has anyone been divorced after wife discovered you were bi ?

[marine20]

a lot of the guys here ,say that their wives would leave them if they found out they were bi. i don't think that is really true . i think it might cause some real problems , even ridicule , but i think it takes more than that ,to make a wife leave. if your wife has really left you because of being bi , i would like to hear from you. in my own case , i got tired of living with this deception , so after 38 years , i told my wife, and surprisingly , she was ok with it. her only concern was that i went to men because of her. that wasn't true , because i started my bi life style before i even met her. so she was satisfied with that.

[BeauKnerr]

Yep...I got the heave-ho. I just posted about that earlier today. For convenience, I pasted it below:

Over a period of years, my ex-wife caught me a few times using Craigslist and throw-away email accounts, mostly used to communicate with guys. On the third, and final strike, my screensaver failed to work and she went on a scavenger hunt on my computer after I had fallen asleep. She found a mail account still logged in on the browser and forwarded several messages to herself and took screenshots. Then she startled me awake and, in a fog, I remember getting blasted with the words, "your computer....you're gay!....divorce...". I guess it wouldn't have helped my cause at that point to tell her that I had also had liaisons with a few women, too, so I just kept silent. Ha. Not proud of it all, but the marriage had gotten to be a bit of a wreck at that point for other reasons. She was on the verge of beginning an affair of her own, so it was just a matter of time. But, this situation accelerated things and became the main reason in her mind. She told some of her friends and family but not my kids as far as I know. Nobody talks about it but it hangs out there.

Now, I've been with a new fine gal for several years and I'm trying not to fuck it up. No, she doesn't know. In an ideal world, I would be able to be open about it, but my gal abhors the notion of bisexuality -- "they should just make a choice", she says. She likes her men to be manly men who love to eat only pussy and who don't suck cock. So, I try to behave. I have not met up with a dude in several years, since before my marriage ended. But as you know, you can't just shut it off. But I'm still at risk of getting caught again by being on this site, messaging a guy here and there, watching guy porn, etc.

The irony is that technology has enabled bi guys to operate more on the down low and it has increased our risk of getting caught either by our own slip ups or through surveillance by suspicious partners. Be careful out there, fellas.

[BeauKnerr]

Oh, and I also should note that there is a big support group for people (mostly women, but not all) who have discovered that their spouses are gay or bi, known as the Straight Spouse Network. I have read the stories and posts on their forum at https://straightspouse.boardhost.com/ . I'm only a lurker there and don't reveal myself since I represent the anti-Christ. Most of the people that post have been quite traumatized by their experience; of course, there may be selection bias as spouses who are fine with their other half being bi- would be less likely to seek out a support group. But so many of the stories read the same, just like mine......husband slips up...wife spots something (porn on the browser history, strange text, a Craigslist ad, a condom when that's not their marital practice, dildo hidden away, etc)...husband tries to explain it away...she wants to believe him...life goes on...another slip...more suspicion...life goes on...until finally the levee breaks and the shit hits the fan. That's why I say be careful. Nearly every story involves some oversight involving today's tech.

There is a whole subsection entitle "Is he/she bi or gay", on which suspicious folks post about their spouses who they believe may be in the closet. Let's hope than none of your spouses or gf's are posting on there as we speak, trying to figure out a way to corner you. There was a recent post detailing surveillance and forensic tactics that can be used to gather evidence on a potentially wayward mate.

I always tried to be very careful. But when you add up the days, the emails, websites, etc., there are thousands of times you need to be perfect and the statistics are against you in the long run. That one day, when you have the ESPN page up and the screensaver doesn't kick in because of their video feed, might also be the day that one of your Gmails on a closed browser is still logged in unbeknownst to you, and it might also just be the day that your wife spots an opportunity to go digging. Yep, that was my final and fatal error. The first time my wife caught me was when she was using a computer to type a document and she was trying to cut/paste something. She pressed CTRL-V and what appeared to her to be personal ad popped onto the screen. I had been using that computer responding to some CL ads, and for my convenience, was cutting/pasting my responses. Oh, sure, I cleared the browser history, logged out of my emails, cleaned up my tracks. But, it didn't occur to me to clear the fucking buffer. And what are the odds she'd be typing some PTA document and fail to correctly hit CTRL-C before pasting? I made up some shit and the cut healed with a scar. Until I went and picked it open again. And again.

One Slip is all it takes as Pink Floyd so eloquently put it:

"One slip and down the hole we fall
It seems to take no time at all
A momentary lapse of reason
That binds a life for life
A small regret, you won't forget
There'll be no sleep in here tonight"

[sissyjackie]

Back in 1978 my first wife was a bitch we were marred in 1977. She always denied me sex so I found it in a neighbor. He was in his 40's. He was plowing me from behind when she walked in on us. She got so mad told her he was a c--- and we split up of course she went around telling everyone I was a foggot but no one liked her so they didn't believe her. I moved to another state just to get away.

[BeauKnerr]

Back in 1978 my first wife was a bitch we were marred in 1977. She always denied me sex so I found it in a neighbor. He was in his 40's. He was plowing me from behind when she walked in on us. She got so mad told her he was a c--- and we split up of course she went around telling everyone I was a foggot but no one liked her so they didn't believe her. I moved to another state just to get away.

Oh man, to be caught in the act would be horrible. "Hey honey, it's not what it looks like." :yikes2: That's pretty amazing that she lacked credibility to the point where no one believed her.

In my case, I am sure my ex-wife still has copies of the emails she found, which appeared to be limited to salacious communications with other guys and no documented hook ups. To my knowledge, she never found any evidence of my actually being with anyone and I never admitted to it because I knew there was no way she would keep a bond of confidence at that stage of the game. Little did she know that, by that point, I was a more talented cocksucker than she was. :bigrin:

[Natalkirlin]

I still remember the date of my wife found the messages in my phone with a few of the guys that I was meeting up with. She was shocked and the final blow was when she found naked pictures of some of the guys that I hooked up with. Luckily, I found a great lawyer from nasserallan.ca (https://nasserallan.ca/) who managed to not have my whole fortune taken away by her as she was furious and demanded almost everything that I had bought myself. I'm not saying that she was wrong, but we didn't have the best relationship throughout our marriage and it's partly her fault too.

[Ebonybifemme7]

Bisexual woman here. I've never been married but I can't imagine living a double life like that. It wreaks havoc on your mental health. Thats a big secret to keep from your spouse.

[MidTownBob]

Yes, it happened to me. Wife found some pictures that I'd made to display on various hookup sites. We tried to make it work for about a year but she just couldn't get by what I'd done. We actually do get along okay these days, but it was excruciatingly painful for my whole family.

[LiteraN]

I still remember the date of my wife found the messages in my phone with a few of the guys that I was meeting up with. She was shocked and the final blow was when she found naked pictures of some of the guys that I hooked up with. Luckily, I found a great lawyer from nasserallan.ca (https://nasserallan.ca/) who managed to not have my whole fortune taken away by her as she was furious and demanded almost everything that I had bought myself. I'm not saying that she was wrong, but we didn't have the best relationship throughout our marriage and it's partly her fault too.

Wow, that's a weird story for sure. I'm glad you settled this the right way.