how to check profiles?

[BRIARPATCH]

when in the chat area i cant chk profiles,is it just me or is everyone having this problem?

[welickit]

It never has worked for us.

[arana]

Hold down the control key when you click on it and see if that works.

[becksbolero]

Just open the site in two windows and use one for each task.

[mrvelous1]

I use the Firefox web browser and the links aren't clickable either, so I open a new window and lookup profiles there. But what's the point when so many people don't fill them out anyways? I think you should be required to fill out your profile to participate on the site. Maybe this is a bigger issue here and needs a new forum?

[Avocado]

I use the Firefox web browser and the links aren't clickable either, so I open a new window and lookup profiles there. But what's the point when so many people don't fill them out anyways? I think you should be required to fill out your profile to participate on the site. Maybe this is a bigger issue here and needs a new forum?

A terrible idea. Most people who sign up to this site do so because they feel restricted in their "real" lives to not be able to say things they can say on here. Bisexuals have a hard enough time as it is without other bisexuals making it hard for them to find somewhere they can be themselves and don't have to worry about being judged or outed.

[binaryman]

What I do is open a second window to view the home page. The vertical list shows most who are currently online and clicking a name will show their profile.
As for filling out a profile, I think people should offer something. You are here for community, or to get your jollies without offering much, if anything, of yourself. Filling a profile about your interests and thoughts is hardly 'outing' yourself.

[taz67156]

when your in the chat room right click on the person you want to look at and you have two options one is private chat and the other is for the profile click on it and scroll down to the link and click on that but also make sure that you don't have pop up blocker on cause that will stop links from opening up.

[Avocado]

What I do is open a second window to view the home page. The vertical list shows most who are currently online and clicking a name will show their profile.
As for filling out a profile, I think people should offer something. You are here for community, or to get your jollies without offering much, if anything, of yourself. Filling a profile about your interests and thoughts is hardly 'outing' yourself.

If it's for the forum then fair enough, but for the chatroom? What should we put? Our penis size? Surely if someone posts enough people can ask away anyway. I'm just not comfortable with filling out a profile for people who are only after something.

[intuit2]

i had the same problem after downloading a browser update. Check to see if your browser is blocking popups. If so, you can add this site to the list of sites that you want to allow popups. Hope it works for you.

[mrvelous1]

I think filling out your profile as a condition of membership is simply courteous. I don't know about you but I am tired of logging into a chat room just so see someone type "A/S?", or get a private chat invitation that says "44/m/bi" then waits for me to respond. As for me, if I am curious about someone I check their profile. Before I start a private chat with someone I've looked at their profile.

Let's face it - a complete stranger that walks up to you on the street and says "hi" already knows more about you than MEMBERS of this website do. They know what you look like. They know how you speak. They have made reasonable assumptions about your personality by how you walk and carry yourself, and even how you responded to them. They can get a "feeling" about you from your voice and the things that you say back. What do we get from "HI WANNA SCREW?" in a private chat? Nothing.

As for privacy ... well, think about this: if you are afraid of being "outed" for your sexual preferences by being a member of this website ... who is going to do it? Do you really think that "bashers" of any type are going to say "hey, lets join a bisexual website so we can out people"? Then maybe their fellow bashers will say "um, how did YOU learn about that site?" and the problem solves itself.

Just my :2cents:

[Avocado]

I think filling out your profile as a condition of membership is simply courteous. I don't know about you but I am tired of logging into a chat room just so see someone type "A/S?", or get a private chat invitation that says "44/m/bi" then waits for me to respond. As for me, if I am curious about someone I check their profile. Before I start a private chat with someone I've looked at their profile.

Let's face it - a complete stranger that walks up to you on the street and says "hi" already knows more about you than MEMBERS of this website do. They know what you look like. They know how you speak. They have made reasonable assumptions about your personality by how you walk and carry yourself, and even how you responded to them. They can get a "feeling" about you from your voice and the things that you say back. What do we get from "HI WANNA SCREW?" in a private chat? Nothing.

As for privacy ... well, think about this: if you are afraid of being "outed" for your sexual preferences by being a member of this website ... who is going to do it? Do you really think that "bashers" of any type are going to say "hey, lets join a bisexual website so we can out people"? Then maybe their fellow bashers will say "um, how did YOU learn about that site?" and the problem solves itself.

Just my :2cents:

So you're saying punish everyone for the fact that a few members will go into the chatroom and say hi wanna screw?! If someone doesn't have their profile filled out you owe them nothing. There's no law that says if someone doesn't have a profile you HAVE to talk to them in the chatroom. Just out of interest would my signature do?

[VINdeWOLF]

I think that the "no profile" thing sucks too... but what are going to do? If you make it a condition of sign-up, they'll either just leave or just lie more than some already do. No win either way.

My :2cents:

V!N

[Avocado]

I think that the "no profile" thing sucks too... but what are going to do? If you make it a condition of sign-up, they'll either just leave or just lie more than some already do. No win either way.

My :2cents:

V!N

Bottom line is if someone wants you to know something about them they'll tell you, if not they won't. What parts of the profile to people want filling out? My only email addresses have my name or initials and are known anyway so I can't really do that.

[VINdeWOLF]

Let's face it - a complete stranger that walks up to you on the street and says "hi" already knows more about you than MEMBERS of this website do. They know what you look like. They know how you speak. They have made reasonable assumptions about your personality by how you walk and carry yourself, and even how you responded to them. They can get a "feeling" about you from your voice and the things that you say back. What do we get from "HI WANNA SCREW?" in a private chat? Nothing.

That pretty much sums it up for my opinion on the subject... tx mrvelous1

[Avocado]

In that case...


So you're saying punish everyone for the fact that a few members will go into the chatroom and say hi wanna screw?! If someone doesn't have their profile filled out you owe them nothing. There's no law that says if someone doesn't have a profile you HAVE to talk to them in the chatroom. Just out of interest would my signature do?

[VINdeWOLF]

So you're saying punish everyone for the fact that a few members will go into the chatroom and say hi wanna screw?! If someone doesn't have their profile filled out you owe them nothing. There's no law that says if someone doesn't have a profile you HAVE to talk to them in the chatroom. Just out of interest would my signature do?

I don't get how it's "punishment" to give a little something of yourself back to a community that welcomes all with open arms. Seems selfish and rude to me.

Lissa and I found out real quick that those with no profile usually 1. Don't respond to anything. 2. Won't even confim a read. or 3. Reply with some nastyness that was totally uncalled for.

We don't even bother with them anymore. They haven't been worth the effort so far. IMO, they're missing out... not us. Too bad for them... we can be pretty darn fun... :bigrin:

[Avocado]

I don't get how it's "punishment" to give a little something of yourself back to a community that welcomes all with open arms. Seems selfish and rude to me.

Lissa and I found out real quick that those with no profile usually 1. Don't respond to anything. 2. Won't even confim a read. or 3. Reply with some nastyness that was totally uncalled for.

We don't even bother with them anymore. They haven't been worth the effort so far. IMO, they're missing out... not us. Too bad for them... we can be pretty darn fun... :bigrin:

Well, I don't have much on my profile but I certainly don't fit that category. Apart from my email address, aside from the space for the private add I didn't notice anything I didn't fill out last time I checked. If you have a look you may see something I missed though. For me, respect works both ways. That aside, I've just had bad experiences with perverts who only want to know my cock size or appearance and once have decided to move on in their hunt haven't even had the grace to answer the same question back.

[VINdeWOLF]

Well, I don't have much on my profile but I certainly don't fit that category. Apart from my email address, aside from the space for the private add I didn't notice anything I didn't fill out last time I checked. If you have a look you may see something I missed though. For me, respect works both ways. That aside, I've just had bad experiences with perverts who only want to know my cock size or appearance and once have decided to move on in their hunt haven't even had the grace to answer the same question back.

Hey Avacado, I wasn't pointing at you... only quoting you. :) "respect works both ways" gotcha on that for sure. We've had a few bad experiences too.... luckly the good ones have outweighed the bad, so we stick around.

[Avocado]

Hey Avacado, I wasn't pointing at you... only quoting you. :) "respect works both ways" gotcha on that for sure. We've had a few bad experiences too.... luckly the good ones have outweighed the bad, so we stick around.

hehe I know. No that's fine. :bibounce:

[shaver6]

One of my pet peeves with this site, is the lack of information on people's profile. Now I can see folks that want to be discreet, and are worried about someone finding out their identity. But c'mon...how do you expect to connect or especially meet anyone, if you don't give the minimum amount of information about yourself?

Although they are nice to see, its not necessary to put pictures on your profile, even leaving out your face. But we need some basic information. I have clicked on member's user names and all I get is their gender and a general area where they live. That tells me NOTHING !!!! There is no way I am going to send a message to this person, if I don't have a clue of what they are like. At the minimum....give your age, a very brief physical description of yourself...and what you are looking for.... very simple...and so much more helpful to people who might be looking for you.... :2cents:

[Avocado]

One of my pet peeves with this site, is the lack of information on people's profile. Now I can see folks that want to be discreet, and are worried about someone finding out their identity. But c'mon...how do you expect to connect or especially meet anyone, if you don't give the minimum amount of information about yourself?

Although they are nice to see, its not necessary to put pictures on your profile, even leaving out your face. But we need some basic information. I have clicked on member's user names and all I get is their gender and a general area where they live. That tells me NOTHING !!!! There is no way I am going to send a message to this person, if I don't have a clue of what they are like. At the minimum....give your age, a very brief physical description of yourself...and what you are looking for.... very simple...and so much more helpful to people who might be looking for you.... :2cents:

You're talking about people who want to meet people. Some people are just here to read messages and post.

[VINdeWOLF]

You're talking about people who want to meet people. Some people are just here to read messages and post.

You're right, I agree. After re-reading the thread, it would seem to me that we are mixing peoples intent and own purpose for using this site. Perhaps new threads are in order...

[arana]

You're right, I agree. After re-reading the thread, it would seem to me that we are mixing peoples intent and own purpose for using this site. Perhaps new threads are in order...
If you read through the old threads you will see this topic brought up many times over the past couple of years.