any advice for a new bi female on picking up other females???

[foxxsinn]

Does any one have advice on picking up a bi female?? I told my hubby that I was bi but have never done anything with a female besides making out. I would love love love to get with a female and put on a good.... no great show for my hubby.

Can any one give me any advice on how to find this lucky lady??
Like seriously if im out in public or out at a bar how in the help can you tell? I would hate to spot a gal make some type of a pass and find out shes straight and look like an idiot. Like I said im newly bi and kinda lost. And I can use all the help I can get and making new friends is a plus



-foxxsinn

[Long Duck Dong]

the flashing neon sign over their heads ???? :tong:

are you looking for a one off encounter, or a on going friendship with benefits... for yourself or as a threesome on a semi regular basis.....

now I am not a lady... so its gonna come down to the ladies themselves about what they would look for / be interested in / seeking from you... and we have a number of ladies in the site with fantastic advice.....

while I have a good gaydar ( ability to pick people out as LGBT ) its been a lot easier for me to meet people cos I am out as a bisexual so often people seek me out, unfortunately for them, I do not do the casual hook up thing lol

so my advice as a male, is look at LGBT bars or even a few profiles in the site here.... and take your time....

personally, if I was a lady, I would be interested in more than just a quick shag for a guys pleasure, I would be interested in getting to know you better too and possibly a on going friendship ( with or without benefits ) but I am not a lady...lol

*gets off the couch and lets the ladies sit down with their excellent advice *

[foxxsinn]

Hahaha thanks for replying to my post :D
What I want is a friends with benefits kind of thing. I would feel safer if we had a friendship to go off of so I can get to know the person and know that they are also clean.

[sammie19]

Best is to go where lesbians hang out. Where there are lesbians you will usually find bisexual women. If there are no such places close to you there are plenty of hook up sites on line. Women advertise also in newspapers and magazines.

A friend of mine studies body language and is usually not far off the mark. I have little such skill but occasionally I have come across women in cafes, malls and on buses and trains who make it glaringly obvious that they are interested. It happens most often in "straight" clubs and pubs. It then becomes a case of believing your luck, returning the interest and having the confidence to take advantage of it. I have often missed out because I couldn't believe or missed the signals which another woman was giving out.

[welickit]

First thing you said is the worst thing you could say. Put on a show for your hubby. It shows absolutely no feeling and no respect. You want a piece of meat to use. Try an escort service. Sorry to be blunt but you asked.:2cents:

[Argentum]

My experience has been that if I have a crush – I have a crush. Yes it’s possible that she is straight just as it is possible she doesn’t like you (even if she is not straight). That’s true with any kind of dating – you never know if it’s going to work.

[happy_bi_blonde]

Be yourself, i can usually tell if someone is into women, it's just a feeling I have. To me there is nothing wrong with wanting to have fun with the husband, but it's important you click with her first. Swinger clubs are great to meet other people. Good luck in your new adventure :)

[TaylorMade]

First thing you said is the worst thing you could say. Put on a show for your hubby. It shows absolutely no feeling and no respect. You want a piece of meat to use. Try an escort service. Sorry to be blunt but you asked.:2cents:

I RARELY agree with welickit, but I cannot emphasize this enough!! As a single bi woman, nothing makes my pussy drier than this. You have to accept that I may not like him at all, while liking you platonically/sexually and that's just it. I'm not a USB cable you pick up at best buy. I'm not a trained seal.

Now, don't get me wrong, I have been with couples. but I've been attracted to both the guy AND girl and liked them both, but it comes down to taking him out the equation an really making it about HER. If you make it about HIM, you will lose HER.


*Taylor*