Confused???!

[Bikid?07]

Hey everyone.
I'm new to this site and this whole "Bi" thing. I don't know if I am or not. I've had many many crushes on girls, a few dates, and some kisses. But just a few days ago I developed a little crush on this guy I go to school w/ is my friend. It's so weird and it's my first one. But it's not the same as when I like a girl. It goes away for a long time, then comes back for a bit, then goes away again.

When I like a girl it's all I think about. Sometimes I like him when I'm around him then I think "What was I thinking?
and I don't like him for a long time.

I'm so confused. I can't deny that I like him. I think he might be bi too. When we were in freshmen year he'd ask me questions about masturbating, and he'd get quiet like he wanted to tell me something. He'd also write stuff in my planner like, "You're a sexy beast, XoXo." People at school would think he was overcompensating by playing sports and stuff, and some people thought he was gay. He never had a girlfriend.

I guess my questions are, does this make me bi? And do you think he may be to?

Thanks everyone!

[sexybicplinwv]

Welcome BiKid... Am sure you will enjoy this site... :female:

[Azrael]

We can give our opinions and input, but these are questions for you to figure out about yourself. I say this not to brush you off, as I'd be happy to converse in greater detail (I'm hopelessly swamped right now, my bad), but to advise you to look inward. You know yourself better than any of us can hope to. That being said, welcome to the family!
Oh, and feel free to drop me a line should the mood suit you, and if not, that's cool too :flag4:

[Bikid?07]

Thanks! Anyone else?

[Skater Boy]

Azrael is right that you (hopefully) know yourself better than we do. If not, best to try and get to know yourself as good as you can. If that means experimenting/exploring then give it a go... you'll soon find out what turns you on and what doesn't.

As for the other guy... from what you said, I would GUESS that he is PROBABLY gay, bi, or bi-curious. But the best way to find out is directly. You could ask him yourself, or if thats a bit too confrontational, maybe you could try flirting with him some more and see if it leads to anything.

Anyway, I'm certainly no expert. HTH, Good luck!

[Bikid?07]

Cool, thanks everyone.

I know it was a random post. I just thought I could present object facts since you don't know him or me. lol

[biwords]

I agree with what the others have said, adding only that the fact that your feeling for this guy comes and goes doesn't mean much in itself. More than one bi male here has written about this happening. But again, only you can judge, and some cautious (and safe!) experimentation might tell you more.