how many guys here, have wives that know that you are bisexual , and are ok with it , maybe even watch and encourage it ? my wife knows , and is ok with it , but doesn't want to see it or be a part of it. i really envy men whose wives enjoy it.
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how many guys here, have wives that know that you are bisexual , and are ok with it , maybe even watch and encourage it ? my wife knows , and is ok with it , but doesn't want to see it or be a part of it. i really envy men whose wives enjoy it.
My wife has always known that I suck dick. I started when I was in Grade school and met her in High. She sucks also, so we make a great team. Most people know we are a little different.
My wife and I came out to each other as bisexual in 2003 and have enjoyed others i our bed ever since!
My girlfriend knows and she encourages and joins in she is bi also so we have an open sex life
My wife knows, at least to some extent, that I engage in sex play with a select group of other guys. To be sure, she's by no means enthusiastic about my bisexuality, but I have her tacit permission, provided I adhere to a carefully developed list of ground rules. Joanne was, in fact, the one who suggested that I might explore bi forms of sex play after a bout with cancer killed her once active sex drive nearly 20 years ago.
The ground rules (Most of which I’ve broken):
No receptive or penetrative anal sex
(Receptive yes, penetrative no)
No insertion of dildos or sex toys
(Broken)
Safe sex only; condoms are an absolute must
(Broken: Condoms are annoying and decrease the intimacy of any act. Bareback for me, please)
No exchange of body fluids
Broken: I enjoy having my partner's cum on or in me. I find it very intimate.
Absolute discretion must be expected and assured
(Promise kept)
Never discuss details of what I’ve done or whom with
(Promise kept, but she's be blown away if she knew the details)
Verify in advance that sex partners are safe, sane, drug and disease free
(Promise kept)
Never appear in explicit photos or videos showing my face
(Broken to smithereens. I've been in photos and sex tapes both and find it very exciting).
Never do anything that might cause me personal embarrassment or professional harm
(Promise kept; as a teacher, I had to be very careful about discovery).
Never cause her to meet someone with whom I’ve been sexually intimate
(Broken on three occasions)
My wife knows, at least to some extent, that I engage in sex play with a select group of other guys. To be sure, she's by no means enthusiastic about my bisexuality, but I have her tacit permission, provided I adhere to a carefully developed list of ground rules. Joanne was, in fact, the one who suggested that I might explore bi forms of sex play after a bout with cancer killed her once active sex drive nearly 20 years ago.
The ground rules (Most of which I?ve broken):
No receptive or penetrative anal sex
No insertion of dildos
Safe sex only; condoms are an absolute must.
No exchange of body fluids.
Absolute discretion must be expected and assured
Never discuss details of what I?ve done or whom with
Verify in advance that sex partners are safe, sane, drug and disease free
Never appear in explicit photos or videos showing my face
Never do anything that might cause me personal embarrassment or professional harm
Never cause her to meet someone with whom I?ve been sexually intimate
Strikes me that for a spouse who isn't holding up her end of her martial sex life, she seems to have imposed quite a few rules on you. If she's not involved with your sex life, who is she to be dictating the rules? (pun alert!)Quote:
Originally Posted by Ken Hadashi
My ex wife knew, as I identified as gay when I first met her, I was dating her roommate’s father at the time.
We had “rules” that were realistic when we were together, as both of us being bisexual, it worked out well. We sadly grew apart when her career took her to France. She’s now in a relationship with a woman and living her best. We’re still close. My husband to be is aware, and says that he doesn’t care, but I’ll be honest, I just haven’t had the itch to have sex with a woman, so it’s kind of a moot point at this time, but him knowing and approving is still paramount.
My ex and her girlfriend may come to our wedding as well, it does depend though, as we are leaning towards a very small naturist ceremony, and I know that she would not be comfortable with that. Which is ok too.
My partner of 7 years knew from the day we met that I am bi. She is 100% straight. We are monogamous when we are together, but work often has her or me traveling and so when we are apart we play separately. She knows whenever I hook up with anyone, any gender, but she doesn't really want to ever know the details. We have never played together with another man but maybe one day we might.
Wife has known since before we were married. We have had a number of guys join us for some fantastic sex.
You make a very valid point. Joanne completely resigned from the sexual aspect of our marriage after becoming surgically menopausal in 2005. Thus, as far as I'm concerned, she has no business whatever trying to dictate how I may or may not express myself sexually. I think the reality is that she doesn't want me having sex with anyone, male or female. So she says it's okay, then imposes rules no one could live by.
From my experience, most wives do not know or would condone sex outside of the marriage. I have had several FWBs whose wives would die or kill if they knew their husbands were fooling around behind their backs (with either sex). I think that is part of the taboo experience that drives men to want to have bi sexual relations - that and the fact that their wives have "cut them off" from a sexual standpoint.
I have know a few couples who've agreed to having an open marriage, but it's usually one that allows other men to enter on the terms that the wife will be the center of attention. Only once have I met with a couple where the husband was 'allowed' to give me oral or get fucked, but that was with her supervision.
There seems to be a clear double standard when it comes to male bi-sexual sex and marriage. I prefer the indiscreet because men tend to be less self-conscious when left to their own accord.
As the third to married couples I would say a little less than half know , approve or participate , just respect any boundaries and make sure everybody enjoys to ones fulllest