View Full Version : I am new to this board, but need some advice.
HotStuffBaby
Nov 2, 2006, 5:03 PM
My best friend and I, have started to explore each. being both female it is new to both of us. but we trust each other. the only problem is she has fallen in love with me. and wants to be with me forever. I do love her too, but not in the way she loves me. I have tried to tell her this but its hard for her to understand, that yes I want to be with her sexually, but I don't want to move our friendship over that 'forever' relationship line. and to make matters worse I fear I've have fallen in love with her brother. I'm so confused
smokey
Nov 2, 2006, 5:08 PM
Screw em both...have fun and don't worry about it....its only a drama if somebody wants it to be. It don't matter if you are straight, gay or bisexual EVERYBODY goes through crap like this in one form or the other.
My only real advice is to stop worrying what everybody wants (including yourself) and throw yourself with abandon into your life and play your cards as they fall...what we get is always more fasicinating than what we want.
csrakate
Nov 2, 2006, 5:34 PM
Screw em both...have fun and don't worry about it....its only a drama if somebody wants it to be. It don't matter if you are straight, gay or bisexual EVERYBODY goes through crap like this in one form or the other.
My only real advice is to stop worrying what everybody wants (including yourself) and throw yourself with abandon into your life and play your cards as they fall...what we get is always more fasicinating than what we want.
I really don't see how being cavalier about the feelings of others could possibly be beneficial to one's own happiness! Maybe I am missing something here but this poster is obviously hurting over the prospect of hurting someone she cares about in her quest for sexual satisfaction as well as in her quest for love. And the fact that they are siblings to boot...sounds like a train wreck waiting to happen!
As far as what you should do, I would suggest complete and total honesty, NOW...before this drags out any further. You may be able to salvage a valuable friendship as well as develop one that you seem to be yearning for.
Just my :2cents:
Hugs,
Kate
julie
Nov 2, 2006, 5:57 PM
I really don't see how being cavalier about the feelings of others could possibly be beneficial to one's own happiness? Maybe I am missing something here but this poster is obviously hurting over the prospect of hurting someone she cares about in her quest for sexual satisfaction as well as in her quest for love. And the fact that they are siblings to boot...sounds like a train wreck waiting to happen!
As far as what you should do, I would suggest complete and total honesty, NOW...before this drags out any further. You may be able to salvage a valuable friendship as well as develop one that you seem to be yearning for.
Just my :2cents:
Hugs,
Kate
I second that
julie :female: xxx
anne27
Nov 2, 2006, 6:09 PM
Talk to your friend openly and honestly. That's the only way to do it. I'd back off from the brother, as that's just going to hurt her more. :2cents:
Good luck in whatever you decide!
smokey
Nov 2, 2006, 6:22 PM
read the second part of my post....THAT was what I said was my real advice...and I think it is valid.
taz67156
Nov 3, 2006, 1:31 AM
I really don't see how being cavalier about the feelings of others could possibly be beneficial to one's own happiness! Maybe I am missing something here but this poster is obviously hurting over the prospect of hurting someone she cares about in her quest for sexual satisfaction as well as in her quest for love. And the fact that they are siblings to boot...sounds like a train wreck waiting to happen!
As far as what you should do, I would suggest complete and total honesty, NOW...before this drags out any further. You may be able to salvage a valuable friendship as well as develop one that you seem to be yearning for.
Just my :2cents:
Hugs,
Kate
I agree with Kate and couldn't have put it better myself
Doggie_Wood
Nov 4, 2006, 1:33 AM
Ditto - I definitly agree.
:doggie:
citrus
Nov 6, 2006, 6:56 AM
Is there a Shakespeare quote that goes, "Above all else to thyself be true."?
Where ever that quote is from, it sure applies here. Emotionally painful hurts came to me because I was only slighty less than truthful. I can't imagine the hurt I'd have brought upon another and myself if I had been blatantly, wholly untruthful! We're bisexual my loving friends. We've everything to maintain, our character and personal credibilty and respect to lose. It's important to be honest right away. It saves having to come clean later on.