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glantern954
Sep 20, 2006, 6:47 PM
Source: The Philedelphia Inquirer - Ask Amy Column
Title: Scratching bisexual 'itch,' he still cheats
Author: Amy Dickinson
Published: Friday, Sept. 15th 2006


Dear Amy: I was interested in the letter from "Fearful," who
discovered her fiance might be bisexual. Observing the Internet, I
conclude many straight men indulge in homosexual sex on an
occasional, "recreational" basis.

I have a satisfying marriage and am in love only with my wife, but I
have a sexual itch for sex with a man. Our society doesn't really
know how to deal with this situation, so men like me scratch the
itch in secrecy. I get together with other bisexual married men a
few times a year, and I always "play safe." Ideally, men like me
would be open with their wives, but a revelation would doom the
marriages.

Except for rare open marriages, cheating is the only way men can
address the biological drive for sexual diversity and the
conflicting drive for maintaining a stable environment for
procreation.

Taboos require our sexual needs to be kept secret. If "Fearful"
decides the good aspects of the relationship outweigh knowing her
man's bisexual nature, she should stick with him.

- Secret Bisexual

To read her response visit:

http://www.philly.com/mld/inquirer/news/magazine/daily/15522109.htm

DiamondDog
Sep 20, 2006, 7:26 PM
I agree.

Which is one of the reasons why I don't like furtive men that cheat on their wife/girlfriend secretly, and why I don't do anything with men that are married/cheating in secret.

I'm OK with open relationships/marriages and I wish that more people had them, or were honest so stuff like this didn't happen.

Maybe it's my age, upbringing, or my extreme honesty showing here; but why wouldn't you tell someone before you got involved?

Whoever I end up ultimately involved with I'll tell him, her, or them long before it gets to that point.

Lorcan
Sep 21, 2006, 1:07 AM
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I love it!