Straight men who have sex with men; anyone feel this is the besides me? [Archive]

Tag200

Jul 15, 2020, 10:25 PM

thanks for your response I appreciate it. However again it is jsit dialog and digging deeper as to why this it that.. there is not religious guilt or anything per say stopping me .. and I am it denying I am attracted to men as some defense or denial I truly am it attracted to men other than the cock... and I have read plenty of other that feel the same and read plenty on it.. I am just trying to lessen and understand more

Just accept the fact that men turn you on. It does not mean you will ever be gay. It does not mean that you will explore your fantasies with men. It only means that you are adventurous, curious and open to the other half world of sexual pleasure/fun (with men), but your hetero psyche or religious & moral upbringing beliefs "forbid" you from seeking it. There is no 11th Commandment from God that "thou shalt not have sex with your same gender".

Jazminedress

Jul 15, 2020, 10:34 PM

I would love a passable shemale or crossdresser.

oh hell, me too

Long Duck Dong

Jul 16, 2020, 12:24 AM

its a difficult question, a person attracted to cock is not always attracted to men... males have cocks but so does my female intersex partner..... so it begs the question if a person could find intersex female partners ( imply there was a few 100k of them ) then would they ever suck a males cock again......

bisexual generally means attraction to both genders, male and female but attraction to cock and not the rest of the person, falls outside of that definition as there is no attraction to males, just genitalia and there is actually terms for that, gynephillia can be used as a term for a person attracted to the female anatomy, the male term is androphilia, they can both also be called gyne and androsexual ... the problem is that people blur the definition to mean attraction to males and attraction to females, NOT aspects of the persons anatomy.... and the attraction to males or females is gay or lesbian but its used in the context of attraction to the male or female anatomy of people that are non binary or do not identify as male or female......

now the argument can be used that its too many definitions and is getting stupid, thats a valid point but then people bitch about being blanket labeled with terms that do not actually apply to them or that other people are using the wrong labels.... IE MSM / men that have sex with men, are said to be gay / bi but they are not attracted to males outside of a sexual aspect and do not see themselves as gay / bi, which promptly results in them being told that they have internalised homophobic / bi phobia..... when in fact, they just do not have an attraction to males outside of purely sexual contact......

at the end of the day, we are all unique and different, with different interests and attractions, so yeah we do need the means to define our interests cos without it, you become a bisexual ( attraction to males and females ) that is straight ( only attracted to the opposite gender ) but has androphila ( sexual interest in cock ).....but because others do not want to fuck around with labels, just with you, its easier for them to label you as bisexual cos their interest is in your cock, not really you......

Tag200

Jul 16, 2020, 11:14 AM

Thanks for response “long”

tenni

Jul 16, 2020, 11:55 AM

The fact is that you are not a straight heterosexual. You are not gay. You are fluid as the article states.

Tag200

Jul 16, 2020, 12:31 PM

fluid, ok thanks .. I need to read more on that I guess ...

The fact is that you are not a straight heterosexual. You are not gay. You are fluid as the article states.

Tag200

Jul 16, 2020, 12:33 PM

not sure that fits upon first look but open to see... how do you define fluid?

fluid, ok thanks .. I need to read more on that I guess ...

Bi_Dave

Jul 16, 2020, 1:52 PM

I only am interested in the cock. I don't kiss, rim, lick balls. I don't fuck, although I used to like the feeling of getting fucked and I still like getting fucked between my legs. I wear dentures and enjoy sliding a nice cock into my mouth and down my throat. After he's cum and zipped up I leave. No, no kiss goodbye. Too bad we weren't closer.
Dave

Tag200

Jul 16, 2020, 2:06 PM

thanks for your reply. Do guys blow you too? How do you define yourself ; gay, bi, straight, fluid or ...?

I only am interested in the cock. I don't kiss, rim, lick balls. I don't fuck, although I used to like the feeling of getting fucked and I still like getting fucked between my legs. I wear dentures and enjoy sliding a nice cock into my mouth and down my throat. After he's cum and zipped up I leave. No, no kiss goodbye. Too bad we weren't closer.
Dave

tenni

Jul 16, 2020, 4:03 PM

not sure that fits upon first look but open to see... how do you define fluid?

Fluid is being open to changing who you are attracted to men or women or other gender.

Men's cock seems to be what you are attracted to rather than attracted to a person physically, emotionally, and psychologically . Perhaps understanding that you can be attracted to a man's all over body, mind etc. is not the same as finding a woman's all over body and psychological behaviour.

I wonder if a person is only physically attracted/interested in a body part is a different sexuality than being heterosexual, gay, bisexual?

It is also possibly is a phobia..ie internalized homophobia or internalized biphobia? i.e.. I'm attracted to cock and I will not accept that I can be attracted to men's bodies just their male body part. (that's too gay and I'm not gay..or bisexual).

Tag200

Jul 16, 2020, 7:44 PM

thank you very much for your thoughts... I will consider it all of course.. unless it’s really repressed I do it think it’s homophobic or other sick things as I am not anti anyone or anything and never have been..and ageism uless Very suppressed I am it attracted to men’s bodies etc , just not... there cock I am or if they are a TS girl then I guess I find them attractive but not anything else ..

Fluid is being open to changing who you are attracted to men or women or other gender.

Men's cock seems to be what you are attracted to rather than attracted to a person physically, emotionally, and psychologically . Perhaps understanding that you can be attracted to a man's all over body, mind etc. is not the same as finding a woman's all over body and psychological behaviour.

I wonder if a person is only physically attracted/interested in a body part is a different sexuality than being heterosexual, gay, bisexual?

It is also possibly is a phobia..ie internalized homophobia or internalized biphobia? i.e.. I'm attracted to cock and I will not accept that I can be attracted to men's bodies just their male body part. (that's too gay and I'm not gay..or bisexual).

tenni

Jul 16, 2020, 8:53 PM

thank you very much for your thoughts... I will consider it all of course.. unless it’s really repressed I do it think it’s homophobic or other sick things as I am not anti anyone or anything and never have been..and ageism uless Very suppressed I am it attracted to men’s bodies etc , just not... there cock I am or if they are a TS girl then I guess I find them attractive but not anything else ..

Yes, I think that your biphobia would be coming from a suppressed area of your mind. The number of male posters who state that they are only interested in a guy's cock is puzzling. The recreational aspect of enjoying sucking or being sucked without emotion or intellectual connection with another man suggest incomplete behaviour or impersonal interaction over a longer time period. Do you react this way with women?(no emotional, intellectual, only want tits to play with or some other sexual behaviour?)

Tag200

Jul 16, 2020, 11:15 PM

I do like the entire women’s body yes, I do have feelings for them sometimes it’s just friendship even if I sleep with them and on occasion it’s more ... I do feel when men just hook up for sex it often is without emotion or feeling , it’s jsit sex. Am I incorrect ? Is that wrong ?

Yes, I think that your biphobia would be coming from a suppressed area of your mind. The number of male posters who state that they are only interested in a guy's cock is puzzling. The recreational aspect of enjoying sucking or being sucked without emotion or intellectual connection with another man suggest incomplete behaviour or impersonal interaction over a longer time period. Do you react this way with women?(no emotional, intellectual, only want tits to play with or some other sexual behaviour?)

CockHummer

Jul 17, 2020, 7:46 AM

I find it interesting you describe finding a nice cock up the butt very pleasurable, as if it has been an ordinary part of life for you, but somehow sucking cock is an "if the opportunity ever arises" sort of thing. I don't understand how those two ideas go hand-in-hand. It seems to me if you've enjoyed having cock up your butt, you've certainly been in a situation where having it in your mouth would have been at least as easy.

Tag200

Jul 17, 2020, 10:42 AM

not sure who or what you are responding to here?

I find it interesting you describe finding a nice cock up the butt very pleasurable, as if it has been an ordinary part of life for you, but somehow sucking cock is an "if the opportunity ever arises" sort of thing. I don't understand how those two ideas go hand-in-hand. It seems to me if you've enjoyed having cock up your butt, you've certainly been in a situation where having it in your mouth would have been at least as easy.

MikeW535

Jul 19, 2020, 4:41 PM

I have no romantic interest in men but am very curious to share a guy with my wife. Partly to see her with another man and partly for her to see me with a man. It’s very erotic and a big turn on for me

Tag200

Jul 20, 2020, 11:25 AM

have you and your wife discussed it? Is she interested ?

I have no romantic interest in men but am very curious to share a guy with my wife. Partly to see her with another man and partly for her to see me with a man. It’s very erotic and a big turn on for me

skycladinco

Jul 21, 2020, 5:13 AM

I am the same way although I don't have any real desire to suck cock. I have not had much luck with women and need to be naked with some sort of skin on skin contact. I do watch mostly bi porn and fantasize about mmf threesomes. I'd like to be massaged and sucked by a man and woman together and would like to try giving anal. I must say though that I am attracted to smooth skin with no tatoos or facial hair as in younger twinks. I saw a smooth guy like this at a bathhouse once and was definitely aroused. I would prefer bi to gay though.

twilde1952

Jul 21, 2020, 11:32 AM

Is it lust or love or both? I would think that's its all of the above as in we all want to have sex, because we love it! Nothing beats having someone paying attention to our personal needs and pleasures.

a_bx99

Jul 21, 2020, 1:38 PM

I'm attracted to anyone feminine looking so (most) females or a TS, but do remember the sensation of having something/someone in my anus is amazing however it happens.

RisingBi

Jul 23, 2020, 1:34 AM

I am Not attracted to men, I have no interest in romance with men, If I am at the beach I don’t look at men only women, and I only like cock nothing else on a man.. does anyone else feel this way? I know a few Of you and I have discussed on another thread!

I am interested in sucking cock and benign sucked and nothing more.. am I bi, straight gay or ..? Knowing labels are unimportant but jair a discussion to better understand me and others

hwre is just one article on the subject http://blog.lighthouse.lgbt/can-straight-men-love-gay-sex-joe-kort/
Interesting article that you cite. It's certainly not the case for everyone, but for me I needed to find a label that made sense to me about my sexuality. Because all my fantasies and porn enjoyment involved everything about gay sex, and even romance with another man, but when I was with a real guy I was only interested in his cock, and this lasted for almost 20 years, I was confused, so I labelled myself bi-confused. Then I met a guy in a bathhouse who I had great desires for his ass (for the first time outside of my fantasies and porn watching), and ended up fucking him after rimming his asshole for over an hour. I was so attracted to his entire body, and enjoyed rimming and fucking his ass SO much, and felt so connected to him when I was deep inside him, that I came out to myself as bisexual. I FELT bisexual. I was so overjoyed to finally have that experience and accept that label.

But I still don't know if it's actually true. I haven't been with enough men since then to say that I'd like the entire body and not just the cock and ass. On a regular beach, the street, or anywhere with clothed people, I just look at women (though that's changed a bit since breaking up with my girlfriend of 3 years this past December: I have checked out the ass of the odd guy when I've been out and about, or at the gym before the lockdown). Of course, on a nude beach I AM checking out men, but just their cocks and ass. But I still have fantasies about romance and having a boyfriend. I've just never had those feelings with a real guy--yet. As the article says, I am "erotically moved by the idea, or sometimes the practice of, seeking out other men with whom to have sex." I'm also erotically moved by the idea of having a boyfriend, or being entirely gay. But if I don't have the chemistry or the feelings when I'm with a real guy, then am I still gay or bisexual?

Speaking of the article, I wanted to say two more things. First, before we had sex, I did tell that girlfriend that I was bisexual. I felt that she deserved to know about my sexual history. I was really scared, but fortunately she accepted me, for the most part, and we went on to have that 3-year, on again off again, relationship. But because my same-sex desires and fantasies continued during the relationship, even though I never acted on it, it became a problem. And second, my girlfriend did fuck me multiple times with a strap-on, which she loved to do, immensely. But for me, though I didn't admit this to her, each time she was fucking me I was always thinking how I wanted this to be a real man doing this to me. Will that pan out in real life, will I love a real man fucking my virgin ass? Who knows?

My gay desires have increased greatly since this break up, but I haven't been able to act on it because of the pandemic. I don't know what will happen: perhaps I'll still mostly be just interested in cock, sometimes interested in ass, or perhaps much stronger bisexuality will come out of me and I will be really attracted to the entire guy, with or without romantic feelings. Who knows? But I'm much more at ease about the necessity of labels.

Geoff Gregg

Jul 23, 2020, 12:27 PM

Fred_Brice

Jul 23, 2020, 3:23 PM

I have been a Bisexual/Gay guy for several years and now I am what some people call, a season Cock Sucker! Normally I am not usually attracted to most men, mostly and often I just craved and enjoy their Cock and enjoy mutual oral exchanges. So, usually there is no physical or emotional attraction with the normal male. Now that I am widowed, I do not mind Kissing another man. About Anal, I do not normally “Top” because it just does not appeal to me at this time maybe because, I currently have bad knees. Often, I will not engage in Anal with a woman unless she is prepared to put on a strap-on and she could Top me all she wants, but seldom will I Top her, unless she mount herself on top of me!

With that being said, I can see why, once a male who may be attracted to another male person, I would find kissing to be very erotic and satisfying. For me, I would think that kissing, would greatly enhance our physical act. Normally for me, I really never thought that I would ever genuinely enjoy kissing another guy, as much as a female and Oral with another man was often my limit. That is until, a few years ago, I had met my, Mr. Right who just happen to be labeled as Gay and also a season Drag Queen.

I had never seriously into kissing, another guy, until I had met this guy. It was my first true, Gay experience and when he first kissed me it was with emotion and not just a reaction kiss. Then we started getting closer, because of the fantastic sex he provided me. Then one time, in the heat of things, he kissed me, and I just kiss him back and it began to feel, very normal for me. I usually have to be, really turned on a bit, but then I started kissing him on more than once while, he was doing me. Not sure if I, was becoming Gayer and I would definitely repeat it! It was just so sensual! I do understand, that if you are going to engage in anal sex, that is pretty much "going all the way possible" and as such, if you are doing that, why would you want to hold back on anything else, including kissing, it simply makes no sense to have anal sex and not go ahead and kiss. Kissing often make things so much more personal. Kissing takes mutual sex, to a new emotional level, no matter what you are doing sexually, even if it is nothing at all. Once you do begin kissing sometimes, it does becomes much more personal, so in my opinion, things might change overtime. Although our relationship involved long distance and it did not last but a few months!

My Gay desires, have somewhat increased greatly, since our breakup and I have not been able to continue my quest, due to current Pandemic. I do not know if it will ever happen again. Perhaps I will continue and mostly be, just interested in a man’s cock, sometimes interested in ass, or perhaps much stronger bisexuality will come out of me and I will be really attracted to the entire guy, with or without romantic feelings. I just do not know. I do know that I am much more open to the experiencing those feelings once again. To this day, I still have dreams about meeting another nice sexy Gay guy, and sharing another deep kiss, and it surely will excited me the same way!

Tag200

Jul 24, 2020, 11:26 AM

thanks for your input . Yes breaking off with my X girlfriend And or not having a regular woken playmate often worked my internet’s in cock ...

Interesting article that you cite. It's certainly not the case for everyone, but for me I needed to find a label that made sense to me about my sexuality. Because all my fantasies and porn enjoyment involved everything about gay sex, and even romance with another man, but when I was with a real guy I was only interested in his cock, and this lasted for almost 20 years, I was confused, so I labelled myself bi-confused. Then I met a guy in a bathhouse who I had great desires for his ass (for the first time outside of my fantasies and porn watching), and ended up fucking him after rimming his asshole for over an hour. I was so attracted to his entire body, and enjoyed rimming and fucking his ass SO much, and felt so connected to him when I was deep inside him, that I came out to myself as bisexual. I FELT bisexual. I was so overjoyed to finally have that experience and accept that label.

But I still don't know if it's actually true. I haven't been with enough men since then to say that I'd like the entire body and not just the cock and ass. On a regular beach, the street, or anywhere with clothed people, I just look at women (though that's changed a bit since breaking up with my girlfriend of 3 years this past December: I have checked out the ass of the odd guy when I've been out and about, or at the gym before the lockdown). Of course, on a nude beach I AM checking out men, but just their cocks and ass. But I still have fantasies about romance and having a boyfriend. I've just never had those feelings with a real guy--yet. As the article says, I am "erotically moved by the idea, or sometimes the practice of, seeking out other men with whom to have sex." I'm also erotically moved by the idea of having a boyfriend, or being entirely gay. But if I don't have the chemistry or the feelings when I'm with a real guy, then am I still gay or bisexual?

Speaking of the article, I wanted to say two more things. First, before we had sex, I did tell that girlfriend that I was bisexual. I felt that she deserved to know about my sexual history. I was really scared, but fortunately she accepted me, for the most part, and we went on to have that 3-year, on again off again, relationship. But because my same-sex desires and fantasies continued during the relationship, even though I never acted on it, it became a problem. And second, my girlfriend did fuck me multiple times with a strap-on, which she loved to do, immensely. But for me, though I didn't admit this to her, each time she was fucking me I was always thinking how I wanted this to be a real man doing this to me. Will that pan out in real life, will I love a real man fucking my virgin ass? Who knows?

My gay desires have increased greatly since this break up, but I haven't been able to act on it because of the pandemic. I don't know what will happen: perhaps I'll still mostly be just interested in cock, sometimes interested in ass, or perhaps much stronger bisexuality will come out of me and I will be really attracted to the entire guy, with or without romantic feelings. Who knows? But I'm much more at ease about the necessity of labels.

RisingBi

Jul 29, 2020, 3:03 AM

RisingBi I think the reason you haven't fallen in love with a man is because you just haven't met the right man. It's no different than finding the right woman. We all fall in love for various reasons and since I feel we are all on a sliding scale it is quite possible to fall in love with either gender if the chemistry is right. The biggest thing is to be open to your feelings when they hit.
Thank you for your response, Geoff. I think you're right, certainly in my case. Falling in love with a man (or woman) certainly has to do with chemistry, as well as other factors I'm sure. I am certainly more open to it happening since I finally really connected with another man, with that guy that I was making love with that one and only time so far.

I also connected both sexually, AND emotionally, in a friendship kind of way, with the next guy that I was with: we saw each other multiple times and even went out on dinner dates. I so wished that I had romantic feelings for him, because he was perfect in every other way. But alas, I didn't. In hindsight, years later, I kind of regret not giving that relationship a longer chance. He was recently divorced from a woman after coming out as gay, and was looking for a boyfriend, and because I didn't have those feelings we parted. But I've been thinking about him a lot lately, and missing the sex and friendship that we had. That experience definitely let me know that if love ever comes with a guy, I'll be open to it.

Meanwhile, I'll just enjoy sex with whomever I have chemistry with for sex.

RisingBi

Jul 29, 2020, 3:19 AM

borntosuckcock

Jul 30, 2020, 12:18 AM

I feel the same way, only interested in sucking cocks, nothing else. Only attracted to their cocks and their cum. Not in to kissing, being a top or a bottom, just like to suck. Not even in to being sucked by anyone other than a woman.

Bluehill

Jul 30, 2020, 6:27 AM

I've had sex with males and females since puberty. I only fell in love with women though. With men it was just the sex! i love mutual cock sucking and the feel of a cock sliding over my ass and then entering me is thrilling beyond words.

One night cruising a park I met a guy and went back to his place for some amazing sex. He was an amazing lover and we both came multiple times. I met up with him once more for some more great sex. I felt really confused because I realized that I was falling in love with him. I was scared because I didn't want to live the full gay life. I broke up with the guy, and have often regretted it.

CockHummer

Jul 30, 2020, 7:18 AM

This whole question drives me nuts, because it fits me, but I must take it further. I actually find men unattractive. As much as there is some corner of my brain that is really turned on by the idea of feeling a cock in my mouth, it remains a fantasy, because when I get on the verge of thinking "I've got to act on this," I get out in public and I look at guys and it just turns me off. I am not homophobic. I even wish it were otherwise and that I could get turned on by a guy, but the thought repulses me. I certainly can recognize a man as being good looking or well built, but it does not stimulate me erotically to do so. I look at gay porn and it turns me off. I look at straight porn, and aside from the cock, I wish the rest of the guy was not in the image. I am turned on by porn involving female transsexuals, but they have to be really feminine in their appearance, with big boobs, a nice feminine butt, and a face that looks very convincingly female after whatever hormonal and surgical treatments they have gone through. Watching men embrace or kiss, at least in an erotic context, or fondle each other's little flat breasts looks just silly to me. I really enjoy rimming a woman that I feel close to if she likes it, but the idea of sticking my tongue in another guy's butt hole flatly turns me off. I can really enjoy lesbian porn and porn of a beautiful naked woman just enjoying herself sexually. I can enjoy porn where a woman has a big cock in her mouth and is going to town on it, but bringing more of the guy into the image just turns me right off. For the longest time, I was really turned on by the images called futanari, and I was emotionally devastated to know I was never going to find a real woman with a cock, as stupid as that is.

I have considered it an odd sort of bisexuality, which is the primary reason I am even really on this site. I have seen discussion, though, where it was instead considered a fetish for cock, like some guys are straight but get off on some oddball toy or part of female anatomy during sex, and I just happen to have a fetish for cock instead, but the idea of a woman using a strap-on doesn't turn me on at all, either, so I just go with the flow and enjoy straight sex but look at cocks online when I'm by myself at times. A{s much as it might be nice to have a name for this attitude regarding male-male sex, it is far from life changing for me.

Intouch

Jul 30, 2020, 7:52 AM

Thought my profile was posted when I read your first 2 sentences, I too am only curious about the Penis. Touching, rubbing, possible sucking, riding. Want to try it all but he male body turns me off.
I don't drink or do drugs, so no help there. I'll hopefully get the courage one day since I'll never meet a Shemale or a Sissy that's passable.

SilkyHoseLover

Jul 30, 2020, 1:21 PM

This whole question drives me nuts, because it fits me, but I must take it further. I actually find men unattractive. <snip> I get out in public and I look at guys and it just turns me off. I am not homophobic. I even wish it were otherwise and that I could get turned on by a guy, but the thought repulses me. I certainly can recognize a man as being good looking or well built, but it does not stimulate me erotically to do so.

Actually, I feel much the same way, and I'll bet that there are a lot of others who share this opinion. But I have taken 'the step' and have enjoyed a number of sexual activities with men, up to and including kissing. What works for me is developing a rapport via exchanging messages or emails prior to a first face-to-face meeting. It's here that the interest begins to build, when there's a realization that we're both decent, likable people and that we share an interest in erotic play that falls outside of the mainstream. We then have a common goal that overcomes the raw reaction of being disinterested or repulsed by the typical male/masculine appearance of a stranger walking down the street.

If we have a cordial, animated and pleasant conversation, and it's obvious that we're interested in a similar range of sexual experimentation, we agree to meet for exploration. I'm not hung-up on 'looks', but I do have certain standards of appearance and physical presentation. If someone turns out to be substantially different than he has portrayed himself in his profile or private messages/emails, I may decline to follow up.

I would suggest that you give up on the idea of 'being attracted to' another man as you see him on the street, and use different criteria in deciding if you're finally ready to enjoy the pleasure of feeling that cock in your mouth for the first time. I haven't regretted it for a second, despite the fact that I'm still not attracted to men. I eager look forward to my next erotic adventure with a man or another gurl.

KDaddy23

Jul 30, 2020, 4:47 PM

We work within the premise that in order to have sex with someone, we must be attracted to them... and it's not the whole truth of things and as many of us have discovered. We also tend to not really understand what "being attracted" can mean; it could be looks but it could be other things, too, that have nothing to do with how someone looks. I've told folks that even though I've had a lot of sex with men, when I see a guy, all I see is another guy. I can note his looks, the way he's dressed, even his mannerisms; I can, if I know or get to know him, find out what I like about him and what I don't; I've explained this and have had people tell me that there's no way I can be bisexual if I'm not attracted to men.

But what I am attracted to is sex and, really, most guys just do not get my attention unless they wanna pull their dick out and what they look like doesn't mean anything to me - now it's just a matter of whether or not I like them enough to go there with them... and sometimes, I don't like them enough. Still, a lot of guys get so... hung up over the need to be attracted to a guy that it either fucks with their head when they aren't - because they believe they're supposed to be - or it keeps them sitting on the bench and waiting for a guy they are genuinely attracted to... other than wanting to get him naked and play with his dick. No one is supposed to have sex with anyone they're not attracted to... and it's bullshit. The "right" way to go about it? Sure... just not as mandatory as we've been led to believe.

I blew my neighbor last week... zero attraction to him but he's a nice and decent kind of guy and not even what I'd call a handsome guy or a fit and trim kind of guy. But when he asked me to help him out - think bro-job - and he got his dick out, that's when he really got my attention and made the decision to help him out an easy one. Neighbor, not truly a friend but a fellow vet who needed my, um, help with something... and he had a really nice dick. I learned, even if few ever do, that attraction has different meanings and comes in different ways and, yeah, it doesn't have to be there in the conventional sense if the vibe between you and him is strongly suggesting that you both get your dicks out, get them hard, and make them soft again.

You may agree or not and that's fine with me. I know the way things are supposed to be... and I also know that it's not the whole truth of things.

Long Duck Dong

Jul 30, 2020, 10:55 PM

lol my partner is a intersex female, born with both genitalia, shes openly admitted that a lot of guys would prefer sex with her over a male, as they prefer the cock attached to a male and nothing else and with her, there is a lot more that they find enjoyable....... trouble for all those guys, is she is going to remain on their bucket list.... and thats her decision and choice, nothing to do with me.....

shes also said that sex with a male is different to sex with a female, because it feels like sex is limited with males as opposed to sex with a female.... guys have a penis, mouth, hands and an ass, females have a pussy, mouth, hands and an ass but can also use a strapon, they have breasts, they can enjoy things like their hair being pulled etc.... but the thing that my partner says, stands out the most, is that females can be more passionate and emotional during sex.... males can too but its not the same

the idea that its easier to have an emotional connection to a sissyboy, a trans person, a shemale rather than a male, does make a lot of sense to me......its just hard to put into words but it has less to do with the body and more to do with the person themselves, people with a strong personality and energy tend not to interest me but people that are more subtle or shifting between a feminine and masculine energy do... because I can have the dominant person in the bedroom become a person that wants to cuddle, kiss, hold and be affectionate after sex, where as a lot of males do not, and it does create a type of barrier between people.......

I have always questioned if the ratio of females with cocks was higher, would we see as many people say they are bisexual because of the number of guys that would love a female with a cock or a intersex female, either as a friend with benefits, a long term lover or a partner...... and if they had that person in their lives, would they still have the attraction to males cocks or not........ and before anybody rushes in to say its bi erasure or trying to push bi invisibility, its simply a question based around what other people have said about how they love cock but a shemale etc, would be a dream partner

NJwood

Jul 31, 2020, 12:40 AM

I’m also in the cock hungry crowd. Men don’t turn me on while women do. Sucking cock gets me hot.

fredward

Jul 31, 2020, 11:48 AM

I blew my neighbor last week... zero attraction to him but he's a nice and decent kind of guy and not even what I'd call a handsome guy or a fit and trim kind of guy. But when he asked me to help him out - think bro-job - and he got his dick out, that's when he really got my attention and made the decision to help him out an easy one. Neighbor, not truly a friend but a fellow vet who needed my, um, help with something... and he had a really nice dick. I learned, even if few ever do, that attraction has different meanings and comes in different ways and, yeah, it doesn't have to be there in the conventional sense if the vibe between you and him is strongly suggesting that you both get your dicks out, get them hard, and make them soft again.

How does "blowing a neighbour" happen in real life? Super curious how this happens. I've almost never had a sexual encounter that didn't involve online CL-like list, or going to a sauna.

I have to admit, I'm not really attracted to guys much outside of sex, but I am super turned on by sex with guys. This is why I'm basically only into hookups and saunas. Love the naked bodies, cocks, etc, love kissing and stroking. I'm good with chatting after with a fellow traveller. Zero chance I'll ever develop a stronger emotional attachment than FWB.

KDaddy23

Jul 31, 2020, 5:41 PM

@Fredward, it happened like this. To kinda set the stage, I'd been helping him with some stuff he's dealing with at the VA re his retirement benefits and we'd get to talking about being in the service, stuff like that. One day, he just started telling me about his wife and step-daughter and how much drama there was that, as a long-haul trucker, there were times when he didn't want to come back home. Tough situation. Time is marching on but now I could more easily see what he was talking about and I felt bad for him and more so when he just came out and admitted that she - his wife - had cut him off for sex - even tougher. A couple of days before the "big event," we were talking about being in the shit - bullets flying, people getting wounded and killed, and how that changes a person and how it can sometimes make brothers in arms close... really close. I had wondered where he was going with this even though I knew exactly what he was talking about and especially the stress of such a life and death situation. He'd just said, "I know you know what I'm talking about..." and I said I did, having spent a short period of time in Vietnam and being exposed to what it's like to be in the shit.

Two days later, he's knocking on my door and telling me he needs my help with something but he has to show me what he needs help with; could I come up to his place so he can show me what he needs help with? I get to his place and wait for him to show me what he needs help with... and he just kinda breaks down and starts talking about how he's having such a hard time with things and he feels like he's back in the shit of Operation Iraqi Freedom and could I help him - and I knew exactly what help he needed... but I asked him, "How do you know I can provide this kind of... help?"

He said, "Because you've been there and I know you ain't gonna tell me you didn't help your brothers deal with the stress like that." And he was right, of course, so all I said was, "Come here..." pulled his dick out and went to work on him until he cut loose what I'd call a seriously huge load. The man cried, either out of happiness or relief and said, "I knew that you'd know what to do!" before he returned the favor. Was there any attraction to him? None whatsoever but that's never mattered all that much to me; it was one vet helping a fellow vet in a time of great need and, you know, being a very avid cocksucker, I was more than happy to help him out. Also, my life - and sex with men - has always been one of those things that if I go looking for dick to suck, I can't seem to find it... but when I'm not looking for it, it finds me. Maybe this will turn out to be a regular thing, maybe it won't... doesn't change the fact that I'm still not attracted to him.

Bi-Rõnin

Jul 31, 2020, 11:26 PM

I'm also not really attracted to men in general. I have and do enjoy recieving a pounding. Oddly enough, its always anal, never done oral. Most of my fantasies involve the thought of the man being taller and heavier than me and heavily tattoed. But I've never seen a man and got horny. Usually I'm horny and then start looking for a top. Fluid. I like that.

paarmyguy12

Aug 1, 2020, 11:24 AM

I have the same interest as you, I like to suck and be sucked, like rubbing my cock against another as well. But I don't have any romantic thoughts of men either...

fredward

Aug 2, 2020, 12:31 PM

KDaddy, that's an amazing story. Wow.

You are one awesome dude, my friend.

fredward

Aug 2, 2020, 7:01 PM

KDaddy, that's an amazing story. Wow.

You are one awesome dude, my friend.

Here I was, hoping to get a lump in my pants. Instead I got a lump in my throat. You're a good man, Kdaddy.

NjbiGuy01

Aug 10, 2020, 12:06 PM

Perhaps that could be true, thanks .. but what about all the theories that it is not bisexual feeling of there is ki emotions or interest in men beyond cock?

Why label it ? I was "straight" for years. Until someone suggested I let them suck my cock and asked if I wanted to try, no judgement, in private....and I embraced being bi, before I even know what the word was or meant. Today, the world is a bit more different, and sexuality is more fluid and at 62. When my GF comments on a guy's ass at a pool party and I chime in "I'll say" it's a casual joke and most people chuckle about it. I'm starting to not give a f*ck the older I get.... I told my kids "whatever you do in your bedroom is your business"...period. NO labels, NO judgement, safe, loving, pleasurable fun.

Layne

Aug 20, 2020, 3:08 PM

I'm the same way. Love women but want cock

KDaddy23

Aug 20, 2020, 6:16 PM

Here I was, hoping to get a lump in my pants. Instead I got a lump in my throat. You're a good man, Kdaddy.

I try to be, Fredward. There are some things that goes beyond attraction and preferences and I wouldn't feel right to let someone suffer when I know there's something i could do... like give a blow job to someone I'm not even really a friend to or with. Sometimes, a bro-job just works for what ails a guy and attraction and all that other shit doesn't mean a damned things - but making him feel better means everything.

bi_data_nerd

Aug 21, 2020, 8:02 PM

Interesting thread. I have emotional and romantic feelings for women, typically more mature and slightly older, but no interest to date or have a romantic relationship with a man. However, the sexual fantasies and desires around certain activities with a man turn me on more some days. I'm in my mid-thirties and I don't call it anything other than awesome - being attracted to more than one sex opens the door to a lot. And even penis owners with boobs are hot if they are attractive. I'm sure there area lot of people out there like me. It's been my mindset since I was much younger too.

Bi_Dave

Aug 22, 2020, 12:57 PM

On the money! To me, it's all about the cock. And I'm fussy too. Gotta be cut. Just my preference, but that IS MY preference. Men's faces, asses, even big ol' hairy balls do NOT turn me on. Pussies with flappy inner lips turn me on. I like prominent clitorises. Hairless pussies are a big turn on. Women's nipples and aureoles turn me on. Women's or men's puckered assholes are a turn off! A big mushroom headed cock is one I want to suck. I'd rather you CIMM. The skin behind a woman's knees feels wonderful on my lips. An uncut cock without the skin pushed back turns me off. I am bi sexual organed. Give me a cock and a pussy and I am in ecstasy! Give me a cock fucking a pussy and I am over the moon! I don't care if a person is ugly as long as their cock or pussy is healthy, hygienic, clean, and they smell good. I'm not going to be looking them in the eye. I do like kissing a woman more than a man. I did try a man once...didn't care for the stubble or the big tongue. I guess I am as biSEXual as one could be!

Oh, I wear dentures and BOTH sexes LOVE THAT!!! Women say it's like being suckled by a baby. They can relax more not having to worry about getting snagged by a sharp tooth! I have made out with a woman who had no teeth....THAT was actually pretty hot!

LVTOGP

Aug 22, 2020, 6:18 PM

If the issue is saying you’re bisexual, just go with what you like, don’t worry about the label

Bi_Dave

Aug 23, 2020, 11:38 AM

When I cum, I lose the mood. I derive pleasure from my sucking. I can beat off when I get home. I let them suck mine, but I don't want to cum. I guess I am a heterosexual that sucks cock.

SuckerMC

Aug 23, 2020, 6:46 PM

I find the cock to be very beautiful with it's shape and lines. I have been a member of this forum since 2013 and before here I was a member on a shemale forum since 2008. I am attracted to women and the womanly figure. And like my attraction to women with their shapely lines and feminine figure that is how I look at a cock but in an entirely different way. A cock is a cock and woman's body is a woman's body.

I don't know if I will always simply just admire cock from afar online or if I truly want and will get a cock in my mouth. A man can be handsome, well groomed with a fit body and that is not my main focus. When looking at pictures of cock it is difficult to not notice the man's body unless the picture is strictly focused on the cock alone. But that is not my focus. My main focus is on the cock. I may not be attracted to the man or the manly body but I know if I suck cock my hands will be moving around. I don't doubt I will have 2 hands full of man ass and legs during that time of sucking cock. If he wanted a finger on or his hole that is where I will say no. And although they are not the cock I am sure I will be sucking on balls as well.

On the shemale forum there is a thread where guys talk they would fuck a shemale but not touch their cock. I find that odd but not out of ordinary. To them that is "gay". But in the same there are also Trans-Girls who don't like or want their cock touched. To them it is too close to who they born as and not who they are. If I were lucky to have sex with a Trans-Girl I of course would touch her cock. Suck on her cock. It would be the same as having sex with a woman. Or as they say on that forum.... Girl/Girl. If I eat pussy when having sex with a woman than yeah I would suck a cock if I were having sex with a T-Girl. Unless she was a T-Girl who does not like that for her reasons. There is also a thread asking "If you could suck shemale cock, could you suck man cock?". I don't remember my answer but I am sure it was "NO" and 5 years later I am on here.

In the past few years there has not been no other forum I frequent more than this forum. It is safe to say that my interest has been focused on cock. Where all this puts me as for labeling I wouldn't know. Maybe a Cock Admirer or a Future Cock Sucker or a Cock Worshiper. Or maybe as the name of this forum titled a Bisexual. The labeling is just that a label. It's what you feel and believe what you are.

Wcbranson

Aug 24, 2020, 4:53 PM

I have no romantic desires where men are concerned. I don’t enjoy kissing or cuddling but sucking a cock, having my cock sucked, giving and receiving anal and depending on the person swallowing a load is as exciting and pleasurable to me As eating out and fucking a woman. I find them both incredible but I can only get romantic with a sexy woman.
I think it’s the animalistic energy that turns me on. I’d like to try two or more men and have them dominate me while I struggle to overtake them and force my will on them. I’ll be ok if I never succeed in taking control. It would just be hot and exciting.

Coastocoast

Aug 24, 2020, 7:22 PM

Straight men who have sex with men; Cut to the chase they Don't. Even if you are not romantically interested in the same sex, if you voluntarily seek out and have sex with people of the same sex this is more than a subtle indication you are not straight. Who knows where you fall on any scale or chart but the word straight does not describe you given the situation. Given that, accept it, screw labels and don't drive yourself nuts trying to put a name on it, just be yourself and be happy.

jem_is_bi

Aug 25, 2020, 11:36 PM

Adam64

Aug 30, 2020, 1:11 PM

I too don't find men attractive in any way. Men don't turn my head at all. I do however love feminine and passable shemales and crossdressers. I am currently seeing the sexiest and most passable crossdresser imaginable. Having a fabulous time......french kissing, sucking, being sucked and fucked...still to swallow her load. A few weeks before I was having some fun with a very passable shemale with gorgeous boobs.

rukiddingme

Sep 1, 2020, 12:01 PM

I initially listed as bi curious. Yet recently have increasing become attracted to both sexes. Especially in these last 6+ mos of covid. Been working virtually from home most of the time and have spent more time reading of others with like minded attitudes. So now I simply put bisexual. Certainly my attraction is different for a guy and girl. I had some experiences very early on, messing around with a friend, but I would not consider that experience. Heck, what 40 yrs

KDaddy23

Sep 2, 2020, 3:26 PM

I know my thoughts on this topic are not mainstream.
But, If a guy has sex with men because a woman is not available and only wants to top or gets his dick sucked, I consider him straight.
I look at that as only a slightly different, but much a much better alternative to masturbation.
After all, masturbation is guy on guy sex.
However, if a guy seeks sex with men because he like it as a primary sexual activity independent of the availability of a woman, then I consider him bisexual or possibly gay.

Well, that's the real question, ain't it? No matter the reason why, if a straight guy has sex with another guy, is he really and truly straight? For me, this is one of those things that defies that crap we talk about regarding actions speaking louder than words. I know way too many guys who, if they can't get any pussy, they wanna play with a dick - including sucking dick and being fucked. Some of them insist that they're straight; some of them say - and classically - that it's better than jerking themselves off. Or they say it's not something they do all of the time.

Many agree that if you do it once and never do it again, okay, you're still straight... for the most part. But if it's something you do, let's say, occasionally, well, ya might not be as straight as you say you are. I understand that a person is, sexually, what they think they are and what they say they are and despite what they might do - so which thing is right? If you're a straight guy who doesn't mind having another guy sucking your dick, it doesn't make you gay... but you very well could be bisexual and more so if you're still having sex with women and whenever you can. I know for a fact that you don't have to be attracted to a guy - you just gotta want to do something with him if he's down for it. The labels we use - straight, bi, gay - are what they are and they're not going anywhere any time soon but the reality says, at least to me, that when you wanna have sex and the only person available is another guy, all of those labels get thrown out and in favor of one important thing: You're having sex. Guys get... funny about this. They figure - and, I think, incorrectly so - that if they only fuck a guy and don't get fucked, well, they're not gay; likewise for when a guy is blowing them but they're not gonna return the favor. The acts themselves are gay - and it's not like no one knows this. Still doesn't mean this guy is gay... but he very well may be bi... but even that depends on what he thinks he is. That's a hard position to argue and makes this topic very messy.

A straight guy tells me he wants to suck my dick but tells me not to cum in his mouth... because that's really gay and he's not gay. Or, as I've heard, a straight guy wants to fuck another guy in the ass but when he's about to cum, he pulls out and shoots all over the place because, to him, shooting it in the other guy's ass is also too gay. This, my friends - and whether you agree or not - is all about protecting his sensibilities more than anything else. His actions are the reality of things but, as it seems to always happen, what one thinks tends to trump reality. There is no way that I could have sex with both men and women and keep insisting that I'm straight and even if I only throw it down it a guy "once in a blue moon" or when I get really horny and I need sex right this minute.

In this, frequency - or, when you do it - doesn't mean anything because whenever you do it, you're still doing it. The same for whatever reason you have for doing it; doesn't matter why you've got your dick down some guy's throat or buried in his ass - you're still doing it even if there's no reciprocation forthcoming. So saying that you're still straight, well, not a lot of people are gonna believe you. Even if you say that you don't find the guy attractive - but you're still having sex with him - well, what does that really say? Hmm?