things that make you go hunh !!!?

[twosides]

The kind of thing that makes your eyes fly wide open just as you're drifting off to dreamloverville.

Mine the other night, was the memory of my college roomates. Two strapping, talented, good looking guys. Each with thier respective girlfriends. We went through the dorms together for two years, and off campus for another one. Not all of us all together, all the time. But... Well, it's hard to explain here without drawing a five colored timeline, but what I realized was that I had been in a bisexual quint relationship that was loving, caring, supporting, fun, and completely devoid of sex - for me. Each couple was having fun but I wasn't a part of it, and they didn't mix it up either.

My mind flashed on how my love for all these people sprung from my str8 attraction to the young ladies. It started out that we were just three stoned fools sitting on a hill. And because I was such good friends with the guys, I knew the girls were going to be cool long before I met them. When I did, I instantly fell in love in the deep, truthful way that you do when you know you can't be with that person. And that love for the girls seeped over to the guys. And I now believe, at that moment, those formative years in my late teens, early 20's, I experienced the kind of relationship that I have been searching for ever since.

[shameless agitator]

Wow, that's some major food for thought. I know exactly what you mean though about the deeper love for someone you know you can't be with. It just takes so much of the bullshit immediately out of the equation.

[sam08537]

It's so funny to me that I stumbled in here today ready to run my mouth (posting) for the first time. I'm in a situation now, that I hoped to find some answers to here. I have a dear friend that I have loved for a few years now. I'm married and my friend identifies his sexuality as gay. So for years I have been free to love him, and I knew that he loves me to in his way. A few months ago though, after 1 to many martini's, my husband, my dear friend and I tumbled into bed together. This was hubby's first bi experience. Since then the relationships have evolved to the point that hubby loves my dear friend, I love my dear friend, and he loves us...in his way. When we are all together, it is bliss. We live together part time but when we're apart hubby and I spend a lot of time dwelling on what could be if we all lived together full time. Something that just isn't feasible right now. The problem for me is, this used to be a relationship that I didn't analyze with my dear friend. I just loved him and it was fine. I get more satisfaction from my relationship with him now because between the three of us, all of our needs are getting met in spades. Thanks for reading this rambeling, I think I just figured out my problem. I need to do what dearest has been telling me and relax. Let it be what it is instead of dwelling on what it could be if so many things were different.

[ghytifrdnr]

That's it Sam. Relax and enjoy. This might last and it might not, but while it does your life will be so far above ordinary that ordinary folks can't even imagine.

[shameless agitator]

I need to do what dearest has been telling me and relax. Let it be what it is instead of dwelling on what it could be if so many things were different.Excellent advice. It sounds like you've stumbled into exactly the kind of relationship I'm hoping to eventually build.

[sam08537]

Thanks guys. It's the "might not last" part that has me a little freaked. It's like when I went on the Atkins diet and couldn't eat carbs anymore. ALL I COULD THINK ABOUT WAS CARBS. Now, when he isn't home with us all I can think about is when he is going to be home with us again or when we can go be with him for a few days.

If I can just relax and "quit being a girl" like my 2 partners kid me about, This could continue to be something really great.

[twosides]

Absence makes the heart grow fonder.