Developing the sensual connection

[LoveYourCum]

The vast majority of my sexual life has been spend facinated by the giving of pleasure to women. As I'm older i have shed my hang ups about same sex contact but i find my skills at sucking a man are, well, not practiced. I always have a sense for how my tonge is effecting my women lovers, it's like a connection and my mantra is if you can count your orgasms we are not done yet.

I have had the wonderful experience of being with a bi couple and we all made love to one another. I was dissapointed by my skills sucking him. Although he seemed to enjoy it emensly I somehow didn't feel that same connection.

Has anyone else that began later in life to pleasure a gender different than the one they normally do, found this? Does the connection improve with practice? Am I imagining this idea of a connection or knowing exactly what your partner is feeling from what you are doing?

[DiamondDog]

I am very good at pleasing both men and women sexually yet I say that I'm better at pleasing men since I have the equipment and guys know what guys want.

I've been told I'm good at pleasing women, by women; but I don't have a vagina/clitoris/a female reproductive system so I don't know how it feels for a woman.

Likewise this past weekend when I was doing some internal/external prostate stimulation while masturbating, I thought about how if a woman were doing this unless she was a *VERY* skilled dominant I doubt that most women would really know what they're doing as well as I would or another man. I know that sounds stereotypical and everything but it's the truth.

[Herbwoman39]

Likewise this past weekend when I was doing some internal/external prostate stimulation while masturbating, I thought about how if a woman were doing this unless she was a *VERY* skilled dominant I doubt that most women would really know what they're doing as well as I would or another man. I know that sounds stereotypical and everything but it's the truth.

Sadly there is some truth in your stereotyping. Many heterosexual men are either afraid to try prostate stimulation or, moreso, afraid tolet their lady try it. It takes practice to pleasea man that way. Too much pressure and it hurts, too little and it doesn't work.

But then, doing anything well takes practice. It's a matter of having the opportunity enough times to get good ;)

[Long Duck Dong]

lol diamonddog

i have the same issue at times....i have been told that oral sex with me is beyond belief...lol...( ego trip ).... but i found that with males, it tends to be more self centered.... males tend to worry about their orgasm and its done... but with the ladies, I found that they were more inclined to guide me and give me small signals that helped me to bring them to orgasm, time and time again

how i solved the same gender issue... was to use my fingers, my tongue and my mouth in a way that most people didn't do
lets face it, porn is not a good guide to oral sex.....lol.....
just below the *helmet * of a male on the under side, is a nerve cluster... some guys love gentle oral pressure on that part and its like the clit of a lady... pretty sensitive to the right pressure

the underside of the balls, nearest to the anus, is a second nerve cluster... its not that sensitive to temp changes, but its more pressure sensitive

in most guys the head of the penis of a circumised male is not that sensitive compared to a uncircumised guy... but the base can be sensitive to deep throating