Anal Sex

[othamble2]

Hello to everyone!

I have a question for all who like receiving anal sex, especially the guys,do it damage or affect in a negative way the muscles that control your bowel movement within you but?

[welickit]

It has never had any effect on me. Although I would suggest not trying to take more than you handle comfortably. The wife doesn't really care for anal but she will let me in there when I ask. It has never damaged her in any way either.

[NaughtyNorm]

Anal SEX.. Someone said it is one of the best kept secrets... I have loved it for over fifty years, and it just seems to get better. I have what I feel is an orgasam when being butt fucked, and can have several... I was gang banged by 10 guys once (before AIDS showed up) and didn't bother me.. Still love the memory... Few years ago played with very large toy and I was sore way up inside for a few days, I wasn't listening to what my body was telling me... "If it hurts too much STOP!!".
After second divorce I had a G.F. that fisted me... She knew what she was doing and it was GREAT!! With no ill efects... Sorry she moved away...
Love doesn't allways feel like it should.... Just STOP if it hurts too much...
So don't be afraid to let go and have a wonderful time... Clip the finger nails and wear gloves.. So much better... OH!!! Tons of LUBE...
:cool:

[rissababynta]

that's a good rule of thumb. if it doesn't feel good, then don't do it.

of course with anal sex there is some kind of tearing of the tissue, usually very small. practically microscopic, unless you have something HUGE in there :tong: in fact, a lot of people that i have known that enjoy anal had a bit of spotting their first time. i have never actually heard of it doing any kind of damage to the muscles though. that's the beauty of msucles, they can handle a hell of a lot.

[Bicuriousity]

I've noticed it can be harder to get an erection for a day or so after being the anal bottom.

[DiamondDog]

I've noticed it can be harder to get an erection for a day or so after being the anal bottom.

interesting.

In my experiences with exploring anal sex which have been fingers and toys, both alone and with other men I don't have a problem getting an erection the next day or even later that day/night.

Of course I'm not that anally oriented at all, as I'm way more oral/masturbatory.

In the world of porn we see ass fucking with out any such worries. I think that leads many guys to think that they can be more spontaneous with anal sex than they should be.

In the real world, guys are not always fresh out of the shower, freshly douched and waiting to be fucked and rimmed 24 hours a day. Anyone that engages in anal sex has to deal with with this reality. You can either be very thorough with you and/or your partners ass cleaning/eating habits immediately before sex, or you can be like me and opt to do without the anal penetration or be like some men and save it for very special and very rare occasions only when you are sure all is well down there for you and/or you partner.

Personally, I don't think that men that have sex with other men should feel the need to emulate the penetration that occurs in heterosexual sex. We can have toe-curling sex without anal penetration, plus we get the benefit of having much safer sex at the same time.

Anal sex can damage you but that's if you don't use any lube, you go WAY too fast and do things like take a fist or a BIG cock or a big dildo way too fast (your body will tell you when enough is enough), and HUGE cocks/toys (we are talking about 10-12" and very wide here) can puncture your colon as can taking a fist/forearm if you're not ready for it.

Also, douching while some people do reccomend it isn't always that good to do either since you will become dependant on it in order to get clean, and it will wash away the natural mucous lining of your anus.

Douching can dry out and traumatize rectal and vaginal mucosa and make it more susceptible to tears that would facilitate diseases transmission. Douching after sex can actually push disease causing germs further into the body and make infection more likely.

You should be using a condom but that goes without saying.

In my exploration of anal sex I've just eaten lots of fiber in my daily diet, not done any douching, I just went to the bathroom like normally and I'd just wash myself on the outside and a bit on the inside with soap and water like normally in the shower.

No mess! No embarassment of douche water dripping out unexpectedly!

[triandtry]

I've noticed it can be harder to get an erection for a day or so after being the anal bottom.

well i have noticed that sometimes when im getting anal that it takes away from my erection but the pleasure of being penetrated anally makes up for the loss of erection and am i the only one that actually has an anal orgasm... after having anal done to me i am so relaxed and satisfied that i dont feel the need to come sometimes after but when i do man its an awesome....so far i have only experienced it with another man but my wife has given me anal several times and each time it fells even better as far as damage to muscles go i have never heard of it except for being to rough or to many times repeated

[othamble2]

Thanks for the responses! It is an awsome feeling you get when your anal is being explored. I love it when my g/f uses a dildo, finger, or dong on me, but i was affraid of damaging my but. I havent had it explored bi a guy but do wonder how would it feel since experimenting with g/f.

[NaughtyNorm]

Thanks for the responses! It is an awsome feeling you get when your anal is being explored. I love it when my g/f uses a dildo, finger, or dong on me, but i was affraid of damaging my but. I havent had it explored bi a guy but do wonder how would it feel since experimenting with g/f.
The Real Thing is REAL, Nothing compares with that.. :cool:

[stillconfused]

Do it while you're young, you lose sensation as you get older and you will eventually damage your hemorhoids. I've never taken a cock back there but got addicted to getting fingered-vibrated and blew out my roids when I was 35. It's a minor surgical procedure to get them ripped out but recovering is very painful. The usual pain subscription is Demerol, so you get the idea how intense the agony is. The ass is located so close to the spinal cord that all the pleasure and pain messages take the express train to the brain. Have fun, but quit when your thirty. If you must continue ask your doctor for Celebrex, it's way better than Demerol. Oh yeah, I almost forgot, I'll fuck you Norm.

[Rickh611]

I have never experienced any problems. take it very slowly at first let your partner know when it hurts and to stop and by all means keep up with lube it helps especially if your tight and its your first time.

After several experience you will know your limits and how much your rectum can handle you don't need anal sex for a good time. I like lots of foreplay first and leave the anal sex for last personally I enjoy because it heightens the intimacy and the pleasure between me and my male partner.

[james1]

Never had any issues but i've only had sex toys, not the real thing.
As efficient as usual ;)

[Bihornyguy]

Hello to everyone!

I have a question for all who like receiving anal sex, especially the guys,do it damage or affect in a negative way the muscles that control your bowel movement within you but?


No. You have taken many craps as big as or bigger most penises and that doesn't damage you right? Think about it. Properly lubed you won't have problems.


Here is a short tutorial I typed up a while back. It's how *I* learned about anal play..

The key to this is to take your time and go slow. You learn how to control your butt and schincter muscles. You learn how to RELAX THEM and you get used to the feeling of it all.
Anal play for beginners

Disclaimer: I am NOT a doctor and I do NOT play one on TV. This is the way *I* learned how to discover anal play. As usual care needs to be practiced. GO VERY SLOWLY.

First start off with a TRIMMED index finger. You may even want to put on a latex glove first to help make it even smoother. Use KY or the drug store brand of KY and lube the finger well. Place it VERY GENTLY near the anus and lightly circle the hole with the finger. DON'T INSERT YET. Just circle it for a few minutes. After a few minutes without insert, just put the finger over the anus and gently press a bit without entering. Just apply a bit of pressure.
Do this over and over a few times and after a few minutes SLOWLY begin to insert JUST THE FINGER *TIP* in about a quarter of an inch then take it out. Do this a few times then go a LITTLE further in. Repeat this until you have you whole finger in. DO NOT FORCE IT, IF HE OR SHE OR YOU SAYS STOP, STOP!

Within a week or so of trying this the person should be fairly used to the finger and inserting and pumping it in and out should become easy. Also try moving the finger around while inserted, back & forth,etc. Orgasms ARE VERY VERY INTENSE when you leave your finger or butt plug or dildo in.

Soon you will want to try something slightly bigger than your finger. Try your middle finger or graduate to a SMALL butt plug. Same rules apply to the new toy as did with the finger. Start off using the finger as usual then after getting loose begin with the plug.
Plugs have flared bottoms to prevent them from going all the way in. If you graduate to dildos later get ones with a flared base or ones that have the balls at the bottom. This prevents them from slipping all the way in. You don't need a trip to the ER to retrieve it, that would SUCK!
After a while you will become very used to anal play and you won't need much time to prep for your session. You'll loosen up very quickly after you learn how to relax your anal muscles. It takes me less than 5 minutes to go from start to riding a 8 inch silicon dildo like a bucking bronco!
GITTYUP LITTLE DOGGIE!

The key to learning anal play/sex is to TAKE YOUR TIME.

[anteak]

I learned early on that I enjoyed having objects including cocks up my ass. As a juvie i used my fingers and other objects, anything I thought would fit. In HS two friends and I started to fuck each other in the ass, mostly to find out what it felt like to put our cocks in another person and cum. Not many girls fucked then. In my late 40s met a Bi guy, he used to arrange for guys to fuck me then he would suck me off, really enjoyed that. B4 aids I visited gay baths and got fucked many times. Never seemed to get enough of it. One time I talked a guy into fisting me, liked that:-) I've been fisted by two men and two women. I have a collection of dildoes that I use and a BB bat that fits nicely. I'm in my 80s and have suffered no problems that I'm aware of. Your body will tell you if your going to far, take it easy and use lots of lube. Don't hurt yourself.

[absolutely_true]

I wouldn't worry too much about the muscles up in there. It's tearing of the soft lining that can go a long way. But to make it way easier, one word: Kegels. It's not just for girls anymore.

Basically you contract and release your butt several times slowly for about a minute. Just pretend you're hold in a fart, and then letting it out. This will exercise those muscles and make it a lot easier and painless.

Source: "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex" Tristan Taormino. Great book by the way, will recommend it to EVERYONE!!!

[chazz66]

i have never had a problem and have had a number of lovers who have taken me anally. just don't get ripped by taking some huge guy on, because that will hurt for a good while. also make sure your top goes slowly especially if he is big.

chazz

[dickhand]

I have enjoyed receiving anal for many years . Started out with a cousin when we were 13 or so . Still hook up occasionally . I have had several men over the years that have fucked me in the ass . Quite often I will cum during the act without even touching my cock . I believe that would be from stimulation to the prostate by the penis . Most intense orgasm too , by the way .

[timepga50]

I agree with most of the advice given here,just take it slow and stop if it hurts.I never had any problems and it really feels great to me;)