It's such a relief to read this.Originally Posted by BiCpl69
It's such a relief to read this.
its so good to hear such good replys, i told my gf 2 weeks ago and it turned her on. we will see how it goes from here
I am so absolutely turned on and attracted to bisexual and gay men, and I have been since my late teens. I have found it hard to meet bisexual men anywhere but on the internet. I have had sex with a few men I have met in gay bars, who were in transition to being gay, and i have met a few bi men in those bars, but it is very uncomfortable to want to hit on so many men in those places and yet, know that they probably won't be interested or may be completely offended (yikes!).
It can be tough for a girlfag to find the right partner!
Here's to those of us who are still out there looking for those elusive bisexual males! There is a great yahoo group for women who love bi men called Girlfags. Anyone interested is welcome.
I checked out the group; that's a bit different from me. Can't quite explain it. I don't have any interest at all in cross-dressers or feminine men. I like my men very masculine and dominant and muscular and not swishy at all. I wouldn't mind using a strap-on on a man, but I would much rather have the man be getting the real thing while he also had sex with me. Also I need a rather alpha male man because the men I do have sex with tend to get weirdly attracted to me. But thank you for letting me know about the group! It's helping me to figure out what I want to figure out what I don't want.
i think two men having sex is hot
but apart from the sex issue, the bisexual men i have met here are amoung the most decent blokes ive ever come across,
Om Mani Padme Hum
Well...I have been told by several women that they would love to watch two men make it in the flesh (not a porno movie) but it is not something I have ever discussed with a lover. I have always made a point of telling my partners that I was bi but that I only played the field when I was single and never brought up the possiblity of putting on a show for them. In fact the only threesomes and orgies I have attended was when I was single.
By the way...we bisexuals tend to make the best lovers. We are usually very open-minded about things and have a much larger sexual palate to work with than your average straight or gay and we know all about the pleasurable differences between being passive or not in bed and how it translates into how you are as a person.
I think that to some people the thought of two men together isnt exceptable because there is actual penatration as with two women there is not unless you use a toy. I dont see the difference. I think that two men together is a beautiful thing. I enjoy watching gay and bisexual porn and Im hoping to experience the real thing some day. Id love to suck on a hard cock while hes getting it good from behind. This is such a big turn on to me......
As a bisexual woman I have no probs with mm sex. Almost any kind of sex turns me on though
I have a good friend who is bisexual, and though she and her hubby have enjoyed many mff encounters, she finds the thought of 2 men together repulsive. I asked her why-from her answer, I'd swear she was a lesbian feminist. She told me men are gross. Well duh! (no offense, guys) I don't get it. I'd just as soon have a bi guy for myself...he'd understand my desire for women a little better. Unfortunately, my dude's str8 as an arrow.
MoonlitWish
...All acts of love and pleasure are my rituals....and I am that which is attained at the end of desire... ~hehe, I worship the orgasm, how 'bout you?
I'm a married bi woman and my mate is het. I would still love him if he were bi, though I'm very glad he isn't. I wouldn't want to be included in any of his relationships. I'm not even a little bit turned on by two men being together.
Stay Amuzed!
Raven
I am very turned on by two men together. My husband is str8 but is not against role playing for me. Such as his licking and sucking a fake penis for my eye candy! I don't know if he would act on male love if the opportunity presented itself. We enjoy giving pleasure and watching each other being pleasured for the most part, so the possibilities are endless from my point of view. I think that male bodies are as beautiful as female bodies and any combination of the two is a turn on for me to watch.
Patience my dear.
My experience (sadly) has been 95% of women I've dated, hung out with and just talked with were repulsed by just the thought of "picturing" 2 men making love. Women generally don't like sex as much as men and place a huge emotional connection with "intimacy" and want to be the center of attention and feel neglected/ alienated if not involved in the activities. And any "man on the street" survey will likely breakdown as 80% straight women abhor anything gay/lez/bi, 20% open to watching women together and 3% open to gay/bi men.
I'm waaaay glad 2 b in this group of openminded, kindred souls!
Let's face it. Society views men and women differently. 2 girls, Great eye candy! The guy can control the action. The other way around, very few women want to control the action. The man is supposed to run the show. They want a manly man who will pay the rent and Visa. If they picture their guy having a nice hard dick going in and out of his rear they equate it with feminity, and going down on a guy, well that is something you only do until you feel solid in the relationship and can start claiming a headache, Generally, they just do not understand the pleasure of MM contact. In fact, they generally view it as making them superior. Are there some that love MM action, Yes! But they are few and far between.
The hardest part is not finding out who we need to be, it is being content with who we are.
Thank you Kate!!
This exactly what goes on much of the time. The same type of thing happened to me initially. My X wanted me to watch and look at male porn and I refused because it was "disgusting". but I peeked past the wall that I put up and suddenly I found myself wanting those beautiful men. What a surprise. I really loved oral, anal and everything. How short-sighted I had been. Thank you for your openness and willingness to open up.
Brian
I spend most of my time in the "het world" and I just don't get the attraction of FF sex. Personally I'm just not turned on by two women having sex. If there's no guy in there then I just don't get it. I think most people think queer men are weak, no matter how butch or hot they look. One of them or both is a sissy. With two women, it doesn't matter. They can do what they want. I find that very demeaning.
The few men I have been with were gay or closeted so I don't know what they were. I think bi men are the hottest!
some women may be afraid to say they are turned on by that. I for one will admit I am turned on by 2 guys.
You know my answer........two men together....bringing plesure to each other.........nothing to say except WHAT A TURN ON! MMM MMM MMM
love ur answer if yiu need another bi male in philly to join ya's let me know.
on yahoo with same username
dinojr692000
Y'know, dino, you might have better luck if you put a personal ad in your profile instead of just responding to folks on the threads
While most of the posts here are from Bi-women and very few straight women, I think it all boils down to “JEALOUSY” in relationships. While many Bi-women are open minded enough to accept Bi-men, there is less tendency for them to become jealous over their man exploring sexuality with other men. Straight women on the other hand, feel they should be the center of their partner’s attention at all times and will become jealous of the thought of their man with another woman. If she finds out that her man is Bi or even slightly curious, now she has to worry about her man cheating on her or leaving her for not only another woman, but now it could be for another man. The JEALOUSY grows and eventually those relationships falter anyway.
So that being said, my guess is that it works better for couples that have been open and honest with each other at the beginning of a relationship about sexual desires. I know it is harder for a person in the relationship to express their desires to a long-term partner for fear of the relationship ending abruptly (as many have). I see many profiles on the web of men whose wives don’t know or aren’t interested. Many of those men are in long-term relationships that have been closet BI’s or like me, have recently discovered the concept, have a harder time revealing it to the woman in their lives because they (being straight) don’t understand bisexuality. Being open and honest in the beginning gives the other person the option to pursue or run with out ruining a long-term relationship. It also gives the person an opportunity (should they decide to pursue) to understand and learn about bisexuality (as many straight women w/outed partners seem to be doing at this site).
Years ago homosexuality was the taboo in society because it wasn’t understood. This day in age it’s being forced down everyone’s throat in the media and becoming more acceptable though still frowned upon by many. Now the bisexual community is slowly coming out and seems to be frowned upon by both straight and gay communities. Things change with time and it won’t be long before bisexuality becomes more acceptable to society and homosexuality will be a thing of the past. I think the new term for both Bisexual and Homosexual should be something like “Sexually Free” and “Sexuality Freedom” as the new catch phrase.
Now I will get on a rocky subject…politics and the media. So if you are easily offended, you should stop reading this post. But if you want your eyes opened a little more keep reading.
As some other posters have stated, most people (or as I like to call them, “Sheeple”), have all been herded up into groups and made to conform to societies way of thinking by the media, religious beliefs, and good old fashion upbringing (family moral beliefs, for those who aren’t southern).
Here in the great US of A, our forefathers penned some documents we call the constitution. It states that we have the right to “Life, Liberty, and Pursuit of Happiness” and also gives us “Freedom of Choice”. This day and age these rights seem to have been over looked and forgotten about. Most people make their choice based on what others might think or say about ME if I don’t dress, look, drive, live, etc. the way society says I should. The media and our precious government feel they should “protect you from yourself”. They want to tell you how to live your life, what you should or shouldn’t do, what you can or can’t do on your own land, how you drive your car on so called “Public Roads” and how to spend your money. All in direct conflict with that very first law written in the Constitution.
How can you have Liberty if everyone is telling you how to live and is in your personal business all of the time? How can you have Pursuit of Happiness if you aren’t fulfilling your own hopes and dreams or making the choices you feel are right in your own heart? Bottom line… we have the right to do what ever the hell we want to do as long as it doesn’t cause physical injury to another person or other person’s property. Now we are in the era of “The Offended”. If you watch the news and those new, reality TV shows “Court TV”, you will often see someone that has been dragged into court for offending someone else. Being offended is the way you chose to react to someone else’s choice or action and DOES NOT constitute “physical injury”. So if society don’t like the things I do or the way I live, it’s their problem not mine and they should mind their own busyness. Be offended and go on with your life rather than be so damn offensive towards me, infringing on my rights.
And to finish this off, I noticed several posts from so called Bi Women. You say you are married but you don’t allow your husbands to have a bisexual relationship or are turned off with the idea or site of 2 men together. Well, I think you are ether extremely selfish or you are just a hypocrite. If you are a practicing bisexual woman and don’t approve of your man participating with another man, then you are a selfish hypocrite. Women have realized, if a man can eat pussy and enjoys it, why can’t they? I ask if a woman can suck a dick and its not a problem, why can’t a man suck one also? If a man can fuck a woman in the ass, why not another man? Its just another ass or mouth with a dick in it. What difference does it make whether they are male or female orifices? It’s all about a man or woman giving and receiving sexual pleasure with another person, be they male or female. Not about being selfish and always the center of attention.
Last edited by Curious2knowmore; Feb 25, 2006 at 3:34 PM.
WTF, Curious?
If someone wants to be in a monogamous relationship, and their partner does too, what's so bad about it? If someone doesn't happen to be turned on by two guys together, so what? People don't choose their turn-ons. If you don't want to date a woman like that, don't, but why come on here and flame?
... and since when do you become a "so called Bi Woman" for wanting a monogamous relationships? Last I hear, being bi was about being interested in both genders, not about whether or not you had an open arrangement.
I think bisexual men are very attractive, and even though my signifigant other isn't bisexual (sigh..) I would definately be with a man that is. Some wemon say its a turn off but it's definately a turn on in my book.
.................and to top it off, Curious does not even have an active description of him/herself. Whatever gets them thru the day I guess!
Don't be afraid to try Bi!
In fairness, he's Curious2knowmore, not Eager2tellmore.
Re: womans views on bi guys
I'm rofl Driver!!!!
But what you say is true!!
love
Rupe
Love conquers all
Touche Driver! You are most correct!
Don't be afraid to try Bi!
I agree with Switch22, if I understand hirm correctly. In our socieity, female sexuality does not threatent the male paradigm. Women are allowed to cross the line and break the rules and it doesn't matter. Women's sexuality is simply not as important as men's. When men cross the line and engage in same sex eroticism then the masculine image has been perverted and this offense cannot be broached. It might also be that women on women sex is not perceived to involve "penetrator" and "penetratee", thus there is no "real sex" happening. Whereas with men, one is defintely going to be the "submissive". Of course, this is all very unconscious and few are aware that they are being influenced this way.
I find this paradigm offensive to men and women. It objectifies women sexually and attempts to rob thier sexuality of any significance. It also implies that men are fragile and easily threatened sexually and defines our sexuality in terms of fear and paranoia. It also robs us of a certain eroticism and beauty. One should not and cannot objectify male sexuality.
I abhor "Lesbian Chic" and it infuriates me whenever I encounter it, which is often because this attitude means that most bisexual characters in flim and television are women, or any depcition of women on women affection is not balanced by a visible man on man affection.
I think male on male affection is very hot and I demand more of it!
It's gratifying to read all the female support here...BUT...sadly, the vast majority of females (and males for that matter) in in the "normal" world just are flat out repulsed by the very thought / image of men together. Will that ever change? Probably not COMPLETELY but here's hoping someday SOON viewpoints will improve.
Ok, what about this? I have no problem watching gay male porn. I never have. I do get turned on by it. BUT....and here it comes....I have a hard time pictureing my husband in one these roles. Why is this? Is it because I just found out a few months ago that he is bisexual and that maybe I am having a hard time accepting it? While in my mind I have no problems with him being bisexual and am not homophobic at all, why is it that seeing him in this role is not turning me on?Someone please help me!
Mrs.F
Re: womans views on bi guys
I, too, am turned on by most sorts of pornography. The wife (still doesn't know about my other interests) is slowly coming around to the idea of porn.
I mentioned to my better half that I had concerns that some of the sexual things we do would be considered 'gay' by most people. She said she knows I am attracted to women so she isn't concerned. I was trying to drop a hint but she didn't pick up on it. I know the easiest thing to do would be to come out and state my bi feelings but a while back she made a comment about two guys being together being unattractive so this has kept my mouth shut.
I think my wife would be supportive and understanding if I told her but there is always a possibility of trouble....
Such a heavy burden to carry....
Patiently waiting for the day that male bisexuality is accepted by all....
Mrs. F,Ok, what about this? I have no problem watching gay male porn. I never have. I do get turned on by it. BUT....and here it comes....I have a hard time pictureing my husband in one these roles. Why is this? Is it because I just found out a few months ago that he is bisexual and that maybe I am having a hard time accepting it? While in my mind I have no problems with him being bisexual and am not homophobic at all, why is it that seeing him in this role is not turning me on?
Mrs.F
Forgive me for being so brief, I'm at the library doing my writing and have snuck only a few seconds to peek at the message boards... I think it's okay that you like the porn but you don't like thinking of your hubby in those roles. What we like visually is very different from what we would do or want done to people we know. If it helps your marriage, I think you should just agree with Flounder that he'll do things without you there, and trust him to make good decisions when he's exploring.
All the best to everyone!
Love,
J
If sex is a pain in the ass, you're doing it wrong.
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