For gawds sake GET some sense AND CHILL

[dafydd]

"Daf - just go with the flow of what turns you on and what you are most comfortable with doing.
But at the same time, don't be critical of those who do enjoy the contact and pleasures of both sexes."

Wow I can't believe that so many people flamed me about not wanting a 3 way. Did I commit a bisexual cardinal sin...?
I just think sex should be between two people...and maybe 3 if ur extra hard....but give me a break people are so funny on this forum. thank god for diamonddog, who I totally want to import to the UK.....


:bipride:

[Azrael]

.thank god for diamonddog, who I totally want to import to the UK.....

That's my boy. He sure is something. Naturally I mean "my friend" not "my lover" :bigrin:

[TaylorMade]

"Daf - just go with the flow of what turns you on and what you are most comfortable with doing.
But at the same time, don't be critical of those who do enjoy the contact and pleasures of both sexes."

Wow I can't believe that so many people flamed me about not wanting a 3 way. Did I commit a bisexual cardinal sin...?
I just think sex should be between two people...and maybe 3 if ur extra hard....but give me a break people are so funny on this forum. thank god for diamonddog, who I totally want to import to the UK.....


:bipride:


Naw, you committed a general cardinal sin. If you're among a group of people that like something and you don't like it, criticizing it just is impolite. . .and it makes them 'get funny' as you described.
It's nice that you think sex should be between two people, but others here. . .well, don't. And making a blanket statement about something you haven't done just seems like the criticism we get from those outside the LBGT community.

Just saying.

*Taylor*

[dafydd]

Naw, you committed a general cardinal sin. If you're among a group of people that like something and you don't like it, criticizing it just is impolite. . .and it makes them 'get funny' as you described.
It's nice that you think sex should be between two people, but others here. . .well, don't. And making a blanket statement about something you haven't done just seems like the criticism we get from those outside the LBGT community.

Just saying.

*Taylor*

erm if u had read my original post you would have seen that it was a "discuss" scenario and ergo...i wanted advice and/or reasurrance. i don't think it was a "blanket statement" merely a way to open up dialougue around a tricky situation, and if you can't engage in that then i'm sorry. It's precious attitudes like this that make it logical when criticism is levelled at the bi community. Thanks for being accepting. Cheers.

d :bipride:

[TaylorMade]

erm if u had read my original post you would have seen that it was a "discuss" scenario and ergo...i wanted advice and/or reasurrance. i don't think it was a "blanket statement" merely a way to open up dialougue around a tricky situation, and if you can't engage in that then i'm sorry. It's precious attitudes like this that make it logical when criticism is levelled at the bi community. Thanks for being accepting. Cheers.

d :bipride:

Looking at your OP in that topic, the way you framed it left the impression that your mind was made up, and you were looking for people to give you a reason to like it despite your preconceived notions, with not a lot of evidence as to why that attitude was formed (though that did change later in the thread, to your credit)- - kind of like a "guilty till proven innocent" situation.

It's hardly a way to open up dialog and puts people on the defensive.

*Taylor*

[dafydd]

Looking at your OP in that topic, the way you framed it left the impression that your mind was made up, and you were looking for people to give you a reason to like it despite your preconceived notions, with not a lot of evidence as to why that attitude was formed (though that did change later in the thread, to your credit)- - kind of like a "guilty till proven innocent" situation.

It's hardly a way to open up dialog and puts people on the defensive.

*Taylor*

I think you're projecting and I don't fully understand you point of view. but that's okay. i signed up to this site knowing i would meet people like you

[rissababynta]

i signed up to this site knowing i would meet people like you


how is a statement like that any better than the people who "flamed" you? taylor is simply explaining how people could have become slightly defensive with the post, that's all.

[Azrael]

*snaps the rubber glove, grabs 3 syringes, one thorazine, one haldol, and one lorazepam* COME GET SOME!

Seriously though, this is not a point to be argued, dude. Taylor does not mince words, and nailed this one on the head. Just let it go and try to be a tad more respectful of the environment you're in. This reminds me of this flakey guy I dated a bit. He finds out I'm bi and says "Oh my god! You eat pussy?!?!?" :bigrin:
Also, remember that it is highly irresponsible to make statememnts involving "people like you" That sort of rhetoric is fuckin' poison and noone here, myself included will stand for that. Just be nice :stoned:

[wanderingrichard]

disagree with everone else... daf, stick to your principles and beliefs.. if others cant see where you are coming from, oh well.. am guilty of some of the same things and really do not alll that much care if i buck the social dynamics or not. it's part of being a free thinking individual..

[Skater Boy]

Everyone's entitled to their opinions, Dafydd. And tbh, I'd think less of you if you weren't honest about how you feel. Hell, most of my female friends wouldn't even CONSIDER an MFM threesome. But just remember to be diplomatic when it comes to stating our differences. And yes, DiamondDog really is a cool dude IMO! :cool:

[vittoria]

*snaps the rubber glove, grabs 3 syringes, one thorazine, one haldol, and one lorazepam* COME GET SOME!

Seriously though, this is not a point to be argued, dude. Taylor does not mince words, and nailed this one on the head. Just let it go and try to be a tad more respectful of the environment you're in. This reminds me of this flakey guy I dated a bit. He finds out I'm bi and says "Oh my god! You eat pussy?!?!?" :bigrin:
Also, remember that it is highly irresponsible to make statememnts involving "people like you" That sort of rhetoric is fuckin' poison and noone here, myself included will stand for that. Just be nice :stoned:


"people like you"...

is that akin to ross perot's infamous "you people" comment of years ago??

umm, its all in how one says anything, daf... and i'm not one to be rude, but i agree with my liege..one sure way to get ppl pissed off at you would be to be pretty "J'accusatory" ( to blend a couple languages there...)

as it is, theres a lot of different people on this site who prefer a lot of different variations of a theme.. if you dont happen to agree with one, it is so much easier to go... okies thats you... and go on about it...

the last thing we need is divisions and disrespect amongst ourselves... and i dont think we want to be like the people who DONT like "people like US"... ( you included dammit)~~

lets be better than all of the mullarky, okies :stoned:

[rissababynta]

if you get bent out of shape by people stating their opinions, it's probably not a good idea to start a thread by telling people to "discuss" something. i mean, what do you think you are going to get?

[smokey]

Somehow I missed the original thread so I am a little behind (actually I haven't had a little behind in years but that's another story LOL)... I enjoy threesomes (and moresomes) when I am lucky enough to find myself in one and I enjoy one on one... if you prefer that exclusively no one and I repeat, NO ONE has the right to gainsay you in that and if they do that is their problem... I personally have a hard time with people who seem to think that just because they are bisexual, it gives them the right to fuck around in a relationship... again if they don't like my attitude about it... tough shit.

Stand up for what you like and/or believe and to hell with the mouthy idiots.

[smokey]

being bored I finally went and read your 3waypay thread and i have to say you were rather strident and perhaps that set other people off... I mean for christ sake people we are bisexual and by necessity are supposed to be more open minded than either side exhibited on that thread.

[dafydd]

being bored I finally went and read your 3waypay thread and i have to say you were rather strident and perhaps that set other people off... I mean for christ sake people we are bisexual and by necessity are supposed to be more open minded than either side exhibited on that thread.

Jeez guys, it wasn't my intention to offend anyone, really just to start a discourse. Some people seemed put out by the fact I found it difficult to have a MMF threeway and therefore i recieved some aggressive comments. And in trying to defend myself I was further slated. I just want to learn from you guys being on here. I have not been out as bi for a long time and wanted to explore my feelings. After posting the 3way post I have learned probably to toe the line more. In defending myself i seemed to piss more people off. Sorry. I just feel strongly that someone should be able to pose a question that potentially might question the way I live my life. (trying to keep this centered on me...not making any assumptions about anyone). "Strident" is not how I would call my original post. Perhaps more inquisitive. I guess I should make more random posts e.g. "Who likes pussy/cock? etc." sorry guys not for me.

d. have some :bipride:

[dafydd]

if you get bent out of shape by people stating their opinions, it's probably not a good idea to start a thread by telling people to "discuss" something. i mean, what do you think you are going to get?

I was asking for opinions not insults

[Skater Boy]

That Marcus Aurelius quote again for ya Dave:

"If an action or utterance is appropriate, then it's appropriate for you. Don't be put off by other people's comments and criticism. If it's right to say or do it, then it's the right thing for you to do or say.... Don't be distracted. Keep walking. Follow your own nature, and follow Nature - along the road they share."

I guess "appropriateness" and "rightness" are debateable issues. But I went back through the thread, and tbh, I couldn't find anything that offended me, or that wasn't your honest opinion.

However, if others on this site are more sensitive than I, then it might be wise to exercise tact and diplomacy when making future posts.

[Skater Boy]

However, if others on this site are more sensitive than I, then it might be wise to exercise tact and diplomacy when making future posts.

Or should I say: OTHERS might WANT you to use tact and diplomacy.