Originally Posted by gayle
Try my dilemma on for size! I'm a str8 female with a bi male partner. Try wording the profile so that I don't offend him, don't "out him" in such a way that he'd be instantly recognized (although who here would recognize him, I don't know). Then there's the predicament of my being str8 so here we are doing a profile with one bi and one str8 in a couple; then with him thinking it'd be great to do a m/f/f scenario when I explicitly state that I am str8. How many takers do you suppose we'll get off that? LOL! The true irony is that sometimes I feel like I should be apologizing to the rest of you for being str8! At the same time, I feel like I have learned more about bi relationships and issues here than I have anywhere else. It has helped me to understand my partner better, to understand why it took him so long to come out to me as being bi, etc. Oh, I still have questions to be sure, but I'm also sure the answers will come with time.
Anyhow, posting an ad was challenging enough, how to say enough without saying too much. Then just creating the profile, especially with the Kinsey rating where I concluded my partner is a definite 4 but I'm str8.
I have just begun to share with my partner tidbits of what I have written in this forum, hoping he won't decide to go find it all on his own. He seems to have accepted that this is a place where I go to think things through, and where issues are raised that I haven't considered.
This is a great site & I really appreciate it. Of course, I am still waiting for Drew to come up with a cowgirl avatar for me! LOL!