Terms of Endearment between Men

[tenni]

I am wondering what bimen are comfortable with another man speaking to them in terms of friendship/affection?


Are you comfortable with a woman referring to you as “hun”, sweetie, “loverboy” etc. but unsure how you want to be addressed by another man?


I noticed a few men use terms of endearment regardless of the gender of the person that they are referring to. Are you more comfortable referring to another man/lover/fuck bud/fwb in more masculine manner such as "stud", "dude", "bud" or ?


Where is your comfort zone in this respect?

[darkeyes]

dunno bout otha countries, tenni... but from wot I have seen up here guys tend 2 ridicule m8s, brothas, dads, lovers gay or bi most of the time.. wot they do in pvt havent a clue... prob just as well. Much of it is macho... how much? Haven't a clue... dusn't matta wot they say 2 each otha surely.... wot mattas is they had fun and when it's rite.... they care an' show respect 2 each otha...

[jem_is_bi]

I am in a long time relationship and care for him very much, but, "hun" and 'sweetie" definitely does not work for either of us. I would feel very uncomfortable being called that. Actually, I would not like it at all.

[Realist]

I'm with Jim.

I've always treated male lovers like friends in public, using our names and/or maybe "Buddy" sometimes. I'm not comfortable with flamboyant displays of affection in public, no matter who I'm with.

My longest same-gender relationship was over 10 years and nothing we said to each other ever resembled attention getting language.

Even with a gay lover, in a relationship that lasted 7 years, we maintained the same demeanor.

I have seen outlandish language and attitudes, exhibited by some couples, but I'm uncomfortable under those circumstances. I prefer a more unobtrusive and polite existence, personally.

Being somewhat introverted, flamboyance is not part of my makeup...nor of anyone I'd be attracted to.

[Newly_Bi]

I wouldn't mind pet names. I think they're cute.

[jem_is_bi]

Do you both live together? If you do not then you are not in an actual relationship or partnership at all, and are just fuck buddies. Your profile says you want to hook up with other people so yeah you are both just fuck buddies and nothing more even if you do both live together. You know nothing of our relationship and I would never discuss it with someone like you. You just make comments like this in complete ignorance of facts. While I feel it is necessary to confront this nonsense; insults from you do not make me feel bad.

[rickoyler1969]

I would not be comfortable, due to not wanting everybody to know I am Bi, I only want those of a like mind knowing ! !
Rick

[jem_is_bi]

Now your insulting my neighbors and assuming they know nothing of our relationship. How stupid is that?

[elian]

You can usually tell when someone using a term of endearment is being sincere (which I don't mind) or if they are being condescending (which I mind a lot).

[tenni]

I wouldn't mind pet names. I think they're cute.

Yes, I think that the pet name idea can work. I know a cross gender couple (man & wife) and they use the term "bubby" for each other. I had never heard of it before and never asked its origin. I can see if the pet name is unique and rare but would you be comfortable with the pet name "sweetie" from a guy Newly Bi?

darkeyes
Yes, men on both sides of the pond may use a put down nick name amongst close friends or even male siblings. That is not quite the same as two guys in a sexual relationship but I can see it working for two guys if affection is understood lies beneath the "nick name" i.e. penis breath. dickhead etc. over sweetie, darling, hun etc. I had two friends in school who were male identical twins. One gave the other the nickname "firehose" because he was the twin that was uncircumcised and the other twin brother was circumcised as a means of parents being able to identify the different identical twins as infants. ;) As far as I know the twins were heterosexual and so there was only sibling affection between them.

[Newly_Bi]

Yes, I think that the pet name idea can work. I know a cross gender couple (man & wife) and they use the term "bubby" for each other. I had never heard of it before and never asked its origin. I can see if the pet name is unique and rare but would you be comfortable with the pet name "sweetie" from a guy Newly Bi?


If it's a guy I'm dating, then I don't see why not. We want equality right? well what's more equal than being called pet names by both genders. Honestly, if I'm in a relationship with a guy or were FWB, I would rather be called pet names than names I would get called with the guys. Being treated like one of the guys puts me in the bro's mentality and I lose all attraction the the guy(s). I don't want the guy fucking me to be my bro. I want him to treat me like his babe.

[DoneGone275]

I would love to hear those words of affection from a woman but never a man! But I am a straight guy with curiosity with men so naturally my view point maybe this way. I can't stand the thought of kissing a man or being affectionate with one. My attraction to men is completely different then my attraction to women although my desire to please someone sexually is the same. With a woman it is more like being intimate with her soul, and with a man it is only about giving him pleasure, nothing more.

[cuttin2dachase]

I enjoy passionate kissing, touching, stroking and body contact as foreplay with men almost as I enjoy it with women. I love it when either gender calls me 'baby' and I have often called my male lovers 'baby' or 'loverboy' while playing in bed. Darling, sweetheart, honey, and other such terms of endearment only sound right to me when I'm with a woman LOL

[bibliss]

I may be in the minority on this, but I'm the type who LOVES terms of endearment with my connections with other men, and seek it out whenever possible.

By far, the best sex I've ever had with men includes gentle words of tenderness and long intimate eye contactmixed with our passionate kissing and aroused embrace. Words like: "You're so beautiful when you're aroused," can send electricity down my spine.

I love when my man friend compliments me on my oral skills with tender appreciation. I love how we men talk and share sweet memories of sex with girlfriends, how sex felt and smelled with our past female lovers, memories that linger for a lifetime it seems. It's so refreshing to find how we men share a longing, for intimacy and connection, that transcends being "gay," "straight" or "bi."

[elian]

I am enamored with (attracted quite easily to) men who are kind, loving, respectful, who are at least occasionally assertive, have an active interest or libido (some sort of desire - in a respectful way)..it is so easy to fall in love with these types of men. I am turned off by men who are overly arrogant, angry, aggressive, unpredictable, dishonest on a routine basis.

Hmm, I guess I could say the same thing about women too but with men it's just second nature. Women, I automatically sort of view as sisters - so they really have to make their intentions known for me to pick up on anything.

[Realist]

My mother was aghast that my dad's favorite term of endearment was "sonofabitch"...sometimes shortened to "sumbitch"!

as in:

To an old friend, "Hey, Roy, where have you been, you old sonofabitch?"

About a tree that died, "Lightening must've hit the sonofabitch!"

Someone who drove erratically, "What's the matter with that sonofabitch"?

A puppy, "Aw, you're a cute little sonofabitch!" (finally, an accurate name for a male dog!)