Overwhelmed....HELP

[flexuality]

I know this is kinda off topic...but seeing as how there are so many people here with creative ideas...or even people who can think more than I can at the moment....

I feel as though I am going out of my ever-lovin MIND right now....

Does anyone have ANY suggestions or ideas or resources that I might access for an autistic adult??????
I desparately NEED a break. I need a REGULAR break....I haven't had a break from her in YEARS.......

Emotionally she's about 3 years old...maybe 5 on a good day....but she's gonna be 20 this Sunday. I am so tired of being "attacked" every time I open the office door that I hide behind lately....she can't change the way she is...i inderstand that.....i just can't keep doing this....

No, I have no family that will help and no friends to help either. I have researched every available resource I can think of, everything for autism (which mostly deal with kids, not adults) in the area....shit within a 100 mile radius of here...every government office in existance....we are in BC Canada in the Fraser Valley....just in case someone knows of something...

I'm not gonna get into the details here...but suffice to say that the stress level here is through the friggen roof. And I am trying to handle this in the middle of migraines and clusters that have been going on for about 2 months now....not to say anything of the OTHER "stuff" that gets heaped on my ....plate.....more like my dinner setting for EIGHT.

right now I am going to take some time out and just get out of the house for a while.....

[Herbwoman39]

Have you looked into adult day care? Some places here in the states deal with adults with Alzheimer's. Maybe they would take in an autistic adult one or two days a week as well, just so you can catch a break.

Good luck sweetie. Remember to breathe :)

[kitten]

sending more hugs to you!

I found this website out of the UK, but it's a a start:
It's a parent-to-parent hotline for parents of autistic children of all ages.

http://www.nas.org.uk/nas/jsp/polopoly.jsp?d=617&a=3302


http://www.nas.org.uk/nas/jsp/polopoly.jsp?d=225
This one is for the National Autistic Society and there are more help numbers.

Wishing you love and peace-

[12voltman59]

Flex---I have no idea about how to deal with your situation and--I also have no idea about what kind of outside resources available to you in your area----have you tried doing some Googling of the subject? I am sure there are some organizations out there that can help.

I really do feel for you even though I have no concept of what if must be like to be dealing with such a situation other than to say ---you are in my thoughts and "prayers"

I wish you all the best in dealing with the situation regading the care of this person and in taking care of your own health and other needs.

I wish I could be of greater help to you----

[mindfinding]

Sweetie, get your butt to Alberta.

I know it sounds out there, but we have had many folks from around Canada move to Alberta because we have such an outstanding help with folks who have autism and alike.

I don't know how to help you other then to say we are a province that believes in helping (to a very great extent) people who need it. You obviously need it. If you should choose to, Alberta welcomes you with open arms.

Article supporting my claim. Click here (http://www.cbc.ca/health/story/2006/07/10/autism-therapy.html)

An agency who could help. Click here (http://www.sta-ab.com/)

And one more link that could help click here (http://www.autismcalgary.com/links.asp)

I wish you all of the best. We'd love to have you in Alberta!

[flexuality]

Have you looked into adult day care? Some places here in the states deal with adults with Alzheimer's. Maybe they would take in an autistic adult one or two days a week as well, just so you can catch a break.

Good luck sweetie. Remember to breathe :)

Breathe...breathe....funny you should say that! I tend to hold my breath when I get really stressed....

Yeah, I have looked into that kind of thing. My sister (who is autistic also...and blind...)goes to several things like that. Alot of them are mostly very elderly people and very short in duration...like an hour or so. Unfortunately most of them are run by volunteers, and very few of them have any dealings with autism..it ends up making life MORE stressful, instead of less just because it confuses Jennifer so much.

But it was a good suggestion and I appreciate you taking the time...and reminding me to breathe! Thanx. :)

[flexuality]

sending more hugs to you!

I found this website out of the UK, but it's a a start:
It's a parent-to-parent hotline for parents of autistic children of all ages.

http://www.nas.org.uk/nas/jsp/polopoly.jsp?d=617&a=3302


http://www.nas.org.uk/nas/jsp/polopoly.jsp?d=225
This one is for the National Autistic Society and there are more help numbers.

Wishing you love and peace-
I LOVE the idea of a parent to parent hotline! I looked at the site and tried to see if there were any in Canada....I even considered calling the UK! Except it's only an "in country" 800 number...sigh.....

But from that site I DID find a link...to a link...to a link....and ended up with a phone number for a possible Respite phone number that is LOCAL for us and includes the word "adult". I'm gonna look into that when it's daylight here. :)

and thank you for the hugs... :)

[flexuality]

Flex---I have no idea about how to deal with your situation and--I also have no idea about what kind of outside resources available to you in your area----have you tried doing some Googling of the subject? I am sure there are some organizations out there that can help.

I really do feel for you even though I have no concept of what if must be like to be dealing with such a situation other than to say ---you are in my thoughts and "prayers"

I wish you all the best in dealing with the situation regading the care of this person and in taking care of your own health and other needs.

I wish I could be of greater help to you----

Thanks....and it DOES help.

Googling...if Google PAID me for googling...I'd be RICH! :)

[flexuality]

Sweetie, get your butt to Alberta.

I know it sounds out there, but we have had many folks from around Canada move to Alberta because we have such an outstanding help with folks who have autism and alike.

I don't know how to help you other then to say we are a province that believes in helping (to a very great extent) people who need it. You obviously need it. If you should choose to, Alberta welcomes you with open arms.

Article supporting my claim. Click here (http://www.cbc.ca/health/story/2006/07/10/autism-therapy.html)

An agency who could help. Click here (http://www.sta-ab.com/)

And one more link that could help click here (http://www.autismcalgary.com/links.asp)

I wish you all of the best. We'd love to have you in Alberta!

Oh...my...god.... :) :eek: :) I could KISS you...or Sol could....or we BOTH could! :tong:

I never even thought of Alberta! Geeesh...sometimes I get so caught up in just trying to keep my sanity that I can't see beyond my nose.

Not that we could just pack up and move right now....at least not today...but now my gears are turning here..... :)

Some of those links are only for kids 6 - 18 and Jennifer is almost 20....BUT....if they have so much more for KIDS, then they must be aware that these kids grow up (at least in years...sadly not much in anything else)....

I gotta look into the adult services more....I wonder if they have realized the HUGE benefit of 24/7 permanent residence with fulltime staff for some of these people.....

If you know of anything along that line......she would thrive in a rigid, routine setting with just enough of her own space and access to someone who knows autism 24/7.

I really appreciate you putting up those links! Thank you! :)

[sexybicplinwv]

Oh!!! Honey my heart go's out to you, in more ways than one :) If you need someone to talk to please feel free or maybe just to yell here i'am so gohead you just may feel better ;) Its hard being the Parent! ((((Always be true to Yourself)))) :flag3: :female:

[12voltman59]

Here in the states on The Discovery Channel--they have this show running now called "Future Weapons"--the show has a former US Navy Seal who travels all over the world doing stories on all of these highly advanced weapons of death and destruction.

It has a certain degree of coolness to watch that show strictly from the viewpoint of amazement about such incredible technolody is being developed but it does strike me---so much of human ingenuity, time, financial and other resources are being spent to develop newer and better ways to destroy our fellow human beings.

How sad really!!!

There never seems to be any question about the fact that so much treasure is spent on the development of such technology, especially when it comes to politicians who appropriate the money to support research (usually well into the hundreds of millions or even billions) on such weaponry or to purchase it--but when you start to talk about getting spending as little as a few million to create programs that would help people in Flex and her sister's situation---

The poliitcos get incredulous and respond by saying things like: "What--do you think we are made of money? We can't afford to spend money on things like that!!!! That is just so wasteful!!!! That is the kind of thing churches should do for people."

Sorry to get off topic a bit and make a political statement but it does seem that our priorities are so skewed--billions so easily spent to develop new and better ways to kill each other but try to get a relative pittance devoted to programs that help people and the purse gets shut tight!!!!

[mindfinding]

I'll gladly do a little more digging for you and see what I can come up with.

Also, if you need help looking for work in your fields, I can help with that a bit aswell. I'm a helpful guy or sorts.

Cheers,

[deletetacount123]

Thanks....and it DOES help.

Googling...if Google PAID me for googling...I'd be RICH! :)

OMG I'll have millions by now from googling lol EVERYDAY I google something.... if Im bored or sick and am online, I google endlessly lol

These days Im hearing the word on more and more TV shows and Movies "I googled YOU" lol

I wonder if Google pays to look thinks up... ummm *wanders over to google*

[deletetacount123]

I'll gladly do a little more digging for you and see what I can come up with.

Also, if you need help looking for work in your fields, I can help with that a bit aswell. I'm a helpful guy or sorts.

Cheers,

*Tugs on Mindfinding's shirt* Excuse me.... how friendly is Alberta with deaf people?? :)
Personally BC they aren't to friendly about it and have the whole "Lets not get to know her cause shes hearing impaired" act going on. :( (yes It seems that way here) I'll LOVE to consider moving to a area where they are more deaf friendly you know. Where people over look that bit and make a effort to know you.

[mindfinding]

TashaSW,

Edmonton is very very very helpful with the hearing impaired. Actually, so is the rest of the province.

This link can tell you about it provincially Click here (http://www.health.gov.ab.ca/AHCIPcontact.html)

This is an agency that helps folks out Click here (http://www.seahi.org/SEAHI)

I hope this is a bit of a help to you. Lemme know if you need a little more.

Cheers

[flexuality]

Wow....I am absolutely blown away!

I have had more help with this on (of all places!) a bisexual site than I have EVER had from ANY resource for Autism in the whole of BC!!

I don't know what to say.....my god, I actually ran out of words! lol!

http://i17.photobucket.com/albums/b82/HateFueled/jaysrose.gifThank you all SOOOOOOO much!!

[flexuality]

Oh!!! Honey my heart go's out to you, in more ways than one :) If you need someone to talk to please feel free or maybe just to yell here i'am so gohead you just may feel better ;) Its hard being the Parent! ((((Always be true to Yourself)))) :flag3: :female:
Thanx :)

[flexuality]

Here in the states on The Discovery Channel--they have this show running now called "Future Weapons"--the show has a former US Navy Seal who travels all over the world doing stories on all of these highly advanced weapons of death and destruction.

It has a certain degree of coolness to watch that show strictly from the viewpoint of amazement about such incredible technolody is being developed but it does strike me---so much of human ingenuity, time, financial and other resources are being spent to develop newer and better ways to destroy our fellow human beings.

How sad really!!!

There never seems to be any question about the fact that so much treasure is spent on the development of such technology, especially when it comes to politicians who appropriate the money to support research (usually well into the hundreds of millions or even billions) on such weaponry or to purchase it--but when you start to talk about getting spending as little as a few million to create programs that would help people in Flex and her sister's situation---

The poliitcos get incredulous and respond by saying things like: "What--do you think we are made of money? We can't afford to spend money on things like that!!!! That is just so wasteful!!!! That is the kind of thing churches should do for people."

Sorry to get off topic a bit and make a political statement but it does seem that our priorities are so skewed--billions so easily spent to develop new and better ways to kill each other but try to get a relative pittance devoted to programs that help people and the purse gets shut tight!!!!

When I was trying to get Jennifer a fulltime aid in elementary school, I kept getting told that "there's no funding for that, she can only go for half a day" (which she did in grade one....she was only allowed to stay til lunchtime....bizarre) and while they were telling me that, the SAME year they put up FIVE new basketball courts in the same school in addition to the five they already had!!

The next year, I found a way to get her a FULL time aid in school and she had that right up til graduation. Sometimes ya gotta use the political red tape crap to manipulate the system....sort of using their own crap against them. :rolleyes:

It's bad enough that parents have to learn how to deal with autism but to add a fu**ing political battle just to get education for them is beyond crazy in my mind!

[flexuality]

*Tugs on Mindfinding's shirt* Excuse me.... how friendly is Alberta with deaf people?? :)
Personally BC they aren't to friendly about it and have the whole "Lets not get to know her cause shes hearing impaired" act going on. :( (yes It seems that way here) I'll LOVE to consider moving to a area where they are more deaf friendly you know. Where people over look that bit and make a effort to know you.

Calgary.....think Calgary...lol! :tong:

Seriously, just in the bit of research I've been doing since mindfinding bent my mind I keep finding that Calgary seems to be almost a HUB of support for all kinds of "disabilities" (yeah I hate that word too...)

Sol and I are SERIOUSLY looking at the possibility of moving to Calgary....I got a LOT more digging to do yet....but we've got the gears turning here!

[flexuality]

I'll gladly do a little more digging for you and see what I can come up with.

Also, if you need help looking for work in your fields, I can help with that a bit aswell. I'm a helpful guy or sorts.

Cheers,
Can we adopt you??? :tong: :tong:

Sol's not exactly working in his "chosen" field here and he really doesn't like it at all. He used to work at a place back in Pennsylvania that manufactured precision computer parts (connectors) and he ran the machines that did that. He LOVED it!

I don't even know what to call that kind of work. In the US, it was referred to as being a machine operator, but in Canada "machine operator" seems to mean driving a back hoe...not quite the same! lol!

[onewhocares]

Flex,

I too do not have much experiance in this matter, but I do think that the suggestion for adult day care may be a place to consider if all else fails. Also, if you ever ever need someone to just vent to, I am here. I too suffer from migraines so I know what you are going through.

Belle

[flexuality]

Flex,

I too do not have much experiance in this matter, but I do think that the suggestion for adult day care may be a place to consider if all else fails. Also, if you ever ever need someone to just vent to, I am here. I too suffer from migraines so I know what you are going through.

Belle
thanx Belle :)

And speaking of venting.....when I went to go out last night after posting here, the garage door decided to not open. My son and I hefted that damn thing to get it open....turns out the spring broke on it or something...it weighs a bloody TON! lol!

Woke up with yet another $&#^$&# headache, that finally subsided, and now I'm sitting here trying to remain sane after sending my daughter to her room cuz she's absolutely FREAKING and screaming and verbally attacking me and having a FIT over something she cannot even possibly understand and there is no way to explain, reason or otherwise have it make sense to her.

And this is over her birthday and a lack of understanding "time"....

That behaviour has gotta be one of the HARDEST and most frustrating things to deal with. If she was NOT autistic, her behaviour would be classified as abusive BIG TIME.

Oh the joys of life.....

[12voltman59]

Flex--do feel free to vent if you need it dear--that you are holding up so well is a testament to your character--if it was me--I might be tempted to tip the bottle a triffle too much---

So come vent here as much as you need to and you sure do need to ---

As far as headaches are concerned--I don't get migraines but I do get bad sinus headaches from time to time--I used to get them a great deal but had some major sinuse surgery some time ago that did help-but every so often I get one that knocks me down for awhile and I can't stand light, movement or anything---so I have some idea what a bad headache is like.

[flexuality]

Flex--do feel free to vent if you need it dear--that you are holding up so well is a testament to your character--if it was me--I might be tempted to tip the bottle a triffle too much---

So come vent here as much as you need to and you sure do need to ---

As far as headaches are concerned--I don't get migraines but I do get bad sinus headaches from time to time--I used to get them a great deal but had some major sinuse surgery some time ago that did help-but every so often I get one that knocks me down for awhile and I can't stand light, movement or anything---so I have some idea what a bad headache is like.

Funny you should mention "tipping the bottle"...lol! I wish I could do that more sometimes....but too often I end up with such a bad migraine that it's not worth it!

Though at the moment I am enjoying a small glass of nice warm Saki. :)

And Jennifer has calmed down...all is quiet at the moment.....*sigh of relief*

What kind of sinus surgery if ya don't mind my asking? I swear I get every kind of headache there is all rolled into one! I get tremendous pressure in the sinuses (the ones I have anyways...I don't have frontal sinuses) especially near one eye. Gets real bad...but they never find anything.

I feel like I am destined to be "weird" LOL!

[Herbwoman39]

I swear I get every kind of headache there is all rolled into one! I get tremendous pressure in the sinuses (the ones I have anyways...I don't have frontal sinuses) especially near one eye. Gets real bad...but they never find anything.

I feel like I am destined to be "weird" LOL!


First, Sorry I couldn't have been of more help but it sounds like Mindfinding has hit the lottery for you :) Second, we're your family here. This is what families do for each other :) Third, there's nothing wrong with being weird! LOL! :bigrin: I'm weird and I love it!

As for those sinus headaches, have you tried doing daily sinus flushes? For those who don't know, a sinus flush is when you use warm water, add some sea salt (it MUST be sea salt) and dissolve that in the water, then inhale the salt water through your nose. Sounds disgusting but it does *amazing* things. Do that once a day, twice if it only helps a little and be careful how much sea salt you add.

<HUGS>

~M~

[flexuality]

First, Sorry I couldn't have been of more help but it sounds like Mindfinding has hit the lottery for you :) Second, we're your family here. This is what families do for each other :) Third, there's nothing wrong with being weird! LOL! :bigrin: I'm weird and I love it!

As for those sinus headaches, have you tried doing daily sinus flushes? For those who don't know, a sinus flush is when you use warm water, add some sea salt (it MUST be sea salt) and dissolve that in the water, then inhale the salt water through your nose. Sounds disgusting but it does *amazing* things. Do that once a day, twice if it only helps a little and be careful how much sea salt you add.

<HUGS>

~M~

As a matter of fact I have tried the sinus flush thing.....gawd that feels weird lol! :eek:

I think it's more of a swelling thing that's going on for me though....and it only happens with the real bad headaches....it may just be part of the cluster migraine thing..

[deletetacount123]

Can you bribe Jennifer to calm down when she has her temper fits??

I don't know if that works with autistic people but cause its at 3 or 5 years old, I learned you can calm them down by bribing them with something you know they want such as a cookie or item they had thier eye on...etc ??

Not always a good idea I know since they can easily start to do that to get what they want but once in awhile is nice :)

We thought my nephew was autistic at first too but it turned out he was just slow. Hes about 5 now.

Tasha

[flexuality]

Can you bribe Jennifer to calm down when she has her temper fits??

I don't know if that works with autistic people but cause its at 3 or 5 years old, I learned you can calm them down by bribing them with something you know they want such as a cookie or item they had thier eye on...etc ??

Not always a good idea I know since they can easily start to do that to get what they want but once in awhile is nice :)

We thought my nephew was autistic at first too but it turned out he was just slow. Hes about 5 now.

Tasha

That WOULD work....except that it would also backfire. She creates "rules" for everything (it's how she thinks) and the "rule" in her mind would become "If I want a cookie (or whatever the bribe was) then I must throw a temper fit."

They tried to do that with her in school. Anytime she was getting freaked in a class, they would remove her. So she ended up freaking in any class she didn't want to be in because her "rule" became "If I don't like this, then I need to freak."

It's really strange the way the autistic mind works....EXTREMELY literal and black and white. It's hard even for me to think that way and I've been around autism my entire life! Sometimes it feels like I'm playing "detective" trying to figure out what is going on for her in HER mind, cuz she can't explain it!

Right now she gets sent to her room (with her beans) and I refuse to talk to her in that state. She eventually calms down, but getting to that point is ....well, not a lot helps unfortunately.

That's when I gotta take care of me and just wait it out.....

[deletetacount123]

That WOULD work....except that it would also backfire. She creates "rules" for everything (it's how she thinks) and the "rule" in her mind would become "If I want a cookie (or whatever the bribe was) then I must throw a temper fit."

They tried to do that with her in school. Anytime she was getting freaked in a class, they would remove her. So she ended up freaking in any class she didn't want to be in because her "rule" became "If I don't like this, then I need to freak."

It's really strange the way the autistic mind works....EXTREMELY literal and black and white. It's hard even for me to think that way and I've been around autism my entire life! Sometimes it feels like I'm playing "detective" trying to figure out what is going on for her in HER mind, cuz she can't explain it!

Right now she gets sent to her room (with her beans) and I refuse to talk to her in that state. She eventually calms down, but getting to that point is ....well, not a lot helps unfortunately.

That's when I gotta take care of me and just wait it out.....

I think you told me once shes part of Triplets ?? If so, are her sisters (I think you said they were all girls) helpful in anyway?
I don't know about triplets but in the case of twins, they always seem to know how to make the other listen and so on.

You could bribe her in the better ways tho. Such as if she behaves, she gets this or that.... maybe in her mind it'll set a rule "If am nice to mommy, she'll let me do (or have) that"

I wonder if her abusive ways are her way of being very fusterated?? Yes she has a mind of a 3 or 5 year old but maybe deep down she knows she'll never be like her sisters, you or any other woman she sees ?? Maybe shes really angry and is taking it out on things and her being autistic isn't helping.

Just my thoughts. Im learning about autistic actually :)
I should meet Jennifer..... I have magic powers to calm down someone that has a temper fit. lol SERIOUSLY.... every time Im in a store and some little kid is throwing a temper fit cause they can;t have something, I'll be nearby and suddenly they stop.... they just stop and stare.. even if Im not looking at them, im just within view lol

Tasha

[flexuality]

I think you told me once shes part of Triplets ?? If so, are her sisters (I think you said they were all girls) helpful in anyway?
I don't know about triplets but in the case of twins, they always seem to know how to make the other listen and so on.

You could bribe her in the better ways tho. Such as if she behaves, she gets this or that.... maybe in her mind it'll set a rule "If am nice to mommy, she'll let me do (or have) that"

I wonder if her abusive ways are her way of being very fusterated?? Yes she has a mind of a 3 or 5 year old but maybe deep down she knows she'll never be like her sisters, you or any other woman she sees ?? Maybe shes really angry and is taking it out on things and her being autistic isn't helping.

Just my thoughts. Im learning about autistic actually :)
I should meet Jennifer..... I have magic powers to calm down someone that has a temper fit. lol SERIOUSLY.... every time Im in a store and some little kid is throwing a temper fit cause they can;t have something, I'll be nearby and suddenly they stop.... they just stop and stare.. even if Im not looking at them, im just within view lol

Tasha

Her sisters don't live here. And it was FAR worse when they did. FAR, FAR worse....that is a long story....geeez..I seem to have a LOT of "long stories"...lol!

Yes, she is a triplet and identical to one of her sisters and when they were young they did have that "twin bond" but they are total opposites now, and like I said, it was FAR worse when they were together.

We do have a reward system of sorts and generally it does work. I'm really only venting now cuz it's just one of those times where NOTHING seems to help and I feel like I can't escape!

She does know she'll never be like her sisters or anyone else, but it only angers her in the sense of she thinks it is a RULE to "grow up" (whatever the hell that means) and she thinks she's breaking a rule. It's really hard to explain.....

I learned some sign language when she was young and had no speech yet....I forget it all now tho! I had to use a combination of signing and words to help her understand at least SOME things.

You're learning about autism? KEWL! :)

The kids stop having a tantrum when you're in view?? hmmm.....

*thinks about putting up pictures of Tasha when Jennifer gets overloaded*
LOL!! :tong:

[deletetacount123]

Her sisters don't live here. And it was FAR worse when they did. FAR, FAR worse....that is a long story....geeez..I seem to have a LOT of "long stories"...lol!

Yes, she is a triplet and identical to one of her sisters and when they were young they did have that "twin bond" but they are total opposites now, and like I said, it was FAR worse when they were together.

We do have a reward system of sorts and generally it does work. I'm really only venting now cuz it's just one of those times where NOTHING seems to help and I feel like I can't escape!

She does know she'll never be like her sisters or anyone else, but it only angers her in the sense of she thinks it is a RULE to "grow up" (whatever the hell that means) and she thinks she's breaking a rule. It's really hard to explain.....

I learned some sign language when she was young and had no speech yet....I forget it all now tho! I had to use a combination of signing and words to help her understand at least SOME things.

You're learning about autism? KEWL! :)

The kids stop having a tantrum when you're in view?? hmmm.....

*thinks about putting up pictures of Tasha when Jennifer gets overloaded*
LOL!! :tong:

Im interested in Austism but you know, I just like KNOWING things.... if I ever met someone who happened to have a disbilty or whatever, I would know some things already :)

Yes most times kids stop having a tantrum when Im in view OR I look thier way and smile lol Especially if the mother looks my way with an embarrassing smile cause she knows people are staring lol

Hey now no posting my pics lol It only works in real life lol

Im sorry to hear things were worse when her sisters lived with you guys :(

You FORGOT sign langauage?!?!?!? BAD! *stomps and then eats some chocolate* mmmmmm my cure for temper fits lol Honestly Im not as good with signing anymore either... no one to sign with so I speak most of the time... so my signing has gone downhill but I do remember basic still.

Tasha

[sylvyrwulf]

Hi, I do know the feeling you are having. I have been a nurse for 20 years. My suggestion is that you get either a live in nurse or a nurse to come part time so that you will be able to have time to yourself. YOU NEED THIS. OR YOU WILL GO CRAZY. I hope I helped.
sylvyr

[Solomon]

i can't speak for flex, but i've already hit crazy lol.

the only problem with finding a nurse is... well, finding a nurse, especially one that can work within our current means, BC does NOT help people in our situation at all.

in fact the province's 'solution' seems to be to get Jenn a job... right... someone who doesn't understand time or money in spite of 12 years of the educational system and every other known method of teaching, is supposed to learn how to trade time for money.... am i the ONLY one who sees a problem with this idea???? what's next?? teach Jenn Quicken????

then there's finding a nurse that would be not only knowledgeable, but also one that's willing to stick around so that they would be able to both get to know each other...

[Ms. Ally Kat]

Just remember Flex, Stressed spelled backwards is desserts....Chocolate never hurts

[deletetacount123]

Just remember Flex, Stressed spelled backwards is desserts....Chocolate never hurts

I never realized that mmmm
but yes chocolate cures everything and people wonder why I eat so much of it lol (Lonely? Chocolate is a perfect cure)

[Fire Lotus]

I never realized that mmmm
but yes chocolate cures everything and people wonder why I eat so much of it lol (Lonely? Chocolate is a perfect cure)
Yes, chocolate is our friend. ;)

[purplespider]

i watched this documentary channel thingy on this mildly autistic boy..it was filmed just before christmas 2006 so i would assume the option is still there!

his parents reached the stressed level..and found a foster parent for 3 days to give them a break...its a thought..this boy was from ontario..so i dont know if that helps..apparently you can do a temporary foster care thing if your desperate?



but every little bit of information can hopefully lead you in the right direction.


the three days helped his parents save their marriage for a few weeks anyway..


i feel for ya..cause i guess you dont really understand what everyone is going thought unless you walk a mile in their shoes..

hang in there!

[TorontoGuy2007]

i know of a few people who have moved to alberta to access their resources for autistic children. the government out there really seems to have the best handle on the situation. i don't think other provinces truly have invested the time and resources needed to learn about autism and the unique situations people in your shoes have to deal with in terms of caring for someone.

in addition, i keep hearing about how great the economy is out there. i've been actively looking for work for quite a while and i have sent many resumes to edmonton and calgary. you never know, i may not be a Toronto Guy much longer..

[flexuality]

i know of a few people who have moved to alberta to access their resources for autistic children. the government out there really seems to have the best handle on the situation. i don't think other provinces truly have invested the time and resources needed to learn about autism and the unique situations people in your shoes have to deal with in terms of caring for someone.

in addition, i keep hearing about how great the economy is out there. i've been actively looking for work for quite a while and i have sent many resumes to edmonton and calgary. you never know, i may not be a Toronto Guy much longer..

Edmonton is a beautiful city....except it is about FOUR HOURS from anywhere! :eek: And they have TWO seasons.....Winter and July. :rolleyes:

So far in my searching, I am finding that Calgary seems to be the place to consider.....and it's not quite so far north as Edmonton. Can you tell I am not fond of snow? lol! :cool:

[Doggie_Wood]

As for those sinus headaches, have you tried doing daily sinus flushes? For those who don't know, a sinus flush is when you use warm water, add some sea salt (it MUST be sea salt) and dissolve that in the water, then inhale the salt water through your nose. Sounds disgusting but it does *amazing* things. Do that once a day, twice if it only helps a little and be careful how much sea salt you add.

<HUGS>

~M~

First - It doesn't take more than 2 teaspoons to a cup of water (1 tsp if your membranes are sensitive).

Second - If you can find (at a garage sale, thrift shop, etc.) a WaterPic (the devise used to stimulate your gums), and take the Pic part off of the end so the solution flows freely from the handle, insert into one nostril while closing the other and flush the sinus cavities. Repeat with the other nostril.

Hope this helps :)

:doggie:

[12voltman59]

I do the sinus flush thing--I have a kit I bought at the drug store--many years ago I went to a doctor at least once a month who had a machine that did that--it does help greatly---but when there are major barometric changes---ouch!!!!!
I can tell when the weather is going to do a major change and I don't need to look at the barometer, watch The Weather Channel or turn on my NOAA NWS All Hazards Radio even though I do listen to that before I head out on the boat---whether when I go out on my little lake, Lake Erie or the Ohio River---just an old habit from when I went out to sea.

I don't like to be out on the water when heavy weather threatens---I once nearly had the boat capsize when a front came through that had hurricane force winds--the biggest waves I ever saw on that lake--I thought I was out on the ocean!!!
It's pretty scary too when there are lightening bolts hitting the lake as well---

[flexuality]

Volty, I hear ya on the barometric changes! I get that too. If there's a thunderstorm heading this way, I can tell. :eek: Usually the headache eases onse it starts to rain tho. :rolleyes:

I forget if that's high pressure or low pressure......?

We have a sinus flush kit too. Comes with everything ya need, including detailed instructions.