demac
Oct 16, 2013, 11:02 PM
Hey everyone. I just came out as bisexual to my girlfriend recently and though she's not exactly comfortable with it she's said she'll learn to deal with it. We're on the rocks right now (not because of my sexuality) and it got me to thinking of an old co-worker/best friend of mine ok....
(This is long)
I've pondered every now and then as to whether if he had a thing for me or not and I often wonder "what could have been..." here's some things that made me wonder...
1.) He ALWAYS followed me everywhere, we often went out to lunch together, several times he would try to adjust his schedule so he would end up working the whole day with me
2.) He texted me all the time and told me his girlfriend was starting to get mad at him for texting me a lot, I think at one point she thought me and him were fooling around as I overheard a phone conversation he had with her
3.) There was this girl I liked and he made it a point to flirt with her in front of me like he was trying to make me jealous
4.) Another girl I liked he was playing around with her saying "I know someone who likes you, he's real good looking and has a twinkle in his eye and eligible"
5.) Got mad at me for no reason (at least he didn't tell me why) and didn't talk to me for weeks, then when he found out I was leaving the job he acted as if nothing happened and then on my last day got mad at me again and didn't even say goodbye to me
6.) A couple of times he went out to smoke and instead of wearing his jacket, he grabbed mine and wore it.
7.) Had an opportunity to get a ride home from a girl who would have boinked him but he instead chose to ride home with me.
8.) His girlfriend woke him up out of his sleep one time to ask him a question and half asleep he responded by saying my name.
9.) We bickered constantly and people would always tell us we were like a married couple, one time someone was giving me a hard time and he interfered and said "you better leave my b*tch alone!" after that he realized what he said and his face got all red
10.) he would go through phases where he was really close to me and seemed to enjoy my company then go through a phase where he would be kind of distant and withdrawn
11.) We could sit and talk and laugh for HOURS
12.) He would act real manly and macho in front of other guys but when it would just be me and him he would go into a woman-like state where he was real sensitive and get on a personal level
13.) I was on a date (which he knew about) and kept texting me all throughout the date and I even had to step outside at one point because he was starting to call me.
(There's so much more but I've already babbled enough)
Now here's some things that didn't make me wonder:
1.) One time a girl asked me and him for a hug and it turned into a group hug but then he backed away and said to me "I ain't hugging you!", another time he got sick and threw up and I patted his back and he got mad and said "don't touch me!"
2.) He constantly talked to me about girls he slept with and would describe it in graphic detail
3.) Had/still has a girlfriend
4.) After I left that job I only heard from him a few times and he'll act like he wants to get together then I'll never hear from him afterwards.
He's the only guy I've thought of being with and willingly would be with so I don't know if this is my mind getting the best of me or what. I try to forget him all the time but it's so useless especially when he's contacting me every other 6 months and when I go through phases where I dream of him constantly.
(This is long)
I've pondered every now and then as to whether if he had a thing for me or not and I often wonder "what could have been..." here's some things that made me wonder...
1.) He ALWAYS followed me everywhere, we often went out to lunch together, several times he would try to adjust his schedule so he would end up working the whole day with me
2.) He texted me all the time and told me his girlfriend was starting to get mad at him for texting me a lot, I think at one point she thought me and him were fooling around as I overheard a phone conversation he had with her
3.) There was this girl I liked and he made it a point to flirt with her in front of me like he was trying to make me jealous
4.) Another girl I liked he was playing around with her saying "I know someone who likes you, he's real good looking and has a twinkle in his eye and eligible"
5.) Got mad at me for no reason (at least he didn't tell me why) and didn't talk to me for weeks, then when he found out I was leaving the job he acted as if nothing happened and then on my last day got mad at me again and didn't even say goodbye to me
6.) A couple of times he went out to smoke and instead of wearing his jacket, he grabbed mine and wore it.
7.) Had an opportunity to get a ride home from a girl who would have boinked him but he instead chose to ride home with me.
8.) His girlfriend woke him up out of his sleep one time to ask him a question and half asleep he responded by saying my name.
9.) We bickered constantly and people would always tell us we were like a married couple, one time someone was giving me a hard time and he interfered and said "you better leave my b*tch alone!" after that he realized what he said and his face got all red
10.) he would go through phases where he was really close to me and seemed to enjoy my company then go through a phase where he would be kind of distant and withdrawn
11.) We could sit and talk and laugh for HOURS
12.) He would act real manly and macho in front of other guys but when it would just be me and him he would go into a woman-like state where he was real sensitive and get on a personal level
13.) I was on a date (which he knew about) and kept texting me all throughout the date and I even had to step outside at one point because he was starting to call me.
(There's so much more but I've already babbled enough)
Now here's some things that didn't make me wonder:
1.) One time a girl asked me and him for a hug and it turned into a group hug but then he backed away and said to me "I ain't hugging you!", another time he got sick and threw up and I patted his back and he got mad and said "don't touch me!"
2.) He constantly talked to me about girls he slept with and would describe it in graphic detail
3.) Had/still has a girlfriend
4.) After I left that job I only heard from him a few times and he'll act like he wants to get together then I'll never hear from him afterwards.
He's the only guy I've thought of being with and willingly would be with so I don't know if this is my mind getting the best of me or what. I try to forget him all the time but it's so useless especially when he's contacting me every other 6 months and when I go through phases where I dream of him constantly.