Positive Attitude to Bisexual

When first touching the word–bisexual, I feel a little confused and misunderstand to this group people. However, I lately read one article named The scientific Quest to Prove Bisexuality Exists, I clarified my mind and built a positive attitude to this special community.

Somebody may ask--What is bisexual? Most of person may still take a fuzzy concept to its definition. May the majority of people think that bisexual person is the one who loves men and the women both. This thought is just one single faceted. According to the definition from Wekipedia–Bisexuality is romantic attraction, sexual attraction or sexual behavior toward both males and females, and may also encompass romantic or sexual attraction to people of any gender identity or to a person irrespective of that person’s biological sex or gender, which is sometimes termed pansexuality. In a word, bisexual is the person who love men and women, but also they have the identity gender.

When there exist bisexual? It has a long history, time went back to ancient Greece. In this period, a married man, at the same time, maintains a homosexual relationship. The most famous example is Alexander the Great, who owned crowds of wives, while kept intimate relationship with his good male friend–Hephaestion at the same time.
Why one person become bisexual? According to analysts’ searching, there are four main factors.

Firstly, biological factor. If certain key parts of the brain does not be masculine before one baby’s birth, may children will not be on testosterone response already in the blood. In another aspect, women who have male-hormone secretion too much will lead to be men on behavior and body. Animal experiment showed that, female accepts large male hormone during embryos period may result in liking male on behavior. While after birth, male hormone only can strengthen adult women on performance force and makes body as male’s. The worst thing is, it cannot change women’s sex identity and sex orientation.

Secondly,psychological factor. According to Freud’s view, setback may lead one into a wrong road during the development of sexual psychology, and finally turn into bisexual.
Thirdly, social factor. For one thing, may boys from poor families cannot afford to marry, or male’s irresponsibility on sex. For another, our society identifies bisexual.
Fourthly, personal choice. with different concept of gender and love, social values, personal characteristics and other factors, rather than simply determined by sexual orientation, people will choose his or her different sexual-orientation lover.

Even there are still many people who cannot accept this group, but some positive communities, take BOSEXART(built in 2005) as an example, it supports bisexual and eager to be identified.
In my mind, everyone has their own orientation or hobby, the simple thing is we respect each other’s life style and hobby, that’s it.

We are senior citizens now but when we were first married, the gay/lesbian community and society in general, did not recognize bisexuality as a real sexual preference. To most, my wife was a lesbian in the closet. For that reason we never told others that my wife is bisexual and that we were in love with the same woman. There was no need for them to know as it would have ruined the lives of both woman. Despite our girlfriend having her own room in our home and staying with us often, no one ever asked any questions. After all, both woman had husbands so naturally they were straight. To this day the only ones who know my wife is bisexual are our girlfriend and her husband. My wife is not ashamed of her sexuality at all. It is all she knows how to be. However, she is aware of how others view it so why invite trouble when there is no reason for them to know. We were such a closed triad that we were oblivious to any issues of sexuality other than what we knew from 1960. We never read about it or went online until last year. My ladies were who they were and acted as they wished. It helped that we moved 13 times and most of our friends were into wife swapping and swinging. We never had friends in our life long enough to notice anything different about us.