I don't know if I'll be back

[Flounder1967]

I just want everyone to know my wife found out that I'm bi. I left it up on my laptop late at night, and she found it the next morning. She hasn't thrown me out yet, but don't think she will. Now she has to deal with knowing I'm bi.

She said she will never let me be wuth anyone else. That's fine with me and i still and will always love her.
so if you don't see a roound that's why.

[codybear3]

I am sorry to see you go. I wish you the best in your current situation. Perhaps in time, things will settle down enough to work this out. Try to invite her to sit through a session with you so she can see that what we talk about isn't what she may be thinking it is. But first and foremost, take care of business at home. Good luck to you Flounder...I wish you the best...-Cody :paw:

[wellred]

Flounder,

My heart aches for you and your wife. Please see my email to you.

All the best,
Red

[allbimyself]

Flounder,

My friend. I'm so sorry this happened. Just make sure she understands that she is the only person in your life. Be honest.

If it would help her to talk to a third party, a bi guy that has been in monogamous relationships, to help her understand that being bi doesn't mean you can't be monogamous (or any other questions she might have that might be to difficult to ask you due to emotion) I stand ready.

Good Luck,

Allbi

[Bi-ten]

Hi Flounder,

Hang in there pal, I know how you feel. Hopefully she will understand that your sexuality does not pose a threat to her...that you have been and can continue to be faithful to her.

It will be a little difficult because you were 'caught' doing something that must be a complete suprize to her, her imagination will be running wild. Keep the lines of communication open and be as honest as you can...and hopefully it will be OK.

I will pray for you.

Hugs

[gina42]

flounder,
my heart aches for you and i pray that you and your wife will get threw this hon...and i think what allbimyself told you maybe having your wife talk with a 3rd party a bi guy or even a wife married to a bi guy may help her with any questions she may have...if need be i would be willing to talk with her if you think it would help.
ive been married almost 12 years to MIHH and everything is great,i have know even before we were married that he was bi and it just makes me love him all the more,you can share this and every one eles who has replyed to your post with your wife and maybe she may want to sit in a time or two and see what wonderful folks that are here in this room...hugs to you,gina

[arana]

Flounder, I hope your wife is an understanding woman and will let you continue to come to the site as a way to explore your bi side. Just because you are bi doesn't mean you are promiscuous and cannot be a good mate. She needs to understand that and that you are still the person she fell in love with. Good luck to you!

Hugs,
Arana

[Flounder1967]

Good News

SHe not going to throw mw out. She is going to accept me that way I am. But she still need time.

she has asked for details yet. I hope she will.

I'm lucky she will always love me.

[codybear3]

Great news my friend...Allbi said he would be a third party for any help you may need. I just took a number and will do what I can if you need me. Now just take your time and good luck.... :)

[gina42]

flounder,
i am so pleased for you...
your wife may not be asking questions now but she may want to ask questions at some point,always be open and honest with her my friend and let her know how much you love her everyday....
and remember hon,that if she ever wants to talk with a third party,i would be happy to speak with your wife...take care&hugs gina :)

[arana]

That is great news Flounder! Hope it gets better everyday!

Hugs,
Arana

[photogr]

I feel sorry for you too. But you are going to hate me for this, you brought this on yourself. You had(have) a wife and you cheated on her. You went behind her back with another and to top it a Man! Did you not promise to love only her? What insult can that be to a str8 woman? I hope she can change her view on bi men. I wish you all the best of luck on winning her back.

[SweetBlackAngel]

Congrats on the good news, Flounder. Hope you guys can work it out. Peaceful vibes to you and your wife. :flag3:

[csrakate]

Flounder,
I think you know where I stand on this issue. Lord knows I told you way too much that night you asked for my advice, that night that I so openly discussed the private details of my life only to have it thrown back at me through deceit. And as far as that last message that I sent you, I still stand by my statements and I hope that you prove me wrong. So far I'm not so sure. This situation is nothing to take lightly and I hope you aren't making a mockery of those of us who have really gone through it. You and I both know what I mean and once again, if I am wrong, then I apologize. But until you acknowledge what I said to you with a response and until you prove me wrong, I will continue to feel as though I've been "played".

I am giving you yet another chance to come clean with me Flounder and I hope that your conscience will guide you to do so. The good people who have given you their hearts and their sympathy deserve better than this scenario and the one that you continue to play out in the chat room.

Kate

[arana]

Flounder,
I think you know where I stand on this issue. Lord knows I told you way too much that night you asked for my advice, that night that I so openly discussed the private details of my life only to have it thrown back at me through deceit. And as far as that last message that I sent you, I still stand by my statements and I hope that you prove me wrong. So far I'm not so sure. This situation is nothing to take lightly and I hope you aren't making a mockery of those of us who have really gone through it. You and I both know what I mean and once again, if I am wrong, then I apologize. But until you acknowledge what I said to you with a response and until you prove me wrong, I will continue to feel as though I've been "played".

I am giving you yet another chance to come clean with me Flounder and I hope that your conscience will guide you to do so. The good people who have given you their hearts and their sympathy deserve better than this scenario and the one that you continue to play out in the chat room.

Kate

Did you become "Research" too Kate? :(

[csrakate]

It sure looks that way Arana!!! I only hope that no one else has to suffer the humiliation and degradation the way that we did. But what doesn't kill us only makes us stronger....so somebody better watch out!!! :yikes2:

[jazzer]

I have just posted a reply to Cgtar who finds herself in a similar situation to your wife Flounder, and my heart goes out to her, but I find the last posts by Arana and Csrakate disturbing. I sincerely hope that your predicament is as you claim and not a catalyst for some form of research that you may be conducting. The forum is there to help people who are in dire need of comfort and support in dealing with bisexuality. I do hope you move quickly to reassure these women that their trust in you has not been misplaced.

[ladydelanie]

Flounder.
I agree 100% with Jazzer.
Please give Kate the courtesy of a reply. I consider Kate and Arana both friends. I would be saddened to think that someone would take advantage of their good hearts and concern for others, their openess and willingness to help is beyond belief!
I for one feel very distrubed by the circumstances of this whole situation.
I know others do as well.
It is so hard to find others that are willing to share kindness, yet both of these women have been open about a very personal matter. Each in their own way.
We all know their willingness for this is their love and concern for others. Once again a reply to Kate would put all of our hearts at ease.

Ladyd

[Flounder1967]

O.K.

My wife and I are still together and we hope to stay that way for a long time. She is accepting of me. We may still need to work trough some issuses and I want to.

I do like to write stories people know that. I have never used anthing anaybody have ever discussed with any one in any of my stories, and I never will.

If it makes people feel better I won't talk to you again. I will still come to this site to express me and how I feel. I sorry for "bugging" you. I also felt that talking about me in this thread was wrong. Thanks for all the people who have sent me notes and wanting to help with this devolpment my wife and I are going through. I've never had a lot of friends in my life and thought that this site was different. I might up front and have a personality that might rub people the wrong way. I'm use to that, but if someone i think is a friend even though i might tell them that talks that way you people have hurt me and i don't aloow peopl to hurt me or my family that way. So again to those who are trying to support me thanks. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. To those who though i was revealing sercrets or getting off when talking your are so wrong about me. I never let my thoughts, feelings, or my guard down like i have when i was here.