View Full Version : A rant: 3'somes.
innaminka
Jan 3, 2009, 8:55 PM
Just a little rant.
A thread was posted below regarding a husbands expectations that his wife's bisexulaity would result in him participating in some wonderful FFM 3 somes?
Which have not eventuated. This is nothing to do with the poster of that thread.
My rant is about why there is a common belief (mainly among men, i must admit) that if his female partner is bi, it will involve 3'somes (or more) :eek:
That any form of bisex will involve multiple partners?????
So many people just don't get it.!! It doesn't!!! :flag3:
Okay, i feel better now! :)
the sacred night
Jan 3, 2009, 8:58 PM
Good! I think you said what many of us were thinking!
evilpanda
Jan 4, 2009, 4:11 AM
We discussed this at great length in one of my threads.
A big part of it is where men get their impressions of bisexual women. Porn, MTV reality shows, and evil doppelgangers from the Star Trek mirror universe.
God forbid guys should get to know a REAL bi woman. That would undermine traditional family values and the unending male stupidity it entails.
:bipride::bipride::bipride:
Argh. Men suck, yet we still want to suck them. Go figure.
lovedoctor
Jan 4, 2009, 1:54 PM
I can understand what you are saying, though for me in particular I prefer my bisexuality to apply itself in the context of a threesome (MMF). I have very little interest in a one on one sexual activity with a man, however, when put in the context of a threesome (or moresome) I absolutely love it. All of my bi experiences have occurred within that framework. Does that mean in the future would I not play with just a guy, no, just right now its not a big interest. I can see where people think that bi-play should involve a group setting, but you are right there really isn't a need for that. Really, to each his or her own. :three:
fairbankswingers
Jan 4, 2009, 3:25 PM
We have run into that on so many occasions and it drives us both nuts...I prefer MM or MF, but when we are with another couple a MMFF mix is always good...but nothing like a private moment with a lover ;) but pron is most likely the worse thing where it says to folks that bi males are bad and bi woman love 3somes????
vittoria
Jan 4, 2009, 6:18 PM
Porn movies/mags/anime/et al have a LOT to do with the mentality of people and the perception that if a woman is bi then SUDDENLY AND MAGICALLY she is bound to have 3 some sex with her mate.. real life is not a porno, and some people ( especially a certain mentality of male) have these ignorant expectations of such.
Men arent completely at fault for this either... that ridiculous dreck titled " I kissed a girl and I liked it" repulses me for the sheer fact of the all too frequent bimbo-ish " I'm SOOOOOOOOOOo drunk I must run and dry hump all the women" bullshit to attract men that the youngins do so frequently. Ingestion of alcohol does NOT change your sexuality preference! It may be experimentation and all, but it gets on my nerves. Just my opinion, some may share it, some may not.
innaminka
Jan 4, 2009, 7:03 PM
Please don't think I am saying 3'somes shouldn't happen - yes, they are for some a wonderful benefit of bisexuality.
The more the merrier, for many.
What I was saying is that amongs non-bi people, there is the belief that bi-sex always involves multiple parners, which we all know is incorrect.
Thanks for the different responses. :tongue:
Sebastian1977
Jan 5, 2009, 1:19 AM
Your observation is valid about people assuming that bisexuality is equivalent to threesomes. In my own personal case, I have lived as a gay man all of my adult life and have never had a sexual experience with a woman. At the same time I have always been attracted to women but never acted on my feelings because I was always told that being bisexual was perverted and unnatural. Now, at 31 yrs old I feel I am seriously missing something in my life but wouldn't dare approach a woman for fear of not being able to sexually perform with a woman (or having to say that I am a virgin when it comes to women). So now...I look for a couple where I can have another male "walk" me through the basics. I imagine that after having the first experience I would totally want to try being with just a woman...1 on 1.