place here that accepted me for all my idiosyncratic traits REGARDLESS of whether or not it had to do with sex, sexuality, or orientation.

As my self image began to solidify and allow me to understand who I am, I have attempted to pay it forward. I do my best to share my experience and knowledge with others who may also be struggling with their personal offline experience. Because my work schedule is so insanely demanding, I don't get to spend as much time as I would like here, but when I do come it is just really REALLY nice to know that if I am coming home to an empty house with nobody to greet me, nobody to throw arms around me, nobody to acknowledge me as a human being, that I can come here and see you wonderful people and know that I am not alone.

The struggles I have witnessed people having while being here has taught me a great deal about myself, and I have really begun to understand the commonality of fear, frustration and yes even at times desperation and loneliness that is all part of our common experience.

I keep coming back because.....I like yall.

I keep coming back because you teach me things.

I keep coming back because although I have been all over the internet, it's just really nice to hang out with a group of people who you can really get to know, who know your past and your struggles and who can see you grow.

Love

FerociousFeline

[onewhocares]

I must thank you ALL for the wonderful comments that you have all made to this thread. I think that depending upon the place we are in our lives, this site can be many thinks to many people. Never ever have I considered it a purely SEX site always....we are more here.

[still_shy]

I not only find it comforting to talk to people who know what I am going through but also find that the majority of the people in the chat room genuinely care about you enough to offer advice. I haven't been here long but already feel as though I have made friends (and for a person as shy as me, that's a huge step in the right direction)

[Needyone47]

I first came here in hopes of finding a male friend in my area to befrend and enjoy pleasures with. After a few years of looking I have found no one but I stay in the hope of finding that special friend who I can be myself with.

[**Peg**]

....we are more here.

one other positive thing about meeting someone here (online in pvt. msgs. or email) is that you don't have other distractions which we all use to "judge" people.

For example, I cannot hear your voice, nor see how you dress, nor smell (dammit: I'm REALLY into scents hehe), BUT I hear your heart through your words. I think online is one of the purest ways to build a friendship, build desire (if that is why you're here) build mystery...and more.

We are all free to express our deepest thoughts and desires (even if NOT sexual) and mercifully equally free to ignore those who don't agree with us LOL.

[weird dream]

I found this site when i was searching for some bisexual support groups..

I'ts been just a few days but i feel immensely comfortable here.

Where I am, being 'alternative' - not just in sexuality - makes life hard, even dangerous - you''re required to fit into a mould - if i changed my lifestyle drastically , i could do it , but it would mean leaving my old life behind... which I'm ready to do as long as there's someone who loves me for who I really am

I'm also looking to find someone, maybe a bisexual girl, a guy or even a couple.... for what ? - lets see how it goes...

take care everyone

dreamer

[*pan*]

well there are a number of reasons i came here and stayed. 1- is that there are quite a few pagans in here of which i am one, bisexual and in a poly relationship with two other witches, that is not accepted within most cultures or fourms. 2- like minded open minded people that try to help and understand rather then put down and scorn someone. 3- i am accepted unlike within most sites and society where i would be ridiculed and hated for my beliefs aqnd way of life. 4- it's totaly free and one has access to everything the site has to offer. 5- it gives me a chance to search for that special someone, who knows maby i will find him one day. 6- there are a lot of interesting questions in the fourms that one can put their two cents in on. 7- there are a lot of hot people with interesting profiles and pics to look over and spend hours reading. 8- a chat room to say hi and get to know everyone that comes in. 9- a chance to see other bisexuals, their problems and help if possible or at least suggest a solution. 10- to be a part of a comuinity and share things personal that you wouldent even share with your family. 11- oh should i go on. i could and you know it, the reasons for joining and staying are endless. just as the topics, problems and questions that come through here. it's obivious that your friend dosent understand the involvement and closeness one can attain with like minded people not of the mainstreem. as a witch and druid at times i feel different and apart from most of the people within society yet i have to live and function within it with my different opinions and beliefs. here at least i feel comfortable knowing others understand my beliefs and desires. and it's not just a laptop, i am talkin to real people just like yourself and i hope to influence others in a positive way. well as usual this is my to this thread for what it's worth. peace and blessings be with you always

[wonderer]

My wife and I came here hoping to find someone to help fulfill our fantasy of being with another bi guy. So far...no luck. We stay because we hope it will eventually happen for us.
Also, it's a good place to explore with others what we are feeling...and know we are not "weird" like some people would label us. There seems to be so many understanding people here who are feeling just like us, and that is a kewl thing for us. To get on this site and read all the forums and respond to people is great!!
You know..in our society other people just don't 'get it' and if they find out they label us in some negative way. They can kiss my bi ass!!
My wife and I have come to a point in our lives where we say, "Screw it, we don't give a rats' ass what anyone thinks, we are going to do what we want....and that is to enjoy ourselves, have fun, stop missing out on exploring that curious side of us. If others don't like it, we really don't care one bit. As my wife says: They are all probably thinking just like us...just not ever going to admit it to themselves. And damn if I'm going to be one of those people. Miss out? Not anymore....long enough for us.
This place....other than a few annoying, ah, people...ROCKS!!!!! And, we plan to stay until we meet that person who rocks "us."

[max617]

Well,I'm new here,and hope to meet some like-minded people in person to explore my curious feelings with!