You ever been with a guy that can be annoying?

[Alex_rose]

I can see why so many guys would just randomly hookup with a stranger and not see them again. Much easier than seeing a guy often. Guys can be so weird.

This guy I've seen to hookup was very flaky when I first would see him. And now he's annoying, he would text me just saying how are you. And if I don't respond gets dramatic and says so are you not into to me? I haven't responded cause to be honest kind of losing interest especially now, he's coming off desperate and don't think I could have sex with him after this. Would if I was honest and said can you just take a hint if I don't respond doesn't mean I don't like you I just don't want to talk.

[Jazminedress]

Be honest. I deal with emplyees all day that have unrealistic expectations in life, I deal with customers that are, well, honestly bat shit crazy.

So, sometimes, I want to get home, throw on some make up, lounge in a nice dress and not connect with anyone at all, even online. SO tell him, hey, there are times I am busy or I just need a people break. If he cant handle that, you dont need to own his emotional baggage and maybe best to move on. He could simply be someone you have to spell things out for, which is understandable these days

[KDaddy23]

Yeah, you can run into such guys at times. It's weird; you can be very clear about keeping things "casual" and NSA and one of the things I chide my protege about is thinking that just because this is the way he wants things to be, that doesn't mean that the other guy wants things to be that way... even if they start out agreeing with his terms. He gets with these guys, lays some good loving on them... then gets bent because now homey is blowing up his phone and being annoying. I've asked him if he ever considered that a guy can change his mind and that, um, if you fuck a guy's brains out or otherwise make the sex amazing to him, what makes you think he's not going to want more of the same and will be all over you like a bad habit to get more of you?

"Most of the time," all you wanna do is find a suitable guy and get it done with him and on to the next guy or maybe again with this guy... if he doesn't become clingy and annoying and more so when you may not be of a mind to "settle down" with one guy. I've run into many such guys in my experiences and it's hard to be annoyed about them being annoying since, chances are, I'm the reason why they're being annoying because I met or exceeded their expectations or they find that I'm "the one" they've been looking for and I'm not of a mind to be the one. I tend to look at this situation as an occupational hazard - it comes with the "job," as it were and now you can find yourself in the bad position of having to hurt someone's feelings.

[Rest85]

Yes! I sucked a guy who was rather arrogant and sort of bossy. Mind you, I like a touch of that when I have his cock in my mouth, but this guy was arrogant and bossy after sex and in a way that was too much for me to tolerate. His cock was so nice and got very hard. He shot a nice load that I found incredibly good. He didn't seek to return the favor, which is what I like. He is married and I felt he'd keep our secret safe. Except for his demeanor, I would have gladly been his regular cocksucker.
I went back a second time just to be sure I wasn't wrong about his demeanor. I wasn't. Shame.

[Jozyxt]

My third cocksucker was a married Chinese gay guy that was in pretty deep denial about being the sub that he was. He kept begging me to pee on him or to eat my ass even after I told him no. I finally relented and let him rim me and he was so proud of it, only to message me later that it was so gross. He would call me a cocksucker. I don't let my cocksuckers call me names so I punished him by slapping his balls. Then he started asking me to pay him money for him to suck me. After I refused, he started texting and calling me names again, which got him a complete ban. I was just starting to enjoy dominating him when he became too annoying.

[Tight1-4u]

this is funny I was just about to post something about this.. over the years I have found a fair amount of guys that get clingy as I call it.. demanding,, straight up ignorant.. now I hate it when someone ghosts me so I try to never do that to anyone.. I have two guy’s presently that are starting to become problems. They feel that they are and should be my first and only priority.. just drop everything when the mood strikes.. get pissy when I don’t react the way they seem to think I should.. they both are great in bed so yak have kinda tolerated their bs.. my fault I know.. but it is getting to the point that I need to do something.. normally I just tell them how I feel and explain that if they don’t knock it off we are done.. then cut them off a bit..this normally works pretty well.. then when I do let them fuck me again they are cool.. guess it is time to have the talk..

[Alex_rose]

Be honest. I deal with emplyees all day that have unrealistic expectations in life, I deal with customers that are, well, honestly bat shit crazy.

So, sometimes, I want to get home, throw on some make up, lounge in a nice dress and not connect with anyone at all, even online. SO tell him, hey, there are times I am busy or I just need a people break. If he cant handle that, you dont need to own his emotional baggage and maybe best to move on. He could simply be someone you have to spell things out for, which is understandable these days

lol. I understand I use to work in retail. Thanks, good advice

[happymouthandtongue]

Some guys talk way too much before and after I blow them.

[SilkyHoseLover]

I think there's a happy medium to be sought. While I'm definitely not into anonymous blow & go scenes, neither am I looking for a new best friend or an emotional connection. Before I get together with anyone, I expect to have enough previous communication to where we each know at least a little bit about one another to feel safe and comfortable. So that inevitably leads to some degree of pre and post sexual gratification conversation on a topic of mutual interest. We can play any kind of role during the act, if preferred, but mutual respect and pleasant demeanor are what I have to offer and expect in return.

I think a followup via email or text is appropriate, especially after a positive 'first time' experience and especially if the other party served as host. But that doesn't mean getting clingy, demanding exclusivity or making a pest of oneself.

[loves oral]

I think you're always going to find guys that turn out to different than you expected. I chatted with one guy a couple times then he invited me over, got there and he says I sent you a message didn't you get it? No, what did you want? I changed my mine and don't want to meet today. Ok, I'll leave. No, wait as long as you're here come on in, this was just a meet and talk to see if we're interested. So we sit down he sits behind the screen of a lap top and all his answers are yes and no, no conversation from him. I leave and by the time I get home he's messaging me asking what I think of him. BTW, he had messaged me at about the time I was suppose to me him telling me he was busy and we couldn't meet. No, we didn't meet again.

[Alex_rose]

Thanks guys good advice.:)

[Jozyxt]

Dealing with men and sex give me great sympathy for what women go through all the time.

[SlowNEZ]

Good advice, all.
As a self-employed professional in a fairly small town, I am concerned about being -outed- by a bisexual paramour.
I would feel safest with a married guy who also has a reputation to uphold, and would not want our trysts made public.
Have any of you guys had a male *lover* spill the beans to significant others or the public in general?

[Alex_rose]

Dealing with men and sex give me great sympathy for what women go through all the time.
Yes, that is for sure. It does make me feel bad being like that.
Think I'm really going to miss that cock, it was the perfect size for me and smooth not all veiny jus all pink. I can deep throat it and take it in my ass. And to be honest and I feel weird saying this but I think I kind of got turned on by getting that kind of reaction from someone to get them mad about me. I think I can fuck someone and want them to pound me, taking out their anger through sex.

[Alex_rose]

Good advice, all.
As a self-employed professional in a fairly small town, I am concerned about being -outed- by a bisexual paramour.
I would feel safest with a married guy who also has a reputation to uphold, and would not want our trysts made public.
Have any of you guys had a male *lover* spill the beans to significant others or the public in general?
That's what I thought of before meeting a guy and the distance between us. It could be good and bad. Even being careful what you tell them and if you exchange pics. Something I regret but hell its in the past. Fuck it. I'll can do is try and not repeat the same mistakes

[Rest85]

Good advice, all.
As a self-employed professional in a fairly small town, I am concerned about being -outed- by a bisexual paramour.
I would feel safest with a married guy who also has a reputation to uphold, and would not want our trysts made public.
Have any of you guys had a male *lover* spill the beans to significant others or the public in general?

I prefer to suck guys from another town to minimize any possible exposure. I don't want to be seen going into someone's house...or get caught in a car with a cock in my mouth. I don't want to be seen in any sort of compromising position.
Sometimes I connect with guy's in my somewhat small town, though. During our pre-meet communications I am sure he knows that I want to stay in the closet, that I give and expect discretion and secrecy. I also make sure he understands that if we run into each other in any public setting that he should act as if we are strangers, whether I am alone or not. So far, I haven't been outed and hope that things stay that way. I find it adds to the arousal factor that I am sneaking to suck cocks, hiding my secret side.

[SilkyHoseLover]

Dealing with men and sex give me great sympathy for what women go through all the time.
I've long been of that opinion, even before the potential of my having sex with them became an issue. I'd see the way (some) men behave/dress/comport themselves, and wondered what in hell women saw in them, not to mention the possibilities of dealing with them on an intimate basis.

[KDaddy23]

Dealing with men and sex give me great sympathy for what women go through all the time.

The one thing I've always said about being male and bisexual is that you will most certainly find out what we put women through. I don't know about anyone else who had this "wisdom" hit them but it got me to change the way I behaved with women. In one of the old "Flint" movies, there was a quote that I took to heart: "The best way to get along with women is not to compete with them." As it turns out, it's also the best way to get along with men, too. Those annoying, overbearing, pushy, clingy, and needy guys are... annoying as fuck and I think that the moment you cave into them, you're now in competition with them and the "best" way to deal with them is to let them know that you're not going to play their "game." You probably wind up ignoring them and putting as much distance as possible between yourselves and in either "solution," their feelings are gonna get hurt and, well, you have to kinda harden your heart and hurt their feelings and it's the price they pay for being an annoyance when we can do whatever without all that drama. They'll tell you that you're an asshole but the truth is that they're being the asshole about things or, if it's a woman being a great annoyance, she's a cunt. The heart wants what the heart wants but there's a way to go about that without being a pain in someone else's ass, figuratively and literally.

[Jozyxt]

"The best way to get along with women is not to compete with them."
True. Women want to know you are thinking about them, no planning on how to get ahead.


They'll tell you that you're an asshole but the truth is that they're being the asshole
People who call others names are most often projecting themselves.

[happymouthandtongue]

I get annoyed at guys that want to press my limit. I’m a cocksucker, I love to suck cocks and swallow cum. Too many guys want to have their balls licked or sucked, won’t do it. Also not in to rimming a guy, but I do love to rim a woman’s clean ass. Not much into conversation, all I want is their cock and cum, then to leave.

[void()]

Shortly, yes. I've also been with women that are annoying. The point being? People are people. Sometimes a person has times of being annoying and other times not.

Then, you also got those who annoy no matter what. You don't need to be around those you don't want to be. There's enough hands in the world to lift you up into the Light. You don't need to fall, or be pushed down in the Dark.

If someone annoys, leave and find another. You don't need them. They're doing you no favor. We're coming up on 8 billion plus people on Earth. You can find lots that don't annoy.

[Alex_rose]

Shortly, yes. I've also been with women that are annoying. The point being? People are people. Sometimes a person has times of being annoying and other times not.

Then, you also got those who annoy no matter what. You don't need to be around those you don't want to be. There's enough hands in the world to lift you up into the Light. You don't need to fall, or be pushed down in the Dark.

If someone annoys, leave and find another. You don't need them. They're doing you no favor. We're coming up on 8 billion plus people on Earth. You can find lots that don't annoy.

Yes, that is a great point.

[marine20]

actually , i had a long relationship with a guy that was really annoying. i met him at a bathhouse years ago. we sucked each other , and i fucked him. he loved to get fucked. he was one of those guys that knew everything , and felt that you knew very little. the reason that i stuck with him for so long was his wife. she knew he was bi , and after some time we got her involved. what a great piece of ass she was . she knew how to treat a man. i fucked both of them for years. it was fuckin wonderful. it eventually ended , much to my regret , but as a wise man once said , '' a sex drive is so strong , that it makes you call people you don't even like ''.