Same old problem.... the elusive Bi female

[parageneric]

We have enjoyed many 3 somes, we have enjoyed fmf,ffm,mfm however the problem ewe encounter has been with mff some of the females seem confused or unable to enjoy them selves because of female on female contact has anyone else encountered this is there solution ?

As a little history Iam straight , the wife is bi so she enjoys female to female contact

[keefer201]

This is no different than two men getting uncomfortable if their swords cross. I'm not sure how either of these situations would occur if all involved parties were conversing with one another. In other words, how does a hetro woman end up in bed with a m/f couple with one being bisexual and the invited guest has no idea of it? I've dealt with all sorts of situations with multiple partners and not a once did any invited guest not now, whether straight or bi, what the situation was. To note; if someone who was on the guest list and was not into same sex contact, then that persons wishes were respected and the fun ensued.

[welickit]

We could understand someone being a little nervous on a first meeting. That is normal but usually doesn't last long. You seem to be experiencing it frequently and with more than one individual. In that you say some of the females it indicates more than one. The answer to the problem isn't to be found here. Obviously each of those females have an issue with you or something you are doing that causes them to not feel comfortable.

[Jobelorocks]

Well my hubby and I once got together with a couple, thinking that the woman was bi (according to their phone calls, texts, and emails) and he was straight. When we got together though, she was really bored when it came to playing with me, wouldn't let me touch her breasts, was really boring kissing, and was horrible at eating out (she only like gave my pussy pecks while she stuck one finger in my pussy without even giving a courtesy wiggle, lol). When she was doing stuff with her hubby or mine though, she was loud and super into it. I don't think she was really bi, I think she was coerced by her husband. We only ended up sleeping with them the one time. We just have trouble snagging a real single bi lady, most are fake on the dating sites and the real ones are well, not our type.

[keefer201]

ya theres a solution, dont invite people who arent bi to a bi threeway.

Does this really require a poll? And since when are bi females elusive.

That's the answer in a nutshell. :cool:

[keefer201]

Well my hubby and I once got together with a couple, thinking that the woman was bi (according to their phone calls, texts, and emails) and he was straight. When we got together though, she was really bored when it came to playing with me, wouldn't let me touch her breasts, was really boring kissing, and was horrible at eating out (she only like gave my pussy pecks while she stuck one finger in my pussy without even giving a courtesy wiggle, lol). When she was doing stuff with her hubby or mine though, she was loud and super into it. I don't think she was really bi, I think she was coerced by her husband. We only ended up sleeping with them the one time. We just have trouble snagging a real single bi lady, most are fake on the dating sites and the real ones are well, not our type.

Jobe, may I suggest trying www.swinglifestyle.com I'm outside Manhattan and between NJ, the five boroughs and LI there are literally hundreds of fine looking bisexual females. I won't even get started on the people from Staten Island. I swear there's something in the water there as everyone seems to be super horny.

[darkeyes]

This is no different than two men getting uncomfortable if their swords cross. I'm not sure how either of these situations would occur if all involved parties were conversing with one another. In other words, how does a hetro woman end up in bed with a m/f couple with one being bisexual and the invited guest has no idea of it? I've dealt with all sorts of situations with multiple partners and not a once did any invited guest not now, whether straight or bi, what the situation was. To note; if someone who was on the guest list and was not into same sex contact, then that persons wishes were respected and the fun ensued.

When I was 20, I met a very sexy couple in Newcastle on a mucky weekend (yep Geordieland was fun then 2).. sexy guy, sexy girl.. gorge in fact.. we chatted danced and flirted like no 1s biz.. Fran wos turned on and wanted badly 2 enjoy me lil self with them.. and dont mean by goin 2 the bingo.. her accent wos enough 2 make me just gush and dancin close her scent made me worse... the evenin wore on and the guy nipped off 2 the loo.. night time fun an games wer close:bigrin:...

I looked at the girl and she started acting very quietly as if she was going into herself and I could see there was summat wrong.. the penny dropped.. I asked her straight out.. "Do u want to do this?" She sat and said nothing so I was a bit more assertive.. and said "U dont do u? This is for him isnt it? This is his idea!!!" or words to that effect.. I could see the tears well up in her eyes and knew that she was doing this cos it was what he wanted not her.. I always did look out for tell tale signs of reluctance in girls and women espesh when a mff 3some was a possibilty.. they became so obvious with her that here was a straight girl who was going to do anything for her bf.. so I got up, patted her hand an smiled an' sed "its ok..." then wandered back to me m8s gave one the guys the nod an a quick briefing and as lover boy walked back from the loo we started snoggin... I could feel his eyes burnin the back of me neck very critically but also could feel the relief inside of his gf that she wasnt going to have to do something she didnt want to just to please him.. as they left the club she mouthed a ty and smiled.. he glowered at me as I hugged me m8..

Bi girls are not a rarity where I live..or in Newcastle even now.. they were a bit more so back a dozen years ago in that they weren't quite so open as now.. but if we want a same gender encounter we want it with someone we will have fun with and will enjoy it.. in a 3some or ne otha kind of encounter.. 2 end up with one who is not truly at least bisexual is a selfish imposition on her sexuality.. something all 2 many guys forget and as far as possible always refused 2 play their lil game soon as I sussed it.. if I saw the signs I backed off.. sometimes u dont even need a rudimentary knowledge of body language to read the signals which say.. God.. please dont...help me get out of this..

[keefer201]

When I was 20, I met a very sexy couple in Newcastle on a mucky weekend (yep Geordieland was fun then 2).. sexy guy, sexy girl.. gorge in fact.. we chatted danced and flirted like no 1s biz.. Fran wos turned on and wanted badly 2 enjoy me lil self with them.. and dont mean by goin 2 the bingo.. her accent wos enough 2 make me just gush and dancin close her scent made me worse... the evenin wore on and the guy nipped off 2 the loo.. night time fun an games wer close:bigrin:...

I looked at the girl and she started acting very quietly as if she was going into herself and I could see there was summat wrong.. the penny dropped.. I asked her straight out.. "Do u want to do this?" She sat and said nothing so I was a bit more assertive.. and said "U dont do u? This is for him isnt it? This is his idea!!!" or words to that effect.. I could see the tears well up in her eyes and knew that she was doing this cos it was what he wanted not her.. I always did look out for tell tale signs of reluctance in girls and women espesh when a mff 3some was a possibilty.. they became so obvious with her that here was a straight girl who was going to do anything for her bf.. so I got up, patted her hand an smiled an' sed "its ok..." then wandered back to me m8s gave one the guys the nod an a quick briefing and as lover boy walked back from the loo we started snoggin... I could feel his eyes burnin the back of me neck very critically but also could feel the relief inside of his gf that she wasnt going to have to do something she didnt want to just to please him.. as they left the club she mouthed a ty and smiled.. he glowered at me as I hugged me m8..

Bi girls are not a rarity where I live..or in Newcastle even now.. they were a bit more so back a dozen years ago in that they weren't quite so open as now.. but if we want a same gender encounter we want it with someone we will have fun with and will enjoy it.. in a 3some or ne otha kind of encounter.. 2 end up with one who is not truly at least bisexual is a selfish imposition on her sexuality.. something all 2 many guys forget and as far as possible always refused 2 play their lil game soon as I sussed it.. if I saw the signs I backed off.. sometimes u dont even need a rudimentary knowledge of body language to read the signals which say.. God.. please dont...help me get out of this..

This is part of the reason why I have trust issues when it comes to men. I do my very best to police my motives so as not to corrupt my actions. Men are some of the sneakiest peckerwoods known to the species, and this part is especially egregious. It speaks volumes to your charactre as opposed to his, as he was obviuosly looking to play his g/f in order to get his ya ya's off. What is even more offensive of this guys gall, is the fact that his woman must have told him what had happened (like he really needed to pee, more like time for you two girls to canoodle) and he still doesn't see where he was wrong, but is so selfish that he is blaming you for it. Sex is one of the most powerful actions that men and women experience in life, and to play with it like it were dolls to children, is something that can leave one with a very bitter taste for it.

[parageneric]

Well my hubby and I once got together with a couple, thinking that the woman was bi (according to their phone calls, texts, and emails) and he was straight. When we got together though, she was really bored when it came to playing with me, wouldn't let me touch her breasts, was really boring kissing, and was horrible at eating out (she only like gave my pussy pecks while she stuck one finger in my pussy without even giving a courtesy wiggle, lol). When she was doing stuff with her hubby or mine though, she was loud and super into it. I don't think she was really bi, I think she was coerced by her husband. We only ended up sleeping with them the one time. We just have trouble snagging a real single bi lady, most are fake on the dating sites and the real ones are well, not our type.

I know when we talk to the females the seem to be all into it, we always meet in a public place and our moto is no expectations no pressure maybe we have had some that just werent sure, not all of the women we have met have been this way. I am pretty uygly that could be it LOL

[Jobelorocks]

Jobe, may I suggest trying www.swinglifestyle.com I'm outside Manhattan and between NJ, the five boroughs and LI there are literally hundreds of fine looking bisexual females. I won't even get started on the people from Staten Island. I swear there's something in the water there as everyone seems to be super horny.

That is what we use acutally. I am in a little more conservative area and there are tons of single straight guys, a whole lot of couples, but few bi females. Also it is hard to find attractive people in my area...I miss Los Angeles. le sigh.

[Rhevan]

I'm reading this and then looking at profile then reading more comments and just wondering why you don't let your wife pick up a lady to play with if SHE wants the female on female action. The way it's written it seems that you want your threesomes to go the way of many poorly written porn dramas to increase YOUR satisfaction. I'm sorry if I'm misreading it, but that is what is coming across to me.


Rhevan

[Jobelorocks]

I'm reading this and then looking at profile then reading more comments and just wondering why you don't let your wife pick up a lady to play with if SHE wants the female on female action. The way it's written it seems that you want your threesomes to go the way of many poorly written porn dramas to increase YOUR satisfaction. I'm sorry if I'm misreading it, but that is what is coming across to me.


Rhevan

Well didn't get that at all from what he wrote. I am a bi wife of a straight hubby and honestly I would feel uncomfortable doing sexual things with another woman without him present. Each couple is unique and works in their own way. My hubby and I only play with others with the other present, just because we like to explore our sexualities together. I like seeing my husband do things with another woman (well I would enjoy seeing him with a man as well, but he has no attraction to them, so I won't ask him to do something against his sexual nature) and he enjoys seeing me with other men and women. We have a very happy and fulfilling sex life and we wouldn't want it any other way.

[Long Duck Dong]

females like guys, are not always into oral sex ( giving / recieving ) some may be more into toys and kissing....

saying a female is bi, doesn't mean that they are interested in some sexual things, in the same way that not all bi males are into giving / recieving anal sex.....

a person saying they are bi is one thing, what they enjoy sexually, is another.....

[parageneric]

Well didn't get that at all from what he wrote. I am a bi wife of a straight hubby and honestly I would feel uncomfortable doing sexual things with another woman without him present. Each couple is unique and works in their own way. My hubby and I only play with others with the other present, just because we like to explore our sexualities together. I like seeing my husband do things with another woman (well I would enjoy seeing him with a man as well, but he has no attraction to them, so I won't ask him to do something against his sexual nature) and he enjoys seeing me with other men and women. We have a very happy and fulfilling sex life and we wouldn't want it any other way.

You guys are much like us, we have the rule that we both be present, I would never ask her to so anything she isnt ok with. She is very shy, I am a type A personality, so we mix good. She is shy and is afraid to approach alot of women until she feels more comfortable. after I have talked with the female and we have become comfortable with each other.

Rev sorry you read wrong, my enjoyment comes from watching my wife enjoy herself, I do enjoy sharing another woman with her but the whole thing depends on having the experience together. that is why we dont swing with couples, we want to be together and have fun

[dman82]

Never had a 3 way with my wife. She is only courious and a little afraid to try if she even wants to try. But the times I have in the past with a ex-gf we made sure we knew the person male or female was comfortable in all aspects before doing anything.

[CalanderGirl]

I love the fem/fem contact... To me it isn't the sex of my partner that gets me off... its how things feel with them, their reactions, my body's reactions and so on.

Hopefully you find what you're looking for!

[nudistharry]

I know several local bi females. Some are openly bi, but most are not. For some reason, I can easily meet a bi woman but can't meet a bi man.