Curious as all get out - Why do you not enjoy it of those 15%? What's up?

View Poll Results: Bi Men: Do you enjoy anal sex?Voters 1691. You have already voted on this poll

• Yes, I do 1,436 84.92%
• No, I don't 255 15.08%

Curious as all get out - Why do you not enjoy it (of those 15%)?

I was taught how to enjoy it by guy who was fabulous. I in turn taught others. They all love it once they learned. I taught my husband, who can never get enough. I am the same with DP but it is the anal portion that send me over the moon the most.

Have you not been taught well? Have you not found the right person who knows what they are doing? It makes all the difference. I have to train all my DP partners the same. It goes from, eehhhhh, to OH MY GGGOOOOOOOOOOOOODNEEESSSSSSSS!

All of you need a good teacher... trainer...

Perhaps it's not the physical side of it that isn't liked - and it is something that one has to get used to and be able to find the pleasure in being fucked in the ass - but it's the psychological side of it that includes knowing what that opening's main function is. One woman told me that she'd never let a guy fuck her in the ass because it's the last place on her body that still belongs to her and she didn't think that she'd find a man who would be worthy to have her last, sacred place. Most of the women I knew and/or had sex with just said, "Hell, no - that shit hurts too much!" and it's one of those things where you don't have to actually experience it to know that what they say about it hurting is true.

I have a guy I've been mentoring for five or six years now and he still gets "weird" when an off and on FWB shows up at his door and when he does, my protege knows that he's going to get nine thick inches of dick in his ass - but he continues to maintain that he's a top and the continuing myth that tops don't bottom but he still talks about how girly, bitchy and less manly he feels while he's being fucked. I would say that the majority of guys I've known - and we've sucked each other off more than a few times - had it firmly in their mind that sucking dick was one thing, but anal sex was a whole different "ain't gonna do that" kind of thing because (1) it's gay and (2) see (1). But they tried it and didn't like it and from what I remember them telling me, it wasn't the physical aspect of it that they didn't like but the psychological aspects that made getting boned in the butt fall into the category of "I tried it (more than once) and I didn't like it and I'm never doing it again."

I know of more than a handful of fellow gay guys that don’t top, or bottom. I would definitely offer my services to one of them if he was ever interested in topping.

I started as a top and did not bottom to the extent of accepting anal sex until well into my fifties. But as I ventured into submissiveness taking it in the ass became a key part of the sub role. The temporary abandonment of decision making and reponsibilities, the one or two hours or all night lack of concerns for anything greater than my partner's satisfaction with my "fuckability" are the only things on my mind. Recently I have become involved with a man who has been blessed with (or cursed with) an oversized cock. On our first sexual encounter he was very patient, careful and considerate of my fears and doubts and over the course of that first night, with his help, I learned how to relax and take him inside me. Now I am spoiled forever as the pleasure of being fucked by that big cock is greater than anything I've ever experienced before. As been said above, a patient teacher is invaluable. My personal, admittedly biased opinion is that if you claim to be a bottom, you should be able to participate and enjoy anal penetration. A bonus is anal orgasms are beyond anything you've previously experienced.