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Embracing My Coming Out

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[FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]Prior to being married I identified as bisexual, but since then I’m increasingly only attracted to men though I am married to a woman. My attraction is more physical, emotional and sensual than exclusively sexual.
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[FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]Around age 10 I fantasized about sex with men and I had my first homosexual experience with my older cousin at age 13. I assumed I was gay through high school then dated women as it seemed much easier to hide my attraction to men through my 20’s. But fought it thinking it was a phase that I’d grow out of: I didn’t grow out of it. In my early 30’s I had a loving affair with a gay man and came out as gay to my close friends, despite being married to a woman.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]Although, I can recognize an attractive woman and have a loving relationship with my wife I’m not sexually attracted to women, only men. Now I exclusively identify as homosexual. I’d say with pretty certain confidence that my sexuality is fixed and quite sure my homosexual desires were innate. I don’t relate to those who suggest it’s the person you fall in love with, not their gender. To me falling in love involves sexual attraction and for me that is only ever going to be with men.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]Kinsey Rating: Six[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT]

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Updated Sep 8, 2015 at 9:33 AM by boyfox

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  1. sysper's Avatar
    it's cool ur gay & it's cool u know. it is who u really are & u should never deny that. but it looks like u gotta have a serious talk with ur wife. if u haven't had 1 allready. it's not gonna be easy in fact it's probably the hardest thing u will ever do. u will probably break her heart. but if u love her she deserves the truth. it will take sometime for things to get better but they will. both of u will be on a better path.
  2. Thebutchersboy's Avatar
    I have recently come out as Bi, I know I am Bi, because I love women as much as I love men. I am happily married, to a women that is incredibly supportive of my sexuality and allows me to explore it. It's a win win for both of us, we have regular three or four way encounters with guys that our friends now. But what we are kind of looking for is that elusive man, to be a permanent fixture in our relationship.
    your wife on some level will already know, female intuition is a powerful thing, my wife already knew, after declaring it to her, she said that she already knew, and carried on chopping some onions. It was a simple as that. Since then, I have felt a mixture of elation, happiness, shame and guilt. From having an abusive childhood, which after extensive counselling, is the reason for my bisexuality, not being able to develop sexually like a normal upbringing would give. But I am working on it, understanding what is good for me, and having the best of both worlds sexually is very exciting.
  3. loftycraig's Avatar
    i share some of yr history and feel im bi/gay. also think u r a hunk
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