Bicurious (F) and new...looking for friends with advice

[edenindiana36]

I am very curious about being with a women. I am married and my husband has no idea that I feel this way. I thought I'd check it out first and see if I like it before letting him know. I have had these feelings for a very long time. I wonder if I would like it or not.

[biandu]

Do you think your husband would be open about it.. at all?



being curious.. imo.. is natural.

check out the site. meet some other bi-curious folks.. chat a bit..
get a feel for the community. so far, i've experienced welcoming words and informative posts.


enjoy the boards.

[littlerayofsunshine]

Hi edenindiana36. Welcome and nice to meet you.

[Driver 8]

You obviously have to find out for yourself ... but I will say that I've known a lot of people who had fantasies for a long time before they got some hands-on experience, and none of them found out they didn't like it once they tried.

That said - if by "check it out" you mean getting involved with another woman without telling your husband, I do encourage you to think carefully about the consequences should he find out. It sounds like you want to be sure about your feelings before doing anything that will affect your relationship with your husband - but cheating will also affect that relationship. :2cents:

[arana]

Hi Eden, welcome to the group. You must have some ideas about how your husband feels about same sex issues. You didn't say how long you have been married.

As driver said, the consequences of satisfying your curiousity could cause you to pay a high price in the long run. The most innocent of actions could cause you to lose someone you love. Please think about it carefully.

[little clown]

Hi edenindiana36,

Welcome to the forum!

Take care,
Dani

[jenniferhell@hotmail]

welcome to the family hope you can be cofortable in here as we all are its a nice place to belong to i feel i have a better understanding of my wellbeing and preferance i love this place hope you will too :three: :yinyang: :grouphug:

[Lisa (va)]

Hello and welcome Eden.

Sex can be marvelous when shared with either a man or a woman. But I must agree with Driver and Arana about the 'checking it out'. Chat with some of the folks here and get a better understanding of your desires and do talk to your husband.

Lisa

hugs n kisses

[edenindiana36]

Thanks all for the warm welcome and your advice.

I know I need to talk to him about it and will maybe sometime soon. I think he'll be more open to the idea than I think. Found a magazine here recently that had a lot of girl on girl stuff. I knew he had the playboy stuff, but not this one. Doesn't bother me cause I have looked at it too...heehee! We use to be more open about the whole sex thing while dating the sexy naked pictures and everything, but since we married 14 yrs ago and had two children things have changed big time.

[BiDallasCouple]

As a man, although bi, I'd have to say that you do need to talk to him before you "check it out" for yourself. I, myself, have always had the rule that if she wants to have sex with ANYONE other than me whether its male OR female, that she tells me about it first... and gives the details after... hehe. But I can't stress the fact that you DO need to talk to him first. That may be a fantasy of his to watch, or participate {be careful with this choice}, but make sure that he knows that if you DON'T like it, it may not happen again and he needs to be ok with that as well. Thats my opinion. Good luck. JD

[Avocado]

The main advice I can give you is don't do anything behind his back, whether he'll find out or not.