3 ways?

[rack61]

My wife wants a 3-way with another woman; how does that get started?

[Realist]

I'd suggest that you both sit down and write down what you would want, to fulfill her/your desires, then see about finding someone who fits the profile best.

It may take a while, but if you jump in, at the first choice, you may not be as pleased as you thought. Sounds like you both need to do some planning, set parameters, and have an agreement before you proceed. I'm sure you understand that jealousy can be a killer, too, so that's something you both need to review.

If you settle for less than you want, you will never be satisfied. I know!

[NjbiGuy01]

Most of the success depends on everyone involved knowing EXACTLY what each wants and expects. I've had some very fun and successful threesomes, and I've had a few trainwrecks. Swinging, and bisexuality are not always hand-in-hand nor the "same thing". One couple and I enjoyed a lovely time until his wife and I started playing, and he was upset because "it wasn't about that". While he and I did play, and did have fun, she liked the idea of MM play with me, and he didn't. Nice folks, and I wished things had worked out (seriously), as there were many things we would have explored if it continued. It truly comes down to all being on the same page. Another couple and I (that had no limits like that), played regularly for over 2 years...see what i mean ? :). So, if you expect to watch, or expect to play with the woman, and your wife (and the woman) are ok with that, there are lots of fun things to experience.

Hope you guys make it work, as it can be truly amazing when it does.

[by~his~side]

Good advice, NjbiGuy. You're a wise man.

~D~

[innaminka]

As Mrs Beeton wrote in her recipe for Jugged Hare .......... First, find your woman!

after that, let what happens happen.

[NjbiGuy01]

Good advice, NjbiGuy. You're a wise man.

~D~ Awww, thanks ! ;)

[shyer]

I wouldn't mind a 3 way with two other bi men, I have enjoy 3somes with mfm and like to try two cocks:tongue:

[NjbiGuy01]

I wouldn't mind a 3 way with two other bi men, I have enjoy 3somes with mfm and like to try two cocks:tongue:

Indeed, on the bucket list for sure.....

[hudson9]

Hands down my biggest fantasy. MMF, MFM, or MMM. Getting from the fantasy to the reality -- ah, there's the rub!

[bityme]

My wife wants a 3-way with another woman; how does that get started?

BY EVERYONE TAKING THEIR CLOTHES OFF!!

Seriously, there have been some very good comments already. Your profile indicates that you have each had experiences, but not together. If she is still in contact with her prior playmates she might consider contacting them to see if any of them are interested.

NjbiGuy gave some good advice. I would only add that you and your wife should be on the same page before contacting the third party. Will the threesome be unplanned, going with the flow? Or is she thinking of certain roles for each person. Does she want to be the center of attention or does everyone have the chance? What does she want your interaction with the other woman to be? Working this out ahead of time will avoid later problems. You will also have something to tell the third party who will, no doubt, inquire about your expectations about the liaison.

Keep us posted on how things work out.

Pappy

[ErosUrge]

I'm going to approach this from the person being asked to participate. It's something that couples often don't consider when they ask someone to join in. And though you're seeking a woman, my guess that some of my points would also be appropriate for a woman being asked too...

I had my first 3way experiences with men and enjoyed most of them because things happened as they unfolded without planning. When I was finally able to fulfill my fantasy of being with a man and woman at the same time, it was a different scenario. Since it was my first time, I didn't mind that the couple directed what we did and suggested the positions and angles we played in...since it was all new to me, I was a bit nervous but at the same time very excited as I was finally having a fantasy come true. We got together a total of 3 times before they moved away...all in all, it was good.

As time went by, I was able to be with other male/female couples. What I learned was that I didn't always enjoy having someone direct or arrange what we would do in advance. To me, the best way to go about it for total enjoyment is to just let things happen and flow...I think one reason why couples want to direct things is they want to fulfill the fantasies and desires they've talked about with each other; and I understand that. I don't mind that maybe once, but if I get together with that same couple again, I want things to simply happen as they will. To me, the experience is just so much more enjoyable. Though you are the guest and want to comply, I think it is important that the couple realize you are more than just an item for their pleasure only.

Some couples just don't understand this and feel since they've asked you to join in that it's all about them...when a person does connect with a couple that isn't this way, it is so much more enjoyable for everyone.

As has been pointed out already, couples do need to be on the same page with each other about what they want and completely secure with each other too for all the reasons already mentioned. I just wanted to add the point that in time if the person being asked to join in continues getting together with you both, that their desires and needs are met too. Again, at least for me, I think the more enjoyable situations are where you're treated in such a way that you're not just an accessory to only the couples' pleasure...

[welickit]

My wife wants a 3-way with another woman; how does that get started?

This question pops up here and on other sites all the time. There is always one thing missing. It isn't the wife who is pursuing the threesome, it is the husband posting and pursuing it.

If a woman is truly interested, you don't need to explain it to her or go on a hunt for her. She will accomplish the task on her own. There are single bisexual women who frequent this site and seldom or never post in the forums. We can assure you first hand that if they are interested, they will contact you. If your wife is truly interested, she will make it happen without someone else acting on her behalf.

Eros Urge - You present another common issue. Get rid of your nervousness and be yourself. Don't be afraid to gently make suggestions. Relax and be yourself. If the couple doesn't listen when you speak, move on. Them not listening is a good indication you aren't a good fit or they are totally self centered. Nervous the first few minutes is normal, walking a tightrope to be included isn't.

[mike1]

I'm 90% gay and scored with a hot bi guy recently who asked me if I'd be interested in getting with him and a luscious woman friend of his. I jumped at the chance, maybe a little too hard - he asked me to share my bi fantasies with him, I did, and I haven't heard from him since! The fantasies weren't out of the ordinary, so it's hard to imagine that I freaked him out. He's married, though (to a woman), and I think he does this sort of thing on the sly. I expect that has a lot to do with his sudden disappearance.

Anyway, I would still love to try my first ever threesome with a guy and a woman. Not sure what the best avenue of approach is.