allow me to vent.......

[NjbiGuy01]

I know it's old news....but man, I am tired as F*ck of people who engage me in e-mail exchanges, trade pictures, maybe talk on phone, maybe even go as far as to meet me for a beer or coffee and tell me "how I'm a nice guy and I really think we can have some fun..."...and then they vaporize !! One dude here simply stopped logging in and certainly not responding. One dude from Craigslist and I had some nice discussions, seemed like a great fit, and he simply stops writing !! Last week (6 months since last e-mail) write me with "hey dude, whats doing... ?"
It's happened here, Craigs, and a few other places.....man, this just gets freaking tired........:yikes2:

[Young pussy and dope]

In my experience if someone tries to email me for more than a month or they take things way too slow and keep playing the game of emailing you, sending pics, or are "discreet", and what the OP is describing I figure they are a game player and move on. I also do not get with people who are married and cheating. Have you tried going to a gay bar or LGBT bar or dance club and actually meeting people?

[VZR1800]

Happened tom e today, late this morning. Talking with a fellow over at Manhunt, was to come around at 11 am this morning. So I awoke early, and took a nice hot bath, something I do not normally do that early. He never showed and has not even logged in on the site, even though he told me last night to watch for him this morning. It's typical bullshit on just about every site. Sucks.

Happened last Saturday as well, same site. a guy pmed me about getting together Saturday evening. I provided him my cell number as he said we should keep in touch. Next day, Saturday, he was logged in all day. Never responded to anything I sent him asking about that evening.

Fucking asshats.

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[Paul B.]

It's been my experience of late that Craigslist is rife with spam bots & staight dudes who are dudes are doing the endless emails game for a laugh with friends.

[Gearbox]

You can can lead a horse to water....:rolleyes:

I got used to the 'no shows' long ago, but it still buggers your night up a treat. I only half expect some to show up, so am only half disappointed when they don't, and doubly thrilled when they do.lol
Yes you can get "I'll do anything for you!", "You can do what you like with me!", "I can't wait to meet you!"....yada yada.. But that's BEFORE they have a wank and forget all about you.:rolleyes:

Try not to take it personally! Happens to us all.

[Plumhead2]

For some people, exploring their bi-side, for whatever reason, is very scary. I wonder if some of the people that don't show up really want to, but at the last moment get cold feet (or some other body part!). The emailing and meeting and all might just be a way to try to build up the confidence to meet in real life, but that last step is quite daunting. Maybe not all those people who don't show up are just players, but rather people who want to explore, but still haven't gotten to the point of having the right resolve. It would be great if these people would be honest and let you know when they don't show up, but maybe they are too embarrassed.

[switchitter2]

That`s why I`m really just window shopping here...reading forum stuff, commenting on pics, profiles..feels nice to meet other bisexuals (online)with no guilt...but as for actual meetups..I just encounter other "buddies" in the real world..many many women and men love all kinds of sex and they are living right in your neighborhood(if you`re in the city)..your local "Y" is loaded with naked bodies to view and enjoy.nice to see before you buy eh?...no hanky panky there, tho, respect the wonderful "Y" and have fun with your new bud somewhere else..I do,often..such nice fellow sex lovers there,.. having a JO/BJ session with another"bi married" gentleman tonight as a matter of fact.( his wife knows and dosen`t mind). te he:tongue:

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

You'll find that a lot, Sweeties. Some people love the idea of having a same sex fling..until they jack off, then the person that caused their fire has to take a stand back...and thats So unfair to that person. But..welcome to the wonderful world of cyber hook-up's..:(
Better luck next time, Darlings.:}
Hugs
Cat

[by~his~side]

I don't get it either, NJ. Cause you are so very easy on the eyes:love87:!!!

[NjbiGuy01]

I don't get it either, NJ. Cause you are so very easy on the eyes:love87:!!!

you are too kind.... :love87:

[NjbiGuy01]

[QUOTE= Have you tried going to a gay bar or LGBT bar or dance club and actually meeting people?[/QUOTE]

I am truly tempted, but being married and discrete, it scares me a bit. I may at some point give it a whirl.

[jem_is_bi]

For some people, exploring their bi-side, for whatever reason, is very scary. I wonder if some of the people that don't show up really want to, but at the last moment get cold feet (or some other body part!). The emailing and meeting and all might just be a way to try to build up the confidence to meet in real life, but that last step is quite daunting. Maybe not all those people who don't show up are just players, but rather people who want to explore, but still haven't gotten to the point of having the right resolve. It would be great if these people would be honest and let you know when they don't show up, but maybe they are too embarrassed.

I agree with your thoughts on this.
I have had no show and back out more often than those that follow through and meet.
We need to consider how meeting us would put them in precarious circumstances and lead to suspicions of significant others in their lives.
So, I really hope they eventually get to experience what they need to achieve inner peace without losing what they have that is equally important.
It is my impression that only a few are weird people that get thrills from game playing.

[biblkman]

Plumhead... I agree with you 100%

I was the same, I chatted online with a couple bi men and backed out without any notification, before I man'ed up met and had sex with a guy I met online.

Most of those guys are curious and want it bad but the fear of being found out cause them to back out ...among other things, some people have to lead up to it and it may take a few attempts and if your one of those failed attempts its probably not your fault and they don't intend to play games just inexperienced and cautious,

[NjbiGuy01]

Well, I have seen a neighbor (a parent of kids my kids went to school with) at an adult bookstore once. It was a little awkward, but we avoided eye contact, and he eventually left. I never saw him after that in school and the parents divorced anyway. It's a weird dichotomy: While it would be cool to play with a friend or someone you knew, on the other had you're worried if someone finds out your into this stuff....I always had visions of a married friend and he and his wife and my wife and I were all pals, and nobody knew we were playing...but that's a little off the hook I guess.... I did once discover a neighbor on Craigs list (on my blocK) looking for daytime encounters at his house !! Man, that was a wild thing to find out...

In any case, i would be less bothered if someone simply e-mailed and said "hey, i changed my mind...". I hate being left hanging...and horny. Oh well, there's always my massage buddy....Although he costs money, he's there when he says he will be... :)

[Zippak]

I have been reading the postings on this thread, and decided I would respond. I am a newbie on this site; have had some, but not many, m-m experiences. I am exploring some old desires, and wish I might been more aggressively active in my explorations. Ok...to my point: I have explored Craigslist; I also live in a state where we are hearing about Craigslist Killer(s) or people being harmed by someone who posted on Craigslist. I am sure you all have read about such cases in your areas. Secondly, in this day and age of video and camming, I do see this as a way to get to know the other person or couple, in the comfort of one's safe environment. I do think one has to be up-front from the get go about that. What does get me are those who put on their profile that cam-cam is acceptable but do not follow through or want an immediate meet. I speak for myself, as a married male who has the blessing from his wife to explore, but wants nothing to do with it, it is a step out of the ordinary but one I am willing to take once some sort of comfort level is established. I feel there are others feeling the same way.