Long Duck Dong
Oct 23, 2009, 10:18 PM
this is something that I have thought about many times....
the traditional wedding vows.... they are suited to people with a monogamous marriage..... but as bisexuals we can follow a different path
so I am curious, how many of us, do the traditional vows and how many of us would change them so when we say they, we are speaking them for a more * truthful * heart
I have to be careful here, as I am not intending to imply that people said their vows with fake intentions, as I know that people can enter marriage with a genuine heart and find later that they have changed so the original vows do not match the person and their intentions as they would stand now
personally and I have spoken to my current partner, we do both agree, we would custom make wedding vows that realistically match us as people, so that we are honouring the vows we would say in a marriage...
tho again, my partner and I have both agreed and look forward to a celtic style hand binding.... but not the modern style as my wicca beliefs are not modern wicca... but the old style.... as I do come from a long and rich history of wicca that is more than 10 generations long.....
and with aspects of blackfoot blood in her, that we honour her heritage as well
so its a celtic / scottish / wiccan / blackfoot old style type wedding we would have..... and including a embracing of the bisexual nature in the vows....
anyways, back to the topic.... do the traditional vows match the bisexual lifestyle and would you change them when you marry, or have you married using the traditional vows and thought that they fit at the time, but now you would reword them
I, (name), take you, (name), to be my [opt: lawfully wedded] (husband/wife), my constant friend, my faithful partner and my love from this day forward. In the presence of God, our family and friends, I offer you my solemn vow to be your faithful partner in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, and in joy as well as in sorrow. I promise to love you unconditionally, to support you in your goals, to honor and respect you, to laugh with you and cry with you, and to cherish you for as long as we both shall live.
the traditional wedding vows.... they are suited to people with a monogamous marriage..... but as bisexuals we can follow a different path
so I am curious, how many of us, do the traditional vows and how many of us would change them so when we say they, we are speaking them for a more * truthful * heart
I have to be careful here, as I am not intending to imply that people said their vows with fake intentions, as I know that people can enter marriage with a genuine heart and find later that they have changed so the original vows do not match the person and their intentions as they would stand now
personally and I have spoken to my current partner, we do both agree, we would custom make wedding vows that realistically match us as people, so that we are honouring the vows we would say in a marriage...
tho again, my partner and I have both agreed and look forward to a celtic style hand binding.... but not the modern style as my wicca beliefs are not modern wicca... but the old style.... as I do come from a long and rich history of wicca that is more than 10 generations long.....
and with aspects of blackfoot blood in her, that we honour her heritage as well
so its a celtic / scottish / wiccan / blackfoot old style type wedding we would have..... and including a embracing of the bisexual nature in the vows....
anyways, back to the topic.... do the traditional vows match the bisexual lifestyle and would you change them when you marry, or have you married using the traditional vows and thought that they fit at the time, but now you would reword them
I, (name), take you, (name), to be my [opt: lawfully wedded] (husband/wife), my constant friend, my faithful partner and my love from this day forward. In the presence of God, our family and friends, I offer you my solemn vow to be your faithful partner in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, and in joy as well as in sorrow. I promise to love you unconditionally, to support you in your goals, to honor and respect you, to laugh with you and cry with you, and to cherish you for as long as we both shall live.