Profile EXPERTS HELP please :)

[deletetacount123]

Any GOOD profile writers out there??
I would like to "hire" you to help me make a good profile not only on this site but for other dating sites to.

While I try to be honest and say everything I think should be on the profile... sometimes I wonder if its not good enough??
I get views but hardly anyone reponses.... sure I get a smile/flirt but thats it.... if I contact them, I get no response..... if I do, they are just people wanting sex lol I want a RELATIONSHIP not a sexship. (ok, I made up that word lol its suppose to mean someone that just looks for sex)

My profile has what I have on the other sites (except the no cyber bit and the myspace part) HELP!!! :)

One thing that bugs me is I do have that Im deaf in my profile.. I think it SHOULD be in there.... people seem to be scared of that or something.... but I put that there after being hurt a few times by getting in a great converstation with someone for awhile... then they want to talk on phone so I have to say Im deaf.... then POOF.... I never hear from them again. :(

OR do you think its good and should be left alone ??
Maybe Im just trying the wrong sites or my location is all wrong?? I live in a small town.... I rarely see ANYONE locally on the sites or at least not my type... the ones I like best seem to be in Vancouver, Ontario or parts of the USA. I really would like to meet someone locally cause Im done with the long distance relationship... nothing happens :(

Im tried of being alone :)

Tasha

[Daniel1395]

Hi Tasha

Okay sorry I’m defiantly no expert but this is just my opinion

I think you have a really good profile. You describe yourself well and you describe what kind of relationship you are looking for really well.

I think you have just wrote enough info on your profile because on some other members profiles were they have a huge long profile I kind of get bored and I can’t be bothered to read the rest.

I think you could be right in saying the reason you don’t get many responses is because were you live.

I think that’s true also for me because the area I live is just described as southern great Britain but in the actual town I live I think there are only two other members on this site. But I am still forever making little adjustments to my profile so it goes to the top of the list.

If you do that then your profile will get more noticed and people will re read it.

I got a pm from somebody who said they had read my profile a few times before messaging me so making little adjustments all the time defiantly works.

[Long Duck Dong]

mmmm its not ya profile......

its the attitude of people.....

a lot of people will read that you are deaf / hearing impaired and their first reaction would be that they just wanna hook up and fuck, and not have to deal with a unique person that needs a person to make a effort

I read ya profile and the first thing that goes thru my head, is ok, this lady is not into cyber, phone or web.....thats a turn off for some people, as they will see it as you are not sexually adventurous .... they will not bother to actually learn about you, they will just assume

your ad is targeted towards that special somebody out there, and not a general * i'm single and needs loving * ad, that attracts people like flies to horseshit, cos they think that you are gonna put out for each person that walks thru the door, I think thats good as its telling people where you stand and what you seek... and making it clear that you are genuine and seeking long term, not over night


but I will edit it for you anyways, to see if I can help


First of all...
I love real contact with real people....cyber hugs and kisses are nice.... cyber sex, phone sex and web cam lack the personal touch and warmth of real life contact.... if you can't make the effort to be a real person, I can't be stuffed making the effort to answer ya pm's

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About ME:

I love to do quiet things such as go for walks, read, watch movies, write stories, spend time with my friends and family. I love to shop especially browsing Antique stores. I am romantic, I feel that making love is a small part of being in love, and I want to show you how much a person can love and be loved. I am very shy because I have an cochlear implant
I am not deaf, but hearing impaired, I can hear most people near perfectly unless they have their tongue in my ear and I can talk the ear off a donkey, because I am hearing impaired, phonecalls are hard for me...and I love to talk with people....so I seek people that can meet up a lot, and talk in person as its easier to hear, and so much more real

The language of love has no words... that where i have perfect hearing
Im also one of those people that LOVES to spoil those I love in many different ways. Right now I am interested in talking and meeting people locally or nearby. I value real friends around the world, but its nice to be able to fall in love with people that are 10 minutes away and not 10 hours away

Im only looking for a girlfriend right now, although I'll like to be friends with both genders!
The kind of woman Im looking for.... you have to be a honest and caring person. Likes to do quiet things, I am always willing to try new things that you have a interest in, that I may enjoy. You should be comfortable around deaf/hearing impaired people. You also MUST love cuddling!!! I love to cuddle up with the person I love as we watch a movie on the couch or just talking. I am looking for a long-term relationship :-) LOCALLY or NEAR where I live,
two hearts far apart, hurt more than they love, and tho we can love across 1000's of miles... we can't hug or touch... thats not my idea of a relationship


yeah I know, I have a warped sense of humour

[flexuality]

Poor Tasha....we're "rewriting" you! lol! naaah....you can trash anything I change here and I am fine with it! :)

I'm gonna just tweak LDD's tweaks....and LDD, you did say about wanting to be in a woman's "shoes" for a day....lol....this is just my "woman's perspective" here....I think you got the gist of it good, am just gonna alter the "have to's" and "shoulds" cuz ....well, am not sure lol! I don't like to be told I have to or I should...so...

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First of all...
I love real contact with real people....cyber hugs and kisses are nice.... but I'm not into cyber sex, phone sex or web cam.

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About ME:

I love to do quiet things such as go for walks, read, watch movies, write stories, spend time with my friends and family. I love to shop especially browsing Antique stores.

I am romantic, I feel that making love is a small part of being in love, and I want to share all of it with a special woman.

I am a bit shy because I have an cochlear implant and find that a lot of people don't know much about them.

I am not deaf, but hearing impaired, I can hear most people near perfectly but I do find phonecalls are a bit tricky for me. I love to talk with people....so I seek people that can meet up a lot, and talk in person as its easier to hear, and so much more real.

The language of love has no words... that's where I have perfect hearing.
I am someone who LOVES to spoil those I love in many different ways. Right now I am interested in talking and meeting people locally or nearby. I value real friends around the world, but its nice to be able to fall in love with people that are 10 minutes away and not 10 hours away.

I'm only looking for a girlfriend right now, although I like to be friends with both genders!

The kind of woman I'm looking for.... will value honesty and caring, and like to do quiet things. I am always willing to try new things that you have an interest in, that I may enjoy also.

A love of cuddling is a MUST!!! I love to cuddle up with the person I love as we watch a movie on the couch or are just talking. I am looking for a long-term relationship :-) LOCALLY or at least NEAR where I live.

Two hearts far apart, hurt more than they love, and tho we can love across 1000's of miles... we can't hug or touch... and I want it all!

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Like I said, take what you like (if anything! lol) trash the rest...hey it's YOUR profile! :)

[NorthBiEast]

Those are good edits. From your posts, you don't seem like the shy type at all. :tong:

My comment is just that I'm getting a mixed message. You say you want a relationship, but not necessarily serious, and that's fine, but then you talk a lot about "the one I love". It feels like a lot of pressure to be Mrs. Right from the first PM.

Just my :2cents: and you can keep the change.

[trip1]

I'm so pissed off at how people can be so shallow Tasha. So what your deaf! Your beautiful and if people can't see past your lack of hearing and see the beauty you are outside and in then screw them! For Gods sake don't let it get you down!

[deletetacount123]

Those are good edits. From your posts, you don't seem like the shy type at all. :tong:

My comment is just that I'm getting a mixed message. You say you want a relationship, but not necessarily serious, and that's fine, but then you talk a lot about "the one I love". It feels like a lot of pressure to be Mrs. Right from the first PM.

Just my :2cents: and you can keep the change.

Oh Im shy lol online it doesn't apper to be cause im not face to face with the person :) Due to my shyness and me being deaf, Im really quiet in real life and you may not understand me at first... thats why the more Im around someone, the clearer I get. :) When Im not so shy in RL anymore, the open I become lol.

Where do you see that gives you a mixed message?? Cause I do want a serious relationship.

[deletetacount123]

I'm so pissed off at how people can be so shallow Tasha. So what your deaf! Your beautiful and if people can't see past your lack of hearing and see the beauty you are outside and in then screw them! For Gods sake don't let it get you down!

Thanks Trip :) Now where are the guys like you in RL???

[deletetacount123]

LDD and Flex....
Thanks :) I like both changes lol But you know Flex, I do agree.... while "should" and "have tos" are nice to have, lets you know what you want, not everyone likes seeing that.
I mean, "you MUST love cuddling"..... I liked how you had it "a love of cuddling is a MUST" just sounds friendlier in a way.

Do you guys think I should even include the no cyber/phone/webcam sex bit??
I just want to "get rid" of people that seem to look at profiles with those 3 ideas in mind. If you read that on someones profile, would it draw you or make you go "shes picky" close profile and look at someone elses?
But then I guess it depends what you want... if someone else isn't into that either, it may make them feel better knowing this person (me) won't just jump to the whole cyber sex thing. lol

LDD you didn't do bad for editing my, a woman's profile :)

Tasha

[flexuality]

As far as the "no cyber" bit.....Sol and I both have soemthing like - We're not into "psst...hey wanna do me?" in our profiles, but what I find is that the ones who come into chat only looking for cybersex don't necessarily read the profiles anyway. A lot of them seem to just click on the profile button that only says location, gender and age.

I know that I don't usually read profiles while I am in chat. I might check to see if they're male or female just out of curiosity cuz ya can't always tell by the name!

I might read their profile later on. Sometimes I read profiles just to get an idea of what sounds good in a profile. I'm forever updating mine! lol!

[flexuality]

Thanks Trip :) Now where are the guys like you in RL???

They're out there! I found one! :) :) :) :) :)

[DiamondDog]

I'd also like to agree with LDD that it's not the profile it's other people.

I've had in my profile on here and other sites how if you're married/partnered and want to cheat on your partner/spouse DO NOT contact me and it's obvious that people don't read profiles or follow what they say.

If someone wants to cruise you, flirt with you, or cyber with you they pretty much will reguardless of what you say in your profile if they want to, like in the chat room here I'll say how I'm not here to cyber and I'll still get people messaging me.

For some people it's an ego boost that they get some sort of attention from you or try to even if it's just sending you a message even just to have you say "no" or "Sorry I'm not into that" so at least they figure that they tried, or some people just carry on pointless conversations and it's just constant flirting/bar talk with someone who you'll never meet, or wouldn't want to meet in real life even if they lived in your town/city.

For my profile here and on other sites I'm honest what I'm into/not into like how I'm NOT into cyber/phone sex and not to contact me for it if that's all you want.

Or I'm kinda picky about the people I get with so I write more about my types.

Same with what I'm into/simply not into when it comes to kink/BDSM (like for example I don't like the hardcore total power exchange stuff), or how even though I don't do anal sex how I'm not into barebacking (unprotected anal sex).

I think it's good that you write that you're deaf in your profile. You could always add images that convey this (i.e. like pictures of sign language or symbols used by deaf people), or write it in BIG bold red letters so people will see it.

[deletetacount123]

Ya. I remember back in the late 90s dating sites were just starting.... there were so many honest people and people looking for others for a serious realtionship.

Now it seems most dating sites are taken over by people looking for one nighters or just to cyber/phone sex.
Why can't they stay on the sites thats designed for just that?!?!

Leave the serious ones alone for people looking for a honest and serious relationship.

[Domino]

Tasha I think your profile looks good. It's all about being yourself in these things and trying to project that in writing.

My sister was just telling me the other day that she always feels bad because she gets " Kisses " sent to her on this dating site she hangs, and when she looks at profiles she finds herself disregarding people she thinks would be nice. but because of lack of pics or un interesting profiles she ignores them.

You really don't want to appeal to everyone, you want to appeal to the type of person you want to attract and I think you express yourself well in your profile. :)

[deletetacount123]

I think another problem is so many of the dating sites requires you to PAY in order to read messages or even reply. (some are free to reply if a paid member emails you first)

People don't want to waste money thinking the site will have nothing.
I know I wasted money on a couple of these so called "best dating sites" lol

I have emailed ones Im interested in but I never hear back from them. It gets disouraging after awhile.

Its also a pain when you see a profile that seems to be a perfect match for you but this person hasn't logged on for so long... it tells you when they last logged on so its most likely they forgot about the site . AAAAAAAAH

Maybe I'll get lucky and meet someone on THIS site :) FREE, a active message board, a chat and so on.

[TorontoGuy2007]

hi Tasha,

i think your profile is excellent. it really paints a clear picture of what you want and what you don't want. being open and honest is always good.

honestly, i don't think this site is the best place to look for love. most people are on here to explore their bicuriousity through flings and one-nighters..

i don't expect to find love on here. but it's certainly a great site to read and learn about bisexuality thru the posts of others.. lots of really cool people here on the forum and i enjoy reading the posts of all the regulars..

but yah, i think your profile is great the way it is. hopefully the "right person" for you will come along and see it..

Jeff

[playswu]

Its not about "them" or "me" its about the real world and where you are comfortable. This globe is full of "bilnd" and "deaf" folks who can see and hear!
Been there, done that. You have an ability to communicate in a written venue...this is just like me, I am American however, I read,write, and speak Tagalog......(among others.) My suggestion and recommendation... The real world aint here on the "net" -- 99% of what you find here is fantasy/Disneyland.
Tash, :2cents: remember this: If they dont sleep in your bed, eat at your table or, carry your blood, screw them if they dont get it or are rude.
If they ARE any of the above, then it isnt an issue because they either were real for you, or were blood kin.
Hang in there Hon...BUT NEVER COMPROMISE YOURSELF!!!!!!! OK?
My private e-mail is playswu at yahoo dot com. Drop me a message Dear!