coming out

[darth_harrington05]

i am just recently coming out of the closet slowly. I have gotten more and more tips on how to coming and things like that. But the people im worried about are parents and friends (that are homophobic)

i know some parents say no matter what you are or who you are with we will always love you but sometimes that doesnt add up to me unless i hear it.

so question out there to everyone.

what are some good ways to come out :tongue::bibounce:

[Long Duck Dong]

honestly and carefully....... coming out to the WBC is not a wise move.... lol nor do we suggest it

regardless of if you know or not if a person is homophobic or not, people can always surprise you by revealing a hidden agenda......

my parents are anti lgbt, they will talk with lgbt but behind closed doors, they are anti lgbt in attitude and speech.... something that amuses me cos I am bisexual and I caregive for a elderly gay man.....

I have the simply attitude that not everybody is gonna like you or accept you for what ever reason..... so do not expect them too... cos we are the same, we do not like or accept everybody else.....

so my advice is simple.... think about why you are coming out, who you want to come out to.... and if you are ready to come out......

I have dealt with many people over the years that have decided they needed counselling cos not everybody accepted the fact they are LGBT... and often my first reaction has been to ask, were you telling the people that could be affected by your relationships... or were you just telling people cos you could.....

personally I am of the mind that when coming out, nothing should change.... you are still you, you did not grow a extra foot or grow two cocks etc..... all that has changed is that people are now less likely to be shocked by you bringing your bf home along side ya gf, to meet ya parents....

unfortunately.... that doesn't always happen..... cos what generally does happen is a change in you.... its like the chains are broken off, you are free of the cage, and suddenly, every body is fair game for you and your sexual desires ... and that is where suddenly your partner is left in the corner.....

[Realist]

First of all Darth, welcome to the site. There are lots of answers and opinions, here, but ultimately YOU are the only one who can decide what's right for you.

However, let me run a few things by you.

1. Why do you feel the need to come out to your parents, or anyone you're not intimate, or potentially intimate with? Would you want to know about THEIR sex life? I assume that you do not....I certainly didn't want to know about my parents' sexual details. My personal thoughts are; I would never volunteer that information to anyone who do not have a reason to know. Both of my parents are gone, now, but they never knew that I was bisexual. I can't imagine their reactions if they'd known!

2. I would be honest with my potential lovers, definitely! They have a right to know. I have told a few, very close and trusted friends, too...that's it. The area in which I live is NOT a friendly place for anyone of the LBGT ilk. In a more liberal location, I'd feel less nervous about being out as bisexual. The ones who NEED to know, do know, and they're the only ones I feel obligated to tell.

3. Ultimately, you should do what you feel is best for you. You know more about how those around you will react. There's as many theories about what you should do as there are people.....so my only advice is to act with your conscience.

Good luck!