Do "tomboys" end up being lesbians?

[JinJan]

I was just wondering...I was looking at a catalog that sells sports wear for women. These are hard core athletes...very fit, and, I am sure, many would consider themselves, tomboys...I include myself in that category (not a hardcore athlete, but a tomboy...lol).

It got me to wondering...now that I consider myself to also be attracted to women, I wondered about my "tomboy" label. I don't know if this is the right forum to ask this question, but I thought I would give it a chance. Also, I apologize if I offend any tomboys on this site, with my question...I am just curious. Thanks in advance! JinJan.

[littlerayofsunshine]

Tomboy here, A girl rough around the edges, I don't give a fuck about high fashion, Don't have a bazillion pair of shoes. I can count on one hand how many skirts, high heels and dresses I own (But own lots of nice lingerie *grins*).I wear make up probably 4-7 days out of a month. Because I feel I don't need it. Im allergic to perfumes, so no Chanel for me. Tyra who? Please! I don't mind getting dirty, I like fishing, and watch football. Granted I got into the sport mostly so hubby wouldn't ignore me 4 months outta of the year. But None the less, I have to respectfully disagree with you that tomboys are lesbians.

How I dress has nothing to do with my sexuality or how I exude it, I turn as many heads in bluejeans and a camisole as I do in a pencil skirt and a nice pair of wedges *IDK if those are even in style cause ...*refer to line two of first paragraph*.

Probably the worse part of being a tomboy for me is.. Hubby never has a clue as to what to get me for my birthday or christmas. LOL.. But thats alright.. A man loves to be kept on his toes, never let him give up the chase *Grins*

On the bifemale front. I think, and maybe its based on societal roles for women, but women tend to feel in more control of themselves and the men around them if they are stacked, racked and jacked to the 9's. But they feel more submissive to a tomboy. That has been some of my experience.

Of course Maybe its because I'm not so attracted to looks and am drawn to personalities. So the cloaks don't work on me and there in lies the chase again.

well that about sums up this buzzed writing. Its friday night and the world is supposed to end tomorrow, I have had a hell of the last two weeks, Casey Anthony's Jury finally got selected so, Imma celebratin..

Cheers!!

[Maggot]

People said I was a tomboy, still do. I love tinkering with engines, riding my motorbike, getting my hands dirty isn't a problem. But, I love clothes, the feel of the fabrics, I love shoes almost to the point of fetish (OK - so it is a fetish), can't usually be bothered wearing make up, hair is cut so it doesn't need a lot of messing about with (wash, shake, allow to dry - done).

I'm not keen on sports ie. football, cricket, rugby that sort of stuff, I like sports that involve engines and of course pole dancing, the competitive kind, which I do. I guess I would fall into the hardcore athlete category.

I do the things that make me happy, I keep fit the way that is best for me (pole dancing) and I wear things that make me comfortable.

My best bisexual female friend is the girliest of girlies, takes her hours to get ready to go out, even if its just for pizza, she has enough trouble getting the petrol in her car let alone doing anything else to it (I check the tyres, oil etc for her), I don't know what half the stuff on her dressing table is for.

I don't think being a tomboy has anything to do with sexuality - it's more about what makes me happy and comfortable being me.

[sammie19]

No more than fashionistas like myself grow up to be straight. Some do, some don't.:)

[Wrenn]

I'm not a lesbian and I'm not bi but I am definitely a tomboy. Always have been.

[JinJan]

Your replies confirmed in my mind, that being a tomboy, and being a lesbian, are two completely different entities...thanks! It is a good lesson for me to learn! I have, in the past, felt as the two of you girls, who responded, feel...I guess I just got turned around in my thinking, lately...thanks again!

As for being a tomboy myself...I love that I can be as "expert" about a basketball game, or almost any other sport, as a guy, can...I know it always surprises the guys! In fact...it is my strong interest in sports, which is the common element, for my hubby and I (we went bowling for our first date)...we love watching, and discussing the games together. Ditto, as the other lady said, re. shoes...I might own two pairs of heels, and those are for extreme occasions only...now, I MIGHT go a little crazy when it comes to my tennis shoes! LOL

Anyway...thanks again...tomboys ROCK! JinJan.

[IndyBiFun]

I had to add to the conversation.

I'm not a tomboy but I have always been really attracted to tomboys.

I think they are fun, adventurous and darn cute.

Just my 2 cents.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

I'm Still a TomBoy but Im not lesbian. I blame having 5 brothers and several male cousins who wanted to turn the second to the littlest girl in the brood into a boy. I didnt turn out Gay, I just turned out Bi...lol

I as rough and tumble as any man, and more woman than Some men can handle in this lifetime Or the next(few)
I'm soft, warm, and satiny smooth on the outside, hard as nails on the inside. My old Southern voice can be as silky and provocative as a phone sex operator's, or can cut you like a K-bar. Depends on the time and circumstances.
I look like a woman, and think like a man, and thats scary..
Again, I blame my brothers...lol :bigrin:
Cat
Normally warm and cuddly

[innaminka]

Definitely not a tomboy here - but definitely lesbian.
But I wasn't a dolly femme either.

I will agree however that amongst women who are active in elite sport at elite levels, there does appear to be a higher percentage of lesbian girls than in the general population.

not a scientific fact just from some observations and articles.

[Realist]

This reminds me of a couple of twin sisters I knew, years ago.

One liked climbing trees, riding horses, camping out, fishing, etc, etc. Adept at mechanics, she built herself a '31 Model A hot rod. I helped her with some fabricating and welding, but she did most of the rest, herself. She usually wore jeans, a sloppy t-shirt, and cut her hair short....probably because it was easier to get up in the morning and hit the floor running. That sister was a "tell it like it is, straight-shooting, no nonsense girl", who was one of the most fun girls I knew, back then. Hey, she liked old cars, how bad could she be?

Her sister was NOT one to get "ICKY" on her hands and never left her bedroom unless every hair on her head was in it's rightful place. They both were pretty, but the "Proper" one, I admit, was hot-looking. She only dated jocks, or guys who's families were wealthy.

The rumors were that the Tom-boy was gay...."Why else would she dress like that?" they'd say. No one ever thought the proper one was anything but straight.

Hell, if the Tom-boy had been gay, or bi, I probably would have liked her even more!

I have no knowledge of either one being anything other than they seemed....
which was straight.

But, it was scandalous to spread rumors, especially when I doubt if anyone knew the reality.

[ballerbeauty]

well from my expearence, i'm on the fence about it. i've always always been very very girly... on the outside. i wear lots of jewerly, make up, and my hair is very long. but i'm an athlete. a division one college athlete. on top of that, i've always had some "guyish mannerisms" you know, opening doors for people, being the provider, lol being the man in the relationship (even when i'm dating a guy). you could say i break the mold, or there really is no mold. u choose.

[redheadchick]

I've always wondered about that question growing up. I am a lesbian and I would consider that I was a tomboy growing up, but now my sense of style is completely my own: one day, I wear girl's clothes, the next day I wear guy's clothes, another day I wear both...I don't think clothing has much to do with sexuality as people have said, but it can be an indicator. I played soccer when I was younger, I love horseback riding, and I would be awesome on a US football team, but I don't consider "sports" clothes equal to "tomboy" clothes at all. I get dirty ;) and I take pride in my scars and rough hands, but all that just makes up who I am. I know some straight femme girls who are not afraid to do the things I do...except be with a chick. Lol. But clothing, activities, and sexuality have little to nothing in common--they are just correlated and an indicator to finding out who you are and what you enjoy.