Sex twice a week

[bikiniman]

My wife and I recently made a decision (her suggestion) to have sex twice a week (Tuesdays and Fridays) to try to rekindle our sex life. Prior to this we were having sex no more than once a month over many years. I was constantly fantasizing about having sex with men and to be honest was contemplating cheating on her. I have told my wife about my sexual orientation but there is no way she would accept me having sex with another man.

The sex twice a week started off slowly and felt very forced and awkward but after two months our sex life is blossoming and is better than it has been for 10 years. There are some times when neither of use really feel like having sex but once we get started it turns out to be very enjoyable (whats not to enjoy!). Whilst I still fantasize about sex with men most of my fantasies are about my wife. Maybe one day she will open up to the idea of a threesome?

Whilst I it doesn't sound very romantic I highly recommend making the time and making a commitment to have sex with your partner. If I had cheated on my wife it would have ultimately ended our marriage.

[LastGent]

Well, you have definitely had some more positive experiences than other men in this situation. Keep us informed.

[reddc513]

Well, you have definitely had some more positive experiences than other men in this situation. Keep us informed.

this is a great idea for people who kinda burn ouy to say itin a way.... My husband and i manage like 4x a week but we have talked that if we gert to a point we not having sex we will try this idea

[Long Duck Dong]

I would make it spontaneous if you can, IE instead of just bedroom sex..... do it in the shower or in the lounge.....

lol not everytime you do it... but every once in a while, to add that extra lil *energy * to the love making.....

[kutag]

Well done you are both giving it a go,it may seem a bit set in it's way but you could both use this to bring in new things into your sex life.Butt plugs,strapons if she knows you would like some bum play.I wish I could do this with my wife but she is tooo str8,and I am very bored,she will not do anything.
As Ned Kelly said such is life.

[*pan*]

yep, sex is like exercise, the more you do it the more it gets easier to do. i have sex with the wife almost every day to every other day, beside the men i see. and i found if you just sit and wishing about it , well you know the old saying wish in one hand and crap in the other and see which one fills first. i have had bouts of depression and other things but force my self to have sex with the wife even if not really wanting it at the time and in time i find i want it with her more. sometimes we think too much instead of just doing it. glad to hear that you have found out what i have known for a long time. and this is my :2cents: to this post :bipride::tong:

[bidirectional]

Same boat as you Bikiniman. Though my wife "sort of knew" about my dressing and bi-tendencies for many years I finally came out to her explaining my feelings. It took her a while to make some sense of what I told her though she still doesn't understand it all. She has been supportive so far but our intimacy has been affected to this point.

I am also in therapy which is helping me to sort it out and deal with my feelings but I still have some strong desires to be with the same sex. Whether that happens or not I don't know. I am trying to rekindle my sexual relationship with my wife too to help curb some of those other desires but it may never go away.

They say that some fantasies are best to remain that way. But ohhh, the desires that it conjures up... I am working to "redirect" that energy towards her as it can help to fuel my desire for her. I married the woman I cared about to be with. I am obligated to her, that I owe her that much to try and make it work.

GL to both of you on making your relationship stronger.