Valued Opinions Needed!!!!!!

[ready4change0307]

As I mentioned in my profile I ONLY think about women during any kind of sex play...When I look up porn, or check out people it's women I look to! I have previously had people mention to me that this doesn't mean I am bi....What do you think??

The actual label isn't really importnat to me..I guess I just wonder your opinion...and what it was that made you all think that you may be bi???

I'm so excited to be a part of this site!! (Although I think it may be making my sexual mind over-work!! lol)

Thanks again! Audi

[shameless agitator]

With nothing more to go on than this post it's difficult to say any thing with certainty, but it sounds to me like you're gay.

[Lorcan]

The actual label isn't really importnat to me..I guess I just wonder your opinion...and what it was that made you all think that you may be bi???



Because i fantasized and dreamed about both being with men and women. I did this long before i even had sex.

[ready4change0307]

Well...I have never actually dated a woman...I have had threesomes, but I was younger and always drinking....I dated and was engaged to one man for 3 and a half years and now am dating another man I have been with another 3 years.....I have never had an orgasm during sex, and dont enjoy sex very much at all...if the guy lasts more than about 8 mins I'll kick him off of me!!! BUT....I cant see myself living with or having a commited relationship with a woman!!!.......................I'm also just sooooooo turned on by pussy......when I think about it I make that noise in my mind that Homer Simpson makes when he talks about beer...something like arrrgghhjhhhcc...(drool..drool!) lol!!!

[wildangel]

Honestly, I don't think labels matter anyway. It's how you feel on the inside. I'm not really aroused my men. Did I mention I'm married to a man and we have an awesome sex life? I'm not really straight, lesbian, or bi. None of those labels fit me. Stick with what you feel like. Good luck!

[wildangel]

l...if the guy lasts more than about 8 mins I'll kick him off of me!!!

Wow, I thought it was just me...Nice to know it isn't!

[ready4change0307]

Oh yeah.....I loathe long sex!!....The guy I'm with right now really tries to please me in that department..We have it down to a science now..and it's really comfortable and conveinant (note..NOT exciting!)......He bangs me for about 2 minutes..gets off, and then fingers me while I play with my clit until I get off...It's all very predictable and quick..we are both "done" before Will and Grace comes back from commercial!!! lol.....

[Sapphocomplex]

hey ready4change, why cant you picture yourself with a woman in a relationship? Just curious:).

[ready4change0307]

ummm...I dont know...When I imagine it, it just doesnt seem right for me..Kinda hard to explain.

I really wish I knew though!

[gentlepen9]

...and what it was that made you all think that you may be bi???

The defining moment for me was realizing that there are some women who create in me the same romantic and intimate feelings that only some men have made me feel. I say "some" because I'm aware that I don't generally prefer men over women or women over men. But rather there are some unique women who have the physical appeal as well as the personality that I can fall inlove with just as there are some unique men who have the physical appeal as well as the personality that I can fall inlove with. That awareness has made me realize that I'm bi.

[DiamondDog]

The actual label isn't really importnat to me..I guess I just wonder your opinion...and what it was that made you all think that you may be bi???

I'd get sexual with guys and have fantasies/dreams about having sex with women, men, and both at the same time.

Or even as a kid I'd get really infatuated with certain guy friends and girls too.

I got sexual with guys as a kid/teenager and while they may have had those desires then they don't have them now as adults.

Or like the last person wrote, I'd fall in love and sexual attraction with the opposite gender and I wound up doing that with the same gender (while being sexually attracted) for things that had nothing to do with him being a man, and were based on the person that he is.

[warm heart]

The defining moment for me was realizing that there are some women who create in me the same romantic and intimate feelings that only some men have made me feel. I say "some" because I'm aware that I don't generally prefer men over women or women over men. But rather there are some unique women who have the physical appeal as well as the personality that I can fall inlove with just as there are some unique men who have the physical appeal as well as the personality that I can fall inlove with. That awareness has made me realize that I'm bi.

Wow gentle pen......i was going to reply to the thread and then i read the above quote and thought i cant put it any better myself.........so ditto.......very well put

Love warm :flag4:

[ready4change0307]

Yes...I do remember having those first sexual experiences with a woman..even as young as 8 or 9..I first played doctor with a girl....It's strange though...I dont think I would have ever initiated it myself......I can think of 6 different occasions from age 14-21 where another woman made a move on me and I went along with it and liked it!!! My first "real" time with a woman I was so scared and she even took a shower with me and shaved me!!! I was 17 and she was like 24.....still the sexiest woman ever!!!


I wonder what it is about me that makes women think they can make a move on me though??!! I never really thought about that until now!!!

[steve10557]

I think we're all people first and bisexual second, we have all the hopes and fears of everyone else, so what makes us different? Is it that if we were in a pile of bodies we would accept whatever came within our reach, or are we all just more desperate to be loved? I have had sexual thoughts about both sexes, but only felt love for women, maybe I just havent met a 'right man', I would say I am bisexual, but maybe I've just been randy sometimes.

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You grab 'im, and I'll sit on his head! (Mrs Duckforth, from next door, controlling her large wayward dog)

[justthesamea]

The defining moment for me was realizing that there are some women who create in me the same romantic and intimate feelings that only some men have made me feel. I say "some" because I'm aware that I don't generally prefer men over women or women over men. But rather there are some unique women who have the physical appeal as well as the personality that I can fall inlove with just as there are some unique men who have the physical appeal as well as the personality that I can fall inlove with. That awareness has made me realize that I'm bi.

I agree with this... so neat that people think the same way sometimes.. I find that about women and men.. there are connections.. like this .. However, I have only felt this way about one girl... and actually have just figured this out this last couple of days.. and when she addmitted she was bi.. or interested in both sexes... It really made me think.. that there is nothing wrong with me..
I also agree that it is the labels that i think confuse people.. especially when you are attracted to the same sex.. and for years it wasn't an okay thing..

Anyway, I know how you feel... I am in long term relationship for 6 + years with another man.. and have met a women I feel the same attraction to.. and almost I think I am more attracted to the woman right now.. (she is not aware of this attraction) hehehe.... but... I will tell soon..

this sight is great for figureing things out.. the people are great on here and I wished everyone I met were as open minded as the people on here... :)
Peace..
hope things work out
:)

[element_of_wind]

As I mentioned in my profile I ONLY think about women during any kind of sex play...When I look up porn, or check out people it's women I look to! I have previously had people mention to me that this doesn't mean I am bi....What do you think??

The actual label isn't really importnat to me..I guess I just wonder your opinion...and what it was that made you all think that you may be bi???

I'm so excited to be a part of this site!! (Although I think it may be making my sexual mind over-work!! lol)

Thanks again! Audi

Welcome to this site, ready4change0307.

I know I'm bi because both guys and chicks can turn me on, and I realized that if I told myself I was anything other than bi, then I'd be lying to myself.

If you're aroused by pussy to the point of making Homer Simpson noises and drooling, it doesn't mean you're bisexual, but it does mean you ain't straight. I'd guess that you're a lesbian who's partly bisexual (or a bisexual who's mostly lesbian).

As for the 'unable to see myself in a relationship with a woman', I felt the same way about other guys before I admitted to myself that I was bi. Now, I can see myself in a relationship with another guy, the idea just took some getting used to. Maybe you're different though.

You're right that labels don't matter too much - and don't get too caught up in them, and don't do anything you might regret because of one. Act naturally.

[ready4change0307]

Wow everybody!! Thanks for all the great insight!! I still can't imagine myself in a realtionship with a woman, but then again, I dont even do so well in a relationship with a man!! So maybe the gender isnt the issue...Maybe it's the intimacy issues!!! Hmmmmm....

Well Thanks again!!! Hope to talk to all of you soon! Until then.... :tong:

[ready4change0307]

Thanks again for all of these reply's!

It's been a while since I read them, and I still feel the same way....I have wanted a woman even more lately....I just moved to a new state and I don't know anybody! This is going to be much harder now!!!

I wish somebody would just approach me!! Doubtful though....

Oh well...anyway...Hope everybody is having a great holiday season! I LOVE Christmas!!

[codybear3]

Because i fantasized and dreamed about both being with men and women. I did this long before i even had sex.


Ditto to what Lorcan said...Shoot, I was Bi-sexual way before I even knew a word existed for it... :paw: :paw:

[twocan]

If you find women attractive and love men you are bi. End of story

[bigirl_inwv]

I don't know. You sound alot like me. I could not see myself in a relationship with a woman, but they sure do turn me on!! I love the way a woman looks, feels, smells, the way she touches me, I just LOVE having sex with women. For the sake of labels, I suppose I am bisexual. But I just say that I'm a girl who likes guys but likes having sex with girls. :tong:

[Mrs. Taz]

well, i first started noticing a female co worker of mine in a diffrent way than normal about 4 yrs back or so, then i started thinkin how wonderful she is and how wonderful she looked and started wondering and day dreaming about what it would be like to be with her. and now i also know i love the feel of a womans skin, her soft lips on mine, her soft touches.....man theres just a lot to notice when your interested in someone and to this day I still have a thing for her, and unfortunatly she is str8.