Long Duck Dong
Jan 22, 2020, 8:01 AM
The other night, my partner ( female ) was laying in the bed when I came in from a shower and sat on the bed... and lets be honest, my body is not some flawless adonis body, its worn, battered and scarred from surgeries from a car accident when I was 16 and a few scars from a less than peaceful life......
My partner did not say a word, she just moved over in the bed, slipped her arm around me, gave me a kiss on my back and said " you know, frankenstein, when they sewed your cock on, did they steal it from a horse?".... I burst out laughing and said " yeah but the only horse they would find was a rocking horse "....
Frankenstein is a nickname she has had for me for years, she never called me it to be offensive or to upset me but as her way of acknowledging what I had been through, survived and was learning to deal with the differences between me and society....and because she knew that I had dealt with some pretty nasty remarks and also pressure to to " show off " my scars as proof of being a survivor and other experiences......
I have had partners with scars, some scars are not pretty but they are on the body of a person with feelings and not all scars can be covered up or hidden.. and while some scar tissue can limit movement or cause pain... sometimes they are just physical aspects and the real scars are emotional and mental, and limit more than just movement...... its something I have bore in mind with partners and sex partners.....
Having sex with the light out / in the dark, covering up, not going swimming, being careful that others did not see my scars, was hard, not because I was ashamed but because I could not stand the looks on some peoples faces and I sure as hell did not like being told that I should not hide my self harm scars as they were a sign of what I had survived......lets be honest here, some of them are scars from self harming and I did try to cover them by creating other scarring from my knuckles to my elbows, so they are not as visible as a result.....so my body is a mess of burn scars, knife wounds, bullet scars, shrapnel wounds and surgeries, so for many years sex in the dark was the norm for me..... not because I was self conscious or ashamed of me but I preferred not to have to talk about them.
My partner calls me frankenstein but in her eyes, I am not a monster, I am a person that was brought back from the dead, on more than one occasion ( literally ) and to her, the scars are just an aspect of that, and for that, I love her so much with my scarred heart, hold her close with my scarred arms and together we hug the other two ladies and the male in our closed poly group, with their own scars........
now I know of some few friends that have worse scarring including facial burns and they too have said that they have had people interested in hooking up for sex, until they see the scars then its like hell no.... and there are the people that see beyond the scars, to the person underneath...... I know one friend that has had breast enhancement that has been rejected by guys for not being a natural female and having scars, even tho the scars are barely visible.....
so yeah, how would you feel about having sex with people with scars ? can you see beyond the scars or are they just a turn off ?
My partner did not say a word, she just moved over in the bed, slipped her arm around me, gave me a kiss on my back and said " you know, frankenstein, when they sewed your cock on, did they steal it from a horse?".... I burst out laughing and said " yeah but the only horse they would find was a rocking horse "....
Frankenstein is a nickname she has had for me for years, she never called me it to be offensive or to upset me but as her way of acknowledging what I had been through, survived and was learning to deal with the differences between me and society....and because she knew that I had dealt with some pretty nasty remarks and also pressure to to " show off " my scars as proof of being a survivor and other experiences......
I have had partners with scars, some scars are not pretty but they are on the body of a person with feelings and not all scars can be covered up or hidden.. and while some scar tissue can limit movement or cause pain... sometimes they are just physical aspects and the real scars are emotional and mental, and limit more than just movement...... its something I have bore in mind with partners and sex partners.....
Having sex with the light out / in the dark, covering up, not going swimming, being careful that others did not see my scars, was hard, not because I was ashamed but because I could not stand the looks on some peoples faces and I sure as hell did not like being told that I should not hide my self harm scars as they were a sign of what I had survived......lets be honest here, some of them are scars from self harming and I did try to cover them by creating other scarring from my knuckles to my elbows, so they are not as visible as a result.....so my body is a mess of burn scars, knife wounds, bullet scars, shrapnel wounds and surgeries, so for many years sex in the dark was the norm for me..... not because I was self conscious or ashamed of me but I preferred not to have to talk about them.
My partner calls me frankenstein but in her eyes, I am not a monster, I am a person that was brought back from the dead, on more than one occasion ( literally ) and to her, the scars are just an aspect of that, and for that, I love her so much with my scarred heart, hold her close with my scarred arms and together we hug the other two ladies and the male in our closed poly group, with their own scars........
now I know of some few friends that have worse scarring including facial burns and they too have said that they have had people interested in hooking up for sex, until they see the scars then its like hell no.... and there are the people that see beyond the scars, to the person underneath...... I know one friend that has had breast enhancement that has been rejected by guys for not being a natural female and having scars, even tho the scars are barely visible.....
so yeah, how would you feel about having sex with people with scars ? can you see beyond the scars or are they just a turn off ?