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Sexuality is something I feel I had struggled with all my life. Born in the 70's, all I wanted to be is normal like everyone else so I denied and suppressed anything that wasn't considered the norm, however feelings and desires kept popping in to my mind (both waking and sleeping fantasies), some of which I was happy to have, others, ashamed and it lead to an unhappy and confusing life, both sexually and mentally. I went through stages thinking I could be gay, others, straight, but didn't know what I was and it never occurred that I was somewhere in between as back then you were either straight or gay.

Since puberty I think I always realised deep down that I wasn't straight but realisation and acceptance are very much two different things. Once I made the decision to accept and embrace my sexual orientation, all the events and feelings throughout my life suddenly made sense. They should've made sense straight away but the stigma and lack of acceptance around bisexuality and basically any orientation that isn't straight was a contributing factor and still is today so like many, I remain in the closet.

Self acceptance is important for one's mental health and I am better for doing so. I'm far more happy now than I've been in a very long time. Accepting didn't mean I had to tell anyone it was just acknowledging that which most with same sex tendancies have felt for a long time, different and there's nothing wrong with being different. Everyone is different. Acceptance removed the shame and guilt I felt for having these desires or after I masturbated to same sex fantasies or gay porn. The shame was very real for me but I realised you can only fight nature for so long, nature always wins. I was born this way.

What was needed for me to start the journey, and it has been a journey was a catalyst. My catalyst was feeling a strong attraction to a friend but what helped me accept my sexuality was to put it all in writing, from the beginning to the end, answer questions of my sexual desires and feelings and what I want from my remaining years truthfully and once I did so, it wasn't difficult to see. I thought I would feel different and in some ways I do, I feel normal. Bisexual is my normal.

I love being bisexual, it gives me a sense of pride I've not had. I feel truly lucky. I believe there are many more men and women stuck in limbo just like I was who will hopefully one day find their feet. Everyone's journey is different but I hope this helps someone.

I have be experimenting with men for the last year. Ive been curious since I hit 40 and decided to live a little and see who I am. I found out that yes I'm bi, I love cock as much as pussy, I also like to bottom. I like to lay on my back, legs in the air. I love to look at him while he pounds me good. Ive been bringing in the bottom aspect when I sleep with woman and its been making that part of sex better too. Woman seem to love to peg men. I still prefer a cock.
Now I'm getting ready to take it to the next step. Ive bought a dress and sandals, a wig. Ive got make up and I got a petty and my toes painted. I want to cross dress now and see were it goes. I want to be topped by a man first. Then Ill try a woman topping me while I'm all pretty.
This has been a fun journey. Ive been wanting to share it with someone.
I hope you enjoy.

I recently got my wish to suck off a big fat stiff hard cock. It was magical. I was at this bar and my friends took off and left me there. I was asking around for a ride home these two guys offered to take me home but they wanted to stop by their place first. I couldn't really say no so when we arrived they fixed us all a drink and pulled out some cocaine. It had been a long time since I had done any of that but they convinced me this one time would be okay. So I snorted several big fat rails they set up for me.
While we were there they turned on some porn videos. I really like porn especially ones where a huge cock is being sucked off. It is hypnotic and hard to take my eyes off of it. The next thing I knew they were handing me another strong drink and a mirror with even more lines on it. I was pretty fucked up by now so I just went with it. A few minutes passed and the two men had left the room when they returned they were wearing only a smile and a hard on. I instantly started to stare at their cocks. They noticed right away and asked me if everything was alright. I said I was very fucked up but I was completely mesmerized by their big cocks. Then they sat on the couch next to the chair I was sitting . I watched as they started groping each other. Then to my surprise one of them got up and walked over in front of me with his long fat dick just glistening in the light of the table lamp. He looked at me and said I saw you admiring our cocks with so much intensity would you like to suck on it? I blushed and said maybe in a little while. He then proceeded to pour a pile of coke on his cock and said how about now. I was so fucking horny and fucked up I reached out wrapped my fingers around his dick and then stuck out my tongue and began to lick off the coke from his dick. it made my mouth so numb . He then said you can't even feel it now can you? I said not much and his friend stood up and walked over and stood right in front of me too. Then he too put a pile of coke on his dick and told me to suck on it right now.
I was getting pretty fucking hard and high by now and I started to talk in a nasty dirty voice telling them both I was going to suck off both of their cocks and would let them fuck me if they wanted. I went over to the couch and sat in the middle with each of them taking up each side of me I leaned over and began to suck them off with much enthusiasm and desire. They could tell I was really enjoying it. I would suck on one for a while then lean over the other way and suck on the other cock bring it back to a stiff hard piece of man meat. I started to say all kinds of dirty things like how I was going to let them fuck me all weekend. I began to get hot so they helped me out of my clothes and told me to go upstairs and find something comfortable to wear in their girl friends closet they also said I was welcome to use their make up as well. This has always been a fantasy of mine so I went up found a very short skirt some fishnet stockings and a frilly see through half shirt. I then went into the vanity room and found some very bright hot and sexy lip stick which I applied then added some eyeliner and some mascara. I also found some jewelry and a pair of extremely high heel shoes which I put on and then announced to the guys ready or not here I cum.
I sashayed down the stairs and everyone exclaimed here comes our whore we were looking for. I felt so dirty and horny. They made me another drink and put out some more rails for me and I turned into something very different I started acting like a cheap prostitute. The guys really seemed to like it they stared at me and made comments about my whorish look and how I must be the nastiest bitch they had ever seen. This turned me on even more then they proceeded to knock me around a little spanking me pulling my hair and slapping me like a pimp might do. They continued to say mean and nasty things about me then I took over. I started to take charge at least for a short while this surprised them a lot. I ordered them to sit down so I could suck on those hot cocks. I told them I was craving cock and since they were sporting big fat hard cocks I took advantage of them by licking kissing and sucking on those beautiful dicks they kept calling me a nasty cock sucker but I loved it I swear they somehow knew just what I was game for.
Then they took back control by one of them holding my hands behind my back while the other grabbed my hair and began to roughly face fuck me which made me even hornier. Then without a word the one holding my hands behind my back began wrapping some kind of rope around my hands and tied my hands behind my back and forced his cock into my lipstick colored lips while his buddy went around my back and began to tie me down to the couch with my legs spread far apart and my hands unable to move then they took turns shoving their dicks down my throat and whipping my face with their cocks. I was so fucking horny I almost came right there then they began to finger my ass with some lube and working it around and stretching my hole so it could take those huge dicks. After they had me lubed up and ready they told me how they were going to fuck me hard and fast while the other fucked my face really hard.
I was so involved in this action that I didn't notice their girlfriends had come home. They stood over in the door way and just watched as their boyfriends fucked the shit out of me then they began to clap and shout for them to do it faster and harder. One of the women had a cell phone she was using to film the whole scene. I was so distracted I did not even notice. When the men had cum multiple times and were worn out the girls took me upstairs and shared a hot bath with me allowing me to touch them and they fondled me they even went so far as to suck on my rock hard cock. They asked me if I would lick their pussies and fuck them I was very happy to do this. I was fucking them deep in their warm wet shaven pussies until their boyfriends came up to discover what was going on but the ladies said what was good for the goose was good for the gander. They all ask me to spend the night. I did and we all slept in the same bed after having somewhat of an orgy first. It was the most awesome night of my life so far.

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Ed and Sue both invited us over to their home, shoes came off, and we decided to take a seat on the couch, Ed and I sat down expecting Beth and Sue to join us, but they stopped and stood in clear view in front of us. I thought they would both take a seat with their respective spouses, but instead The gentle friendly hug included a quick kiss on the lips; suddenly moved in closer.
They began embracing and kissing harder, more passionately with open mouths. , they began wrapping arms tighter and continued heavier kissing, tongues darting in and out of each other's mouths. Beth reached upward and started to cup Sue's breasts, rubbing them, feeling nipples get harder, Sue reciprocated by running her hands up under Beth’s top to feel her nipples growing through her soft bra.
Ed and I were sitting watching. I could tell his cock was growing. I told him take his cock out and I would do the same. Beth and Sue removed the last article of clothing; their panties were tossed to the side; both women now fingering each other. Pushing their two larger fingers into each other’s dripping pussies. As the women got right into their passionate sexual activity they both could see their husbands’ cocks, standing at attention. Sue and Beth both watched me start to stroke my cock, Ed followed suit and started stroking his. Beth said that I should stroke Ed’s hard cock. Sue asked Ed to do the same. We exchange grasps; the two men held each other’s’ cocks in their hands and were now slowly stroking each other.
I see Beth suddenly guide Sue back into a seated position, Beth places her face right on Susan's wet pussy, Beth began to lick her pussy, tasting the sweetness which flowed with every lick.
I was dripping pre-cum, as was Ed, I looked at how hard and big his cock was, and I was drawn towards it. I leaned over and licked the tip tasting all his glistening pre-cum, covering his head. I opened my mouth to take in his swollen cock; I kept sucking his hard cock, taking it deep into my wet and warm mouth.
Beth and Sue both watched me devour Ed's cock driving Sue closer to orgasm, she was moaning louder as Beth continued to drink all of Sue's warm juice.
I gave one last forceful suck of Ed’s stiff cock and got up; I whispered to Ed that I wanted him to Fuck Beth. I want to see your cock sliding in and out of her sweet warm pussy.
Ed got Up and walked over to Beth who was now bending over as she continued to eat Sue, I could see her pause from tasting Sue at the moment she felt Ed enter her. As I watched Ed fuck my wife, I saw how much she was enjoying the sensation of having another man's cock buried deep inside of her. She felt the head rubbing inside.
She moved from the chair and kneeled on the floor. Ed continued to fuck her from behind, Beth began to buck back and forth pushing onto Ed's hard cock.
l took Sue's hand and pulled her close to me, Sue reached down and started stroking my cock, and felt my precum draining along the shaft. She used both hands to feel the fullness of my cock, Sue dropped to her knees and took my cock into her waiting mouth, sucking and swallowing the precum


I caw Beth motion for Ed to top her and fuck her missionary she spread her legs wide while he pushed his cock deep inside. She wrapped her arms around his neck pulling his mouth to her lips. She kissed him, his hips pushed downward, and she pushed her hips upward forcing his stiffness into her.
Sue and I watched Ed and Beth getting more into the ecstasy of my wife and Sue’s husband fucking and moaning. Sue withdrew her mouth and turned around exposing her smooth and soft ass. She spread her legs wanting me to enter her, as Ed had done with Beth.
I positioned myself with the head of my cock brushing Sue's clit and wet opening, I did not just push myself inside of Sue, I took hold of my cock and started massaging Sue's clit with the head of my cock. I had my left hand on her hip, and with ever stroke I made on her clit, I could feel her body motion back wanting me to enter her.
As I teased Sue's clit with my cock, I could hear Beth and Ed's breathing getting heavier, I knew they would cum at any moment, As that thought entered my mind, my wife shooting her orgasm all over another man's cock buried inside her, I chose to stop teasing and slid myself inside of Sue, as soft moans of pleasure filled her lungs, I placed my hands on her hips, and then wrapped my arms around her to feel her soft nipples protruding and hard.
We both fucked in rhythm, as I pushed into her, she pushed onto me. The sensation was sending electricity through my body. I could feel Susan getting wetter as she began to fuck me faster.
Ed and I looked at each other fucking each other's wives and their body's taking in another man's cock for the first time. The sights and sounds were hard to ignore, we enjoyed everything we were seeing tasting, feeling and doing.
Suddenly I felt Sue bucking faster and breathing louder, moans straining to pierce past her lips. Beth was moving her body faster, and more forcefully, wanting to cum badly as this hard seven inch cock was readying to shoot its hot cum deep inside of her.
We all looked at each other and with one last tense moment we let go of the strain we made holding back to the slow build of an orgasm none of us ever felt this intense before. Ed and I both pushed deeper and harder and as far as we could push into the women and could no longer hold back the mounting liquid at the tip of our swollen cocks inside each woman, we both shot our hot cum inside of the other man's wife. As Ed and I were shooting the last few drops of cum. the women in sync with each other in the moment tensed their bodies as they screamed in an orgasmic thrill. Beth and Sue’s cum was mixing with the men's cum already present in their bodies.
Our bodies slowed to a relaxed motionless state. Both Ed and I withdrew our shining wet cocks still semi-hard from fucking each other's wife. We all returned to our respective spouses, I sat with Beth and we passionately kissed, as did Ed and Sue. We remained sitting in the same spot for about ten minutes. I felt some more stirring and knew that being there with two other people was building up my arousal yet again. Beth and I just had some of the most incredible sex, I could feel my cock begin to rise again, and noticed that Sue was already stroking Ed to hardness. Seeing that worked on my sensations and brought me too a firmness in Beth's hand.
Beth lowered her mouth to my cock and could taste my precum and Sue's cum which mixed sweetly in her mouth. She proceeded to offer me her mouth, she was on all fours when Sue lowered herself onto her back and slid under Beth, Sue reached to take hold of Beth's hips and pull her down to her mouth, Sue then began to lick Beth's wetness which tasted of Beth's and Ed's cum. The more she licked Beth, the more Beth moaned all the while continuing to take my cock into her mouth, sliding her lips along the shaft, up and down. Eric had gotten up and walked past Sue and Beth and brought his hard cock to me which I gladly took into my mouth again. There we were, Sue eating Beth who was sucking me while I continued sucking Ed. It was an all-round beautiful sight. We continued like that for another ten minutes, when I suggested that we each do a 69 with each other.
I said Ed and I will do one and Beth and Sue do one. Everybody agreed, so we lay down, Ed on top of me with my cock in his mouth and his in mine. Beth was on her back as Sue lowered her dripping pussy onto Beth’s waiting tongue.
Ed and I continued to mouth each other's hard cocks, tasting the spurting pre cum from the tip, sticky and sweet. We could feel our bodies quicken toward orgasm. Beth was the first to make the familiar sound of her cumming hard, and then we could hear Sue’s build up and release, when Ed and I heard the women cumming it made me and Eric sucking harder bringing us both to simultaneous orgasm in each other's mouths.
After another relaxed period, we all got up and headed to the bathroom for a quick clean-up in the shower. Ed and Sue invited us to use it first, we got in and embraced, we kissed, tongues rolling around, Beth could taste the remnants of Ed’s cum in my mouth which she feverously took into her mouth. Beth and I were being watched by Ed and Sue, and that was voyeuristic excitement building within us. My cock started standing again. I thought, a third time? Nothing I want to pass up. Beth stroked me to a full hard cock. She turned around and spread her legs and said please fuck me, I want you badly. I need to feel your cock inside me.
I crouched down enough to push my cock just past her pussy lips, and then pushed in and up fast. She shivered and let out a sound entirely erotic. I fucked my wife in the shower, Ed and Sue positioned themselves into their own doggy style fucking against the vanity; he was pushing into her as I was pushing into Beth.
I reached for her neck, put my hand around her throat and gently pulled her head back stretching her body in an arched position allowing my cock to penetrate her further and deeper.
As I felt Beth moving slowly up and down against my sensitive cock, swallowing me inside of her, I felt her tense up and I knew that she was cumming again, her muscles squeezing my cock so much that the feeling I got was enough in my mind to force my cock to release my remaining cum inside of her, to mix with Ed's cum.

[COLOR=black][FONT=Calibri][FONT=Calibri]It all began as I moved into a new city and found a home based hair stylist to cut my hair. She and her husband were very open and fun to be with as our friendship grew. When I had some time I would stop by and help with basic electrical, swapping a pump on the pool, change the oil.... As this went on for a month or two and we started having a little wine together. One evening, after a long week on the road I was looking forward to getting home and just relaxing. As I pulled into the drive, I got a call asking for some help, I changed and drove over after telling hem this will cost you dinner. I arrive to their house and find the wood splitter blew a hose. I did ask them to get a spare before as it was a little ratty looking and fumble in the work shed to find it. Getting the tools out Rich helps me out as Nat is getting the BBQ ready as it was a really nice summer evening. Rich and I work on getting a new hose on, change the hydraulic filter and then start filling the system and priming it - all the time talking and making remarks about how great Nat looks. He mentions to me that she likes me. Not sure what to say, I struggled to blurt out she is very nice also. He laughs and says did I not notice when she cuts my hair she always wears a miniskirt and tight top sometimes without a bra and rubs against me. Blushing, I mentioned I did and really liked it but thought it was just her being her. Nat is a good looking woman with nice round full breasts and some would say a little heavy. To me she had a Marilyn figure maybe a little more but very shapely. Rich just smiled and slapped my back with a laugh and added let's eat.[/FONT][/FONT][/COLOR]


[COLOR=black][FONT=Calibri][FONT=Calibri]As we get to the deck, I said I could really use a shower or at least clean up before; Rich nodded and shared my view so off we go. I follow Rich to the main bath and he says, tell you what we can save time. As I go to their main bath for the first time, I see this shower that is big enough for four people - it's huge. I shrug and say well there are two heads and it like going to the gym right... So he gets in first and starts washing off, I wait a minute longer and then get in as he is almost done. Before I notice he is out and all is good. I finish rinsing off and step out to the big towels are missing and a medium size one neatly folded for me - this thing is not going to wrap around me, and worst, my clothes are no longer on the floor. I dry off and stand there not sure what to do. I cover up a little and sneak to the door looking down the hall thinking wtf? As my head peaks out I see Nat walking towards me with this BBQ apron on she asks if all is ok and I smile and replied I could use my clothes... She grins and asks me to follow her. As she turns around I notice for the first time that all she has on is the apron. Her breast perfectly cupped in the material showing that beautiful silhouette, her bare back fully exposed and her beautiful round ass seemed to be smiling at me like a Cheshire cat.[/FONT][/FONT][/COLOR]

[COLOR=black][FONT=Calibri][FONT=Calibri]Trying to control myself, I turn the corner and see Rich sitting there naked as well. He looks at me and replies it's too hot out for clothes - hope you don't mind. As I sit at the table, the burgers and salad are served and Nat then walks to the stove area and takes the apron off and turn towards u, I see her naked for the first time and this time I could not help but get instantly hard as her breasts bounced with each step slightly swaying and her muff was perfectly manicured with a small landing strip. Unfortunately for me, the table is a glass top! She smiles at me not saying anything. We eat and shoot the breeze and have a little wine. Rich mentioned that since my wife and kids are gone for the weekend, why don't I sleep over and we can open another bottle - who can argue with that logic. He gets up to get the bottle and Nat catches me looking at her breasts as one of her nipples is resting on the glass table and hard as I ever seen... she giggles and says the glass is cold - but I would love to get them warmed up. Puzzled I look at her and she tells me that they are discreet swingers who usually do not play at the house but they wanted to get to know me much better, along with the fact that she knew my sex department was virtually nonexistent. I remembered we always joked about "did you get lucky?" [/FONT][/FONT][/COLOR]

[COLOR=black][FONT=Calibri][FONT=Calibri]At that I stood up and walked around the table to her as she stood also, our lips met and it was the most wet and hot kiss I had had in a very long time, our tongues finding each other and my hands went from the small of her back to her ass needed her cheeks like a backer to dough. We moved to the living room as I sat down not even fully on the couch her mouth was wrapped around my hard cock. It was heavenly, then like a fog lifting I saw Rich standing in the doorway with the fresh bottle. He grinned and suggested we take this to the bedroom. That night we had wine watched each other with Nat and cuddled her playing with her tits or pussy. [/FONT][/FONT][/COLOR]

[COLOR=black][FONT=Calibri][FONT=Calibri]The next morning, we showered and got breakfast ready again not wearing anything - but I was so comfortable it was great. We lounged in the secluded hot tub for a bit and then Nat said "I want cock" with that she got up and went inside, Rich and I followed. Rich started cupping her tits from behind and then lowered a hand to her waiting pussy, as I stood there getting harder. Nat looked at me and whispered she wanted to sit on my face, with that I was on the living room carpet in a flash, she lowered herself but in a revers cowgirl so I though a 69 - cool. She rode me lifting herself so I could lick her dangling pussy lips and suck them into my mouth as she kept herself vertical. I felt a warm mouth engulf my cock and for a second a shiver of panic then four hands caressing me easing my tension. Wow, my first bi experience. We spent the rest of the day experimenting as Rich massaged and sucked me and I him and then Nat and Rich sucking me.... We had toys out and the room was so sexually charged we could have done anything to each other. Nat got out a small strap on and told me to watch as she slid into Rich I leaned in and played with Nat's clit then Rich's cock, stroking it as he came hard but wanted more. Nat took a condom, rolled on my hard cock and said do us both as she leaned forward next to Rich. I was going to slid it into her pussy as her hand covered her pussy lips. Rich took more lube and dabbed it on Nat's ass and his and it was clear he was first. Not knowing what to really do I got the head close to his hole and slid in slowly. Half way I stopped and then slid back and forth all the while Nat had her face in a pillow and fingering her pussy in front of me and using an anal plug herself. I pulled out and moved to Nat slowly entering her. She was also tight and I stopped half way not wanting to hurt her either. A few strokes in she met my downward thrust with her own and I was balls deep in her ass - so different, tight all around, hot and almost a sucking action. A few minutes and Rich got up and went behind me playing with my ass as well and slowly inserting a butt plug into me all the while he was getting hard again. He stood and I sucked him fully erect as I fucked Nat in the ass. He then tapped me to stand aside as he wanted to fuck her good. I took the condom off and wiped with a towel as Rich entered her and pounded until he came filling her ass with hot cum and letting it drizzle out. I had seen him cum in her pussy but this was erotic. He took his finger and played with it a little - not sure why but I instinctively went down on her and licked her ass and the drizzle that was running to her puffy lips. Nat rolled on her back as I kept eating her pussy and then I slide my cock into her. Our pace quickened and I said I should put something on... as she groaned No! Fill my hot pussy, I want you to cum in me. I came so hard it felt like I was peeing and filled her and almost collapsed to her side as Rich first licked me and then spent time licking my cum from Nat's pussy. [/FONT][/FONT][/COLOR]

[COLOR=black][FONT=Calibri][FONT=Calibri]We tried to see each other a few times a month at first and then became a monthly get together. At times Rich and I would watch a movie and j/o each other off or a little oral play and other time it was Nat and I. It was very open and carefree and never got beyond what it was. After three years of seeing each other, Rich was transferred to the West Coast for some long term environmental assessment study. I still and very thankful they showed me how poly should be and how two, three or more people can act and be together without fear of judgment or jealousy.[/FONT][/FONT][/COLOR]

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Sexual labels and definitions are social constructs which unfortunately have a deep impact in our human sexuality. The existing moral divide implanted in our brain between different so called sexual orientations is a clear example of the subject being manipulated by these artificial constructs, among them we find the concepts of heterosexual normality and homosexual deviation. Trying to fit in these two opposite extremes any other sexual manifestation and preferences which may not abide by the accepted social standards is an economic imperative of our current socio-economic environment since the diversity could undermine the accommodating bipolarity of what's good or wrong in sex following the oppressive morality of the moment.


As pure biological entities we belong to one of the rare species in the planet where sex is not just a reproductive instinct but an integral part of our interaction with other human beings. In our case sex is an inseparable mix of need and desire. If we tried to apply our labels and definitions to the other species known to be involved in sexual activities beyond the rigid biological reproductive obligation, we would have to face a gruesome dilemma. They simply ignore our rules and therefore display a wide variety of sexual activities where the same individuals engage with both genders following only temporary and circumstantial factors. Are they then naturally born bisexuals? No, they just don't need any labels. There is no need for them to define themselves within any shade of the sexual spectrum since they may move without distinctions along this same wide spectrum according to the factors mentioned earlier.


Then what happened to us? What makes us different from the bonobo apes or dolphins with respect to our sexuality? If you read The History of Sexuality by Michael Foucault there is an interesting thesis which I believe may explain this awkward situation in which we are now. Sexuality was transformed during the Victorian times into just another instrument of oppression. The elite wanted people to focus on their work, to increase the productivity and thus multiply the profits. Sex was an undesirable distraction and needed to be confined exclusively to the matrimony bedroom and for the unique purpose of reproduction. Nobody should even talk about sex acts in public. This thesis allowed me to understand that sex has been also mixed into the same cauldron of oppressive tools together with religious institutions and bourgeoise morals in order to suppress any manifestation of free will which could affect the productive output of the individual worker.


If we link the History of Sexuality with the previous scientific fact about the open sexual behavior of the other sexually active species, we should arrive to a compelling conclusion that sexual orientation, as it's understood in our current world, is a cynic artificial invention forced into our own state of mind and imprinted in the internal and external projection of our self within the existing socio-economic framework. What we see today as the standard, the so called heterosexual normality, is not a natural phenomenon nor the result of any evolutive process taking place in our social mind. It is simply an artificial creation, a social construct to serve the governing elite in their purpose to extract more profit and to keep the masses submissive and focused exclusively on their work. Only by recognizing this fact, this social construct could be then successfully deconstructed.


Humans like the other sexually active species are born without prejudices or any firm unchangeable sexual preference. With the exception of a truly hormonal distortion which could affect the biological inner self gender and thus making someone to become biologically inclined into following the sexual behavior of the opposite sex, the rest of us are supposed not to follow any preset rules about what we should desire and the way we could obtain personal gratification from sex. We should respond exclusively to the circumstantial and temporary factors mentioned before like availability, compatibility and our own sudden sexual impulses of the instant. The way we decide to engage in sexual activities with someone in specific or with various individuals together from both genders should be an exclusive non judgmental process happening in our brains where we would analyze only those specific circumstantial and temporary factors mentioned above.


In summary, the heterosexual normality is just an invention so deeply imprinted in our mind that we truly believe it is something that most people would follow by instinct while the other forms of sexuality are merely deviation of that norm. Homosexuality situated on the other extreme of the spectrum is trying now to gain social recognition and to establish itself also like an alternative norm for those who claim being born that way. In my opinion there is no point in encapsulating our human sexuality in either of these extremes and a mistake implying that these are natural states of mind defining someone to be born straight or gay. I'm not saying it is a choice because it is not, but we haven't found yet a gene that defines sexual preferences from the moment we were born.


Sexuality should be separated from the rest of our social behaviors because being a biological urge to receive gratification from sex is not a cause for projecting ourselves as representatives of a preset norm of sexual conduct. We should get rid of these internal and external taboos and feel free to experiment with any form of sexuality without having to put a label or fit into a specific definition. Socially we are entities well above the sexual preferences of everyone. Sex is just for our very private entertainment and should never have become a social issue nor a political flag. However, due to the existing conditions, the long term repression of our sexuality, the degradation of homosexuality and the oppression of women, it's understandable and totally necessary to fight for our rights and to get the recognition we deserve as sexual beings no matter what preferences we believe we have. On the other hand, this should not be an obstacle for our own internal liberation from the same taboos and preset norms we are trying to fight at the social level. By first stripping ourselves from the labels and definitions we can then experiment and explore every single way of obtaining sexual gratification and be bound only by the criminal code forbidding non consensual sex, the only restriction which should stay in place inside our minds.


That was supposed to be our true History of Sexuality until the production relationships entered in the equation together with one of the most horrible crime committed by our specie, the oppression of females by the males. This gender oriented power structure in our human society undoubtedly created the imprint in our minds about the superiority of the masculine over the female and therefore the association between authority and virility. Any submissive role taken by a male in sexual interactions was viewed as a lack of virility and therefore socially and mentally diminishing. This together with the requirement to suppress sexuality in general made possible the establishment of the monogamous heterosexual normality and the social degradation of anything outside of that imposed standard.


I'm totally convinced that if we could hypothetically isolated a small group of human babies and follow up from a distance their social evolution focusing exclusively on their sexual behaviour we would be able to witness a large spectrum of preferences these individuals would develop once they had reached their puberty. Under the lack of externally preset norms, we should expect that a great diversity of sexual interactions would be displayed among the subjects without any specific gender preference. Following this line of thoughts in that direction it would be impossible to define one specific set of sexual cannons as innate or the natural outcome. Therefore we should arrive to the conclusion that our normative standards enclosing human sexual behaviour are entirely determined by the dominating type of production relationships and enforced through known tools like the religious morality, the conservative traditionalism and the political and economic existing framework.

I do believe that the origin of the heterosexual normality currently predominant in our modern society was born under the influence of these external non biological factors which we can call social constructs. Meaning that the socio-economic environment is the one that dictates how we as individuals view our own sexuality and forces us to encapsulate our mind in an apparently natural state which defines our so called sexual orientation which must be constantly projected towards our internal self and also outside to the social being that we represent.


Sexual preferences if left alone and outside of the social framework would develop spontaneously and in response to circumstantial and temporary factors, changing and evolving indistinctly and without any moral ranking. In this scenario the use of sexual orientation as a social identifier would be not only superfluous but damaging because as soon as sexuality becomes part of the definition of who we are as social beings, there would be the need to apply the concepts of right and wrong to these interactions and be measured using the same rules of conduct as with the rest of our social behaviors. Therefore we should stay away from any labels or definitions and feel free to search for new ways to expand our own sexual gratification without having all the time to question ourselves if we are gays or straights or bisexuals.

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