What do you fall for in another human being?

[Devin]

I tend to fall for a combination of beauty, integrity and intellect.

What kind of traits do you find appealing in another human being? And what is of vital importance?

[Realist]

I am usually drawn to others on superficial levels, but that can quickly change. My initial impressions are often over-turned for varied reasons.

People who are very attractive to me, upon first sight, may turn out to be a total turn-off. Those who are not initially appealing do, at times, become exceptionally attractive.

The secret is their personality, compatibility, heart and soul. Those traits usually out-shines all of the superficiality.

[berryhard]

often a combo off this list. first pass is looks, once they open thier mouth it is intelect and wit. from there at varies based on what relationship you are looking for, sexual, friend, co-worker, spouce.
Anyone being honest has to say looks, it is ingrained in us to see apearance first.

[dirtycouple]

there should be more then one choice because most people don't base it on just one thing.It's always a number of things that attract us to others.looks and body types,intelect and wits.

[woodstockloner]

i usually fall for personality

[Metzli]

I like Gothic guys with a cheeky smile and a good sense of humor :bigrin:
I could never fall for someone who takes life to seriously

[eddy10]

I am not sure I even know the answer to this one. Like all of us that have responded, to me it is a combination of things. All I can say is that there is a "click" that sometimes happens.

It is kind of like food ... I like most all food. Just that some tastes much better than others.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Personality, wit, easy-going, naughty fun-loving nature. Intelligence. Looks arent all that important. Its the heart and soul of a person that counts with me the most. :} Make me smile and laugh and 'get' my strange sense of humor, and I'm yours...LOL:bigrin:
Cat

[onewhocares]

My choice of personality first was not a given choice, so I chose charisma the all encompassing trait. Then for me is wit, humor, brains and those EYES. Money and success are secondary. I would rather have a man who is comfortable in his own skin and can make his way in the world.

Belle

[Devin]

My choice of personality first was not a given choice, so I chose charisma the all encompassing trait. Then for me is wit, humor, brains and those EYES. Money and success are secondary. I would rather have a man who is comfortable in his own skin and can make his way in the world.

Belle

I hope charisma can pass for a superficial side of the personality.

As a matter of fact, I thought back and forth if I should have chosen "personality" as one of the alternatives instead. However, "personality" may be a very complex matter. It also may take time to know another individual’s true personality.

[destiny200b]

Naturally, looks, personality, intellect, and a good sense of humor play an important role, but what really gets me is talent. An artist, actor, singer, musician etc., male or female, just destroys me. Not in the groupie way mind you, I'm way over 16!

[roy m cox]

Personality, wit, easy-going, naughty fun-loving nature. Intelligence. Looks arent all that important. Its the heart and soul of a person that counts with me the most. :} Make me smile and laugh and 'get' my strange sense of humor, and I'm yours...LOL:bigrin:
Cat

sorta the same :bigrin: money don't hurt lol :bigrin:

:bipride::bipride::bipride::bipride:

[diget]

a combo of brains and body for me. :bigrin:

[Donkey_burger]

This may sound incredibly cheesy, but gets my attention the most is a good sense of humor. Then, you have to be friendly, and also not be nervous and all :eek: about my neurological wiring (HUGE TURNOFF, BTW!). Politics matter to some degree as well.

DB :bipride:

[nocturnal08]

what draws me fist is that total charisma they would exude not the im too good kind but the kind that says i feel comfortable in my own skin, the type i say my oh my look who just joined the party so beautiful so dashing, coupled with wit and intellect and kind of a down to earth attitude not the kind u feel u got to reach every star in heaven just to see them smile.looks---even the most captivating ones show true ugliness in the spirit of being themselves yeah...a modest smile and a little commonsense thats the ticket:tongue:;)

[coyotedude]

Not a bad list, but it was missing some of the things I look for in a person. Compassion, for instance, is a big one for me. Beauty, perhaps, but within the heart and soul rather than physical beauty. (Not that a fine looking tush doesn't attract my eyes on occasion!)

Peace

[12voltman59]

Overall--what wins me over is personality--I prefer someone like myself--someone who is easy going, has some humor but not in a mean way--can be serious when need be but also have a lighter take on things--

I won't say that that looks don't play some role in what attracts me to a person---but I can say---I am more leery of those who are "too attractive"----and they place a higher degree of importance on their appearance than they do on those things that make for what I find attractive in terms of personality----I have found that even if someone has a really "HOTT" exterior--if they have an "unattractive" interior---that tends to express itself in some fashion on the outside---and there is one thing that is generally true for most human beings---someone can be really gorgeous when they are young--but beauty generally does fade over time and if one is an asshole for years--that nastiness does come to express itself very strongly on the exterior in later life.

For all of this-like a lot of things--I cannot so clearly define what encompasses all the things I speak--but I know this---both good and bad--I know it when I see it or "sense it"!!

[MarieDelta]

Personality, wit, easy-going, naughty fun-loving nature. Intelligence. Looks arent all that important. Its the heart and soul of a person that counts with me the most. :} Make me smile and laugh and 'get' my strange sense of humor, and I'm yours...LOL:bigrin:
Cat

Amen Cat

[Donkey_burger]

I have found that even if someone has a really "HOTT" exterior--if they have an "unattractive" interior---that tends to express itself in some fashion on the outside---and there is one thing that is generally true for most human beings---someone can be really gorgeous when they are young--but beauty generally does fade over time and if one is an asshole for years--that nastiness does come to express itself very strongly on the exterior in later life.

For all of this-like a lot of things--I cannot so clearly define what encompasses all the things I speak--but I know this---both good and bad--I know it when I see it or "sense it"!!

I agree that nastiness tends to come out on the outside. Not to be offensive, but I see this with people with psych disabilities sometimes. I think this is partially (or mostly, perhaps) due to the nastiness received as much as the nastiness given out.

I also tend to "sense" who I want to hang out with. Interesting how that works.

DB :bipride:

[AdamKadmon43]

I have quit "falling" for anyone for any reason.

It has generally been my experience in life that it only leads to heartbreak, sorrow and pain.

[Donkey_burger]

I have quit "falling" for anyone for any reason.

It has generally been my experience in life that it only leads to heartbreak, sorrow and pain.

Aww, sorry to hear that.

If you don't mind me asking, what happened?

DB :flag2:

[handlebar]

I wanted to choose a few of the above listed available but could only pick one. Intellect,wit and sense of humor are all important to me. As many here,I fall for the person,not the gender. My wife feels the same way.

[sebax]

i don't know how to describe because every person I come in contact is very different.. I probably have to say personality, charisma, intelligence..
and looks at some level