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[TaylorMade]

Good vs Bad you all crack me up.
The problem with the good guy/bad boy issues is both side take it to extremes. I submit what most women really want is a bit of both wrapped up in a man. It's ok for a good guy to be a little bad. Good is boring, but noble. Its ok for a bad boy to give a crap and treat someone he cares for well. Bad is exciting, but painful.


My suggestion to good guys worried about being overshadowed by bad boys is this: Man the fuck up. Do something wild every now and again. Grab her by the hair and tell her what you really want once in a while. Shave your balls and walk into the room butt naked. Kiss her w/o saying hello first. Buy that leather jacket you've had your eye on. Say no to her. The appeal of the bad boy is passion and unpredictability.

Bad boys, well you don't care what I have to say anyway, so please continue.

I sit firmly on the fence. I'm kind and generous, I'm passionate and dangerous. I have no qualms giving you anything your heart desires and snuggling on the couch. But I also will smack your ass and say "your welcome".

As my ex always said, "I like a nice guy, but there's gotta be a little cock in the walk."

This was by a straight guy, but I think our bi bois can take a leaf out of this notebook... both with their male or female partners.

*Taylor*

[wefco2315]

Funny...many truths there...keep it unpredictable...change it up every now and then and you will have a very long relatinship:)

[gfofbiguy]

I completely agree - I like unpredictability and passion and "dangerous" (to a point), but I also like kind, generous and other "good boy" qualities. Having a mix of both good and bad is always good for a relationship, as long as one doesn't overshadow the other:cool:

[TaylorMade]

Funny...many truths there...keep it unpredictable...change it up every now and then and you will have a very long relatinship:)


You did the shave your balls then walk into the room naked thing, didn't you?

:tong:

*Taylor*

[frikidiki]

I guess I'd better say something, right, sweetie? ;-)

Not to be a stick in the mud, but I never gave any thought to how "dangerous" I am or appear to be. I think most men are exactly this mix of "good/bad" if they're really honest with themselves. Women aren't any different. I agree, though, that fear holds us back. I am not without my own fears, but as I get older, I see my fears more clearly as the real danger.

I'm a born explorer, like my dad. I love driving OTR (a dangerous enterprise), and I love the aspect of going somewhere new or infrequently visited. At home, I would drive around town just to know the roads and where good places to eat, shop, and live are. I love hiking, and wish I could do more of it. I'm always trying to learn and come across new ideas as well as understand the established ones. For someone like me, the real danger is stagnation and complacency; yet, the familiar things have their places in our lives, too.

For a nutty moralist like myself, there's more to being a nice guy or a bad boy than just appearing so. Doing the right thing despite concerns for safety, convenience, or convention; having what I call righteous anger in the face of injustice, falsehood, and evil; seeking out the reality of a subject rather than relying on public or majority opinion; and other such inspired moments, can be just as dangerous as wearing a leather jacket and riding a motorcycle, or whatever image of "bad" we wish to use. I don't care for image--it's a mask to hide our real selves from ourselves and others. I'd rather be myself, and history shows that to be consistently more dangerous and frightening. To what extent I live to this ideal remains to be seen, and with God's help, I will live this my dangerous life and die happy.

Having said all this, I am really craving a rollercoaster ride!